Does your community pool have a dress code?

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It doesn’t matter. As long as they can act like they are victims & men are evil, they will seize it.

Bingo

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Anonymous wrote:The sexist fashion industry is scamming women. They are designing bathing suits that are skimpy in the butt region. I don't even have a butt but I refuse to wear that garbage.

They are doing this to men as well. Making them with like 3 inch inseams and so tight and revealing!

According to most of the posters here, we should embrace men who go to public parks when children are there dressed like this.

*shrug*

Would you prefer separate parks for females and a way to certify someone is female?

No, i'd prefer adults not to be overtly sexual in places where children and families are gathering for recreation.

Like at a gym? Bc both men and women are nearly naked at certain gyms.

First of all, are they? I would like to apply to your gym for membership, this is intriguing.

Secondly, maybe your sex gym does things differently, but just for insurance reasons, nearly all gyms do not allow children under the age of 16.

So, no, not at all like a gym.

Have you been to a gym recently? Men are usually shirtless and wearing itty bitty shorts. And don’t get me started on the noises they make when lifting weights. Women are in skimpy sports bras and booty shorts. In full makeup.

And where are the children?

Waiting for conception

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Did anyone actually answer the question?

I don't think our pool has a dress code, certainly not written on their website, but I feel like I've seen a sign.

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DC DPR only says you must have appropriate swimwear, and "improper" swimwear will get you removed. https://dpr.dc.gov/poolrules

Explains the wild scene at Volta.

Teens in thongs aside, a lot of pools definitely have rules about teen boys wearing basketball shorts and boxers. Do people support that kind of dress code?

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Anonymous wrote:OP better not let your kids watch the Olympics!

The swimmers wear neck to knee suits. The handball and volleyball women protested about being forced into bikinis while the men wore t shirts and long shorts. Some gymnasts are wearing leggings particularly after the scandals of recent years. Some track athletes were protesting the skimpy running gear.

The worst pool for dress code is the Volta pool in Georgetown. College girls in things and weird leathery European men in tiny Speedo’s.

I’ll buy that women (and leathery European men) have the right to wear what they want and not be judged or ogled… in theory. But a lot of it, especially at Volta feels VERY performative. A portion of these people are there to be seen and display themselves, and not specifically in a flasher kind of way, but they are full aware of how edgy their choice in apparel is.

And before I got moralized and shamed, I don’t even mind particularly if you do that - at a resort, at a beach, at a pool party… but sorry my 6yo doesn’t need to see your French speedo and we’re trying very hard to raise oir 11yo son with the understanding that women aren’t Barbie’s…

People should celebrate their bodies and feel comfortable and all that but in shared spaces you should be cognizant of other people. Babies shouldn’t be allowed to poop in pools and kids shouldn’t invade the lanes where people are doing laps and horny adults shouldn’t be using public pools for wowing the crowd.

TLDR, there are swimsuits that are skimpier than I would wear and that’s okay and there are swimsuits that are designed to be eye catching. Respect the audience.

The point is that some non-barbie girls want to wear bikinis too. Does that not show children that women arent barbies? That anyone should feel comfortable with their body and able to swim in peace?

Which is why I said people should be comfortable and I can accept that my definition of what is appropriate isn't necessarily what everyone should do, but not everything in the mind of vaping 20yo in a thong who has aspirations of being an Instagram sensation is appropriate for children. In fact, a lot of it is extremely demeaning to women... want to demean yourself on instagram or swing your Speedo in your backyard jacuzzi with your friends from the tanning salon? Go for it... but skip the public pool at school dismissal time.

Again and again, Americans prove my point of being prudes! Kids don't care unless you MAKE IT WEIRD.

Instagram and TikTok have made things weird.

The 20yo vaping and trying to vamp for the fraternity boys across the pool where my kids are learning to swim are making things weird. 20yos try to seduce each other all the time, and that's not normal, but you'd find it weird if they did it at a playground. A public pool after school is a playground. Save it for the bar or your frat's pool party.

No it’s not a playground. It’s a public park. There are old folk having chess tournaments and 20yos flirting and kids being hyper and toddlers screaming. You have no more right to tell the 20yos to dress differently than they have the right to telling my excited 4yo to shut up. It’s a shared space and everyone is using is for their own purposes.

And your 11yo can learn that girls aren’t Barbies if you teach him that girls (even girls in skimpy bikinis) are people with feelings and emotions and opinions too. In fact your posts sound like you’re currently sending him the message that he his respect for women can and should be conditioned on what they’re wearing.

NP - I have taught my sons to feel pity for girls who have been deluded by faux feminism and told to “empower” themselves by wearing revealing clothing. In reality, all they are doing is returning to the days when women were viewed as objects. Only now there is no mystery left. Those girls in bikinis might have feelings and emotions, but they are training the public to ignore their personality and focus only on outward appearance.

This rubs me the wrong way a little bit.

Yes it sucks when women and girls feel pressured to dress a certain way because they think that’s the only avenue to empowerment.

Do not assume that every woman in a bikini is a victim of society. Maybe she just likes the bikini and feels good about her body. It’s not her responsibility to train the public.

Teach your sons that women are people. No need to pity them. Treat them with respect.

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Anonymous wrote:OP better not let your kids watch the Olympics!

