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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Monday Morning and my experienced u15 with two years of club under her belt and who went to 5 tryouts has zero offers. She’s shattered. She isn’t a rec level player. We don’t understand what happened. [/quote]
I keep telling my DD that it doesn't really matter what you do at practice, what really matters is what you do outside practice. These words of wisdom are not mine: I heard them one way or another from the mouths of experienced coaches. Club experience is irrelevant if all you do is show up at practice and tournaments. There are many players who work hard during practice, then go home and work even harder. The extra hours will eventually pay off because it will show in the way you move on the court. These are the players who really want to play volleyball and they will squeeze out those who simply show up for the social aspect (have fun with friends). All the players who are now left hanging need to understand that it will be even harder to make a team during the next season. My DD seems to have finally realized that this is the case, but I am still not sure if she is willing to put in the effort. [/quote]

Our experience has been different. DD who is still in HS (also have a vball-playing older sister now in college) doesn't do more outside of practice and games (during high school season) and practice and tournaments (during club season). She really doesn't do anything more, and she's good, she's very good, but to watch from the sidelines at tryouts to me she's not an obvious "OMG she's a superstar!" type. She's good, but so are so many other girls. I really wasn't sure what was going to happen this past weekend because to me she looked good but I wasn't sure she was standing out. But she did get an offer at each tryout (well 2 offers and 1 "We are close to making you an offer but where do we rank in your choices?" which ended that offer because she was honest).

Point being, for both of our DDs (older DD in college now but when she was in middle & high school playing vball), neither of them did much outside of practices and games/tournaments. And both always got an offer, as did many of their "not doing extra" friends. I'm NOT saying "So you must be doing something wrong"; I'm just saying it may be way more of a crap shoot than about extra effort because actually, neither my DD's nor most of their friends do more outside of their school season and club season. They are very serious about playing, but they aren't out doing a million extra practices and clinics and going to pre-tryout clinics for every club they want to try out for.  And they both looked good but not great and btw neither are taller than 5'7".  [/quote]

Is this some sort of humble brag trying to make us feel worse?  What is the point of this?[/quote]

No, it's not a humble brag. It's saying our experience was not that only girls who do more outside of practices and tournaments get offers. DD also wasn't pre-selected, didn't go in known.

I said it because it's also important NOT to have a bunch of girls who already do more thinking they still haven't "done enough more".  Some of this feels like luck of the draw, and that's what our experience has felt like, so I was just pointing out that it was different and we know others who had similar experiences.  We also know many who were shut out, a favorite player from DD's club team last year who is amazing (we watched her at her school this fall) and she was shut out.  It sucks completely and we have no idea how that happened.  It just seems like more chance than being all about invite-only clinics and practicing every single waking moment.[/quote]

It was a humble brag: my daughters don’t do any outside training but are so naturally good, so very good, that they get offers. So because of my tall, naturally talented daughters who always have gotten offers you could too!!!!

Your post was awful. Read the room. 
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