Metro historically has only done 17 Travel and 17 North, which seems to be what they're doing this year. South, Central, and East haven't had a dedicated 17s teams in years (if ever) so that's not new. I think MOCO had advertised a 17s team this year, but perhaps they didn't have enough girls tryout. MOCO didn't do 16s last year because when Coach Amy left to start Academy much of the team went with her so they ended up pulling most of the 16s that decided to stay with MOCO to last year's 17s team. |
Our experience has been different. DD who is still in HS (also have a vball-playing older sister now in college) doesn't do more outside of practice and games (during high school season) and practice and tournaments (during club season). She really doesn't do anything more, and she's good, she's very good, but to watch from the sidelines at tryouts to me she's not an obvious "OMG she's a superstar!" type. She's good, but so are so many other girls. I really wasn't sure what was going to happen this past weekend because to me she looked good but I wasn't sure she was standing out. But she did get an offer at each tryout (well 2 offers and 1 "We are close to making you an offer but where do we rank in your choices?" which ended that offer because she was honest). Point being, for both of our DDs (older DD in college now but when she was in middle & high school playing vball), neither of them did much outside of practices and games/tournaments. And both always got an offer, as did many of their "not doing extra" friends. I'm NOT saying "So you must be doing something wrong"; I'm just saying it may be way more of a crap shoot than about extra effort because actually, neither my DD's nor most of their friends do more outside of their school season and club season. They are very serious about playing, but they aren't out doing a million extra practices and clinics and going to pre-tryout clinics for every club they want to try out for. And they both looked good but not great and btw neither are taller than 5'7". |
More like "Thanks toxic chemicals in clothes, daily products and food"... unfortunately. |
Is this some sort of humble brag trying to make us feel worse? What is the point of this? |
TRUTH! DD got 2 offers for U15, and both mentioned her attitude and energy (as well as skill). I noticed that and it was enlightening because I only watch skills when watching tryouts (where parents are allowed to watch). |
No, it's not a humble brag. It's saying our experience was not that only girls who do more outside of practices and tournaments get offers. DD also wasn't pre-selected, didn't go in known. I said it because it's also important NOT to have a bunch of girls who already do more thinking they still haven't "done enough more". Some of this feels like luck of the draw, and that's what our experience has felt like, so I was just pointing out that it was different and we know others who had similar experiences. We also know many who were shut out, a favorite player from DD's club team last year who is amazing (we watched her at her school this fall) and she was shut out. It sucks completely and we have no idea how that happened. It just seems like more chance than being all about invite-only clinics and practicing every single waking moment. |
I’m sorry, humble brag PP, but 5’7” is tall. If you’re that height it doesn’t take much. When you’re 5’2” you need to be short and nimble and doing somersaults on the floor and super jump setting to get an offer. |
Fair enough. And also, I did re-read my original post and it does sound like humble bragging. I apologize. I really just wanted to emphasize the level at which for some of us it's seemed like bizarre chance, for better and for worse. Not that our girls and all other girls didn't work hard - they worked their butts off. But we also know amazing players that struck out, and players we were surprised got offers over others who were in the same tryout. |
Fair enough. And also, I did re-read my original post and it does sound like humble bragging. I apologize. I really just wanted to emphasize the level at which for some of us it's seemed like bizarre chance, for better and for worse. Not that our girls and all other girls didn't work hard - they worked their butts off. But we also know amazing players that struck out, and other players we were surprised got offers over others who were in the same tryout. I guess really my point is we stopped looking for it to all make sense. Grateful where we're lucky, but heartbroken where amazing skills and effort seemed not to be the bottom line. |
Sorry for double post. |
I didn’t think you were humble bragging. We just have different perspectives. My daughter is 5’3. She does a lot of private training and went to as many clinics as she could possibly fit in. She’s a great player but looks sooooo short when she’s at tryouts. She is! She can’t help that. You don’t realize how tall 5’7 sounds to us. My daughter has to be amazing AND have some sort of relationship with a coach to maybe get an offer or maybe be considered as an alternative. By luck this year, she got an offer for a lower level team than she was aiming for and she is really happy. Tryouts and the time leading up to them are hard and stressful for many. |
It was a humble brag: my daughters don’t do any outside training but are so naturally good, so very good, that they get offers. So because of my tall, naturally talented daughters who always have gotten offers you could too!!!! Your post was awful. Read the room. |
Agree. Totally tone deaf. Wow. |
I did read the room, and apologized for the way my post sounded. And my daughters are not "naturally talented"- they worked their asses off in practices. My point was that someone made a declaration that didn't apply to many girls we've known: there are girls who didn't do all the extras and got offers, and sometimes we were all really surprised or confused about it. We've known incredible players that didn't get offers, and good but not great ones who did. I may have said it badly or come off badly, but 7 combined years of playing DMV club volleyball means we've seen a lot. You don't have to like this observation, but when one of the best players from DD's team last year didn't get any offers in this round and she is sooooo beyond great, no one understands it. There's a level of random in some of this and it felt important to point that part of our experiences out. |
No commentary on whether the post was tone deaf, but when starters or very good players from a team don't get offers the next year, there is sometimes more going on than what you see on the court. Are the parents constantly pestering the coach/club director about playing time or other issues? Sometimes clubs don't bring players back because of how parents behaved in the prior season. Did they pay all of their club fees last season? Many clubs allow for parents to make payments on a plan with future dated checks - I've heard of situations where parents "forget" to bring the checks and the club lets the kid continue playing without payment. Most club contracts state that a player will be suspended for nonpayment, but some club directors don't like to do that to kids and end up eating those costs. Did the player tryout for other clubs and the old club found out about it? This one is awful and petty, but I have heard of clubs not offering girls if they find out they were going to clinics or tried out at other clubs because of some perceived lack of loyalty. For everyone still waiting, keep in mind that offers out to other players expire tomorrow at 10pm, so hopefully the floodgates of offers will open for you. |