The swimmers wear neck to knee suits. The handball and volleyball women protested about being forced into bikinis while the men wore t shirts and long shorts. Some gymnasts are wearing leggings particularly after the scandals of recent years. Some track athletes were protesting the skimpy running gear.

The worst pool for dress code is the Volta pool in Georgetown. College girls in things and weird leathery European men in tiny Speedo’s.

I’ll buy that women (and leathery European men) have the right to wear what they want and not be judged or ogled… in theory. But a lot of it, especially at Volta feels VERY performative. A portion of these people are there to be seen and display themselves, and not specifically in a flasher kind of way, but they are full aware of how edgy their choice in apparel is.

And before I got moralized and shamed, I don’t even mind particularly if you do that - at a resort, at a beach, at a pool party… but sorry my 6yo doesn’t need to see your French speedo and we’re trying very hard to raise oir 11yo son with the understanding that women aren’t Barbie’s…

People should celebrate their bodies and feel comfortable and all that but in shared spaces you should be cognizant of other people. Babies shouldn’t be allowed to poop in pools and kids shouldn’t invade the lanes where people are doing laps and horny adults shouldn’t be using public pools for wowing the crowd.

TLDR, there are swimsuits that are skimpier than I would wear and that’s okay and there are swimsuits that are designed to be eye catching. Respect the audience.

The point is that some non-barbie girls want to wear bikinis too. Does that not show children that women arent barbies? That anyone should feel comfortable with their body and able to swim in peace?

Which is why I said people should be comfortable and I can accept that my definition of what is appropriate isn't necessarily what everyone should do, but not everything in the mind of vaping 20yo in a thong who has aspirations of being an Instagram sensation is appropriate for children. In fact, a lot of it is extremely demeaning to women... want to demean yourself on instagram or swing your Speedo in your backyard jacuzzi with your friends from the tanning salon? Go for it... but skip the public pool at school dismissal time.

Again and again, Americans prove my point of being prudes! Kids don't care unless you MAKE IT WEIRD.

Instagram and TikTok have made things weird.

The 20yo vaping and trying to vamp for the fraternity boys across the pool where my kids are learning to swim are making things weird. 20yos try to seduce each other all the time, and that's not normal, but you'd find it weird if they did it at a playground. A public pool after school is a playground. Save it for the bar or your frat's pool party.

No it’s not a playground. It’s a public park. There are old folk having chess tournaments and 20yos flirting and kids being hyper and toddlers screaming. You have no more right to tell the 20yos to dress differently than they have the right to telling my excited 4yo to shut up. It’s a shared space and everyone is using is for their own purposes.

And your 11yo can learn that girls aren’t Barbies if you teach him that girls (even girls in skimpy bikinis) are people with feelings and emotions and opinions too. In fact your posts sound like you’re currently sending him the message that he his respect for women can and should be conditioned on what they’re wearing.

NP - I have taught my sons to feel pity for girls who have been deluded by faux feminism and told to “empower” themselves by wearing revealing clothing. In reality, all they are doing is returning to the days when women were viewed as objects. Only now there is no mystery left. Those girls in bikinis might have feelings and emotions, but they are training the public to ignore their personality and focus only on outward appearance.

This rubs me the wrong way a little bit.

Yes it sucks when women and girls feel pressured to dress a certain way because they think that’s the only avenue to empowerment.

Do not assume that every woman in a bikini is a victim of society. Maybe she just likes the bikini and feels good about her body. It’s not her responsibility to train the public.

Teach your sons that women are people. No need to pity them. Treat them with respect.

Nobody is teaching their sons to pity girls in thongs. But girls in thongs are not appropriate trying to get Instagram famous are not appropriate at public pools.

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Anonymous wrote:OP better not let your kids watch the Olympics!

The swimmers wear neck to knee suits. The handball and volleyball women protested about being forced into bikinis while the men wore t shirts and long shorts. Some gymnasts are wearing leggings particularly after the scandals of recent years. Some track athletes were protesting the skimpy running gear.

The worst pool for dress code is the Volta pool in Georgetown. College girls in things and weird leathery European men in tiny Speedo’s.

I’ll buy that women (and leathery European men) have the right to wear what they want and not be judged or ogled… in theory. But a lot of it, especially at Volta feels VERY performative. A portion of these people are there to be seen and display themselves, and not specifically in a flasher kind of way, but they are full aware of how edgy their choice in apparel is.

And before I got moralized and shamed, I don’t even mind particularly if you do that - at a resort, at a beach, at a pool party… but sorry my 6yo doesn’t need to see your French speedo and we’re trying very hard to raise oir 11yo son with the understanding that women aren’t Barbie’s…

People should celebrate their bodies and feel comfortable and all that but in shared spaces you should be cognizant of other people. Babies shouldn’t be allowed to poop in pools and kids shouldn’t invade the lanes where people are doing laps and horny adults shouldn’t be using public pools for wowing the crowd.

TLDR, there are swimsuits that are skimpier than I would wear and that’s okay and there are swimsuits that are designed to be eye catching. Respect the audience.

The point is that some non-barbie girls want to wear bikinis too. Does that not show children that women arent barbies? That anyone should feel comfortable with their body and able to swim in peace?

Which is why I said people should be comfortable and I can accept that my definition of what is appropriate isn't necessarily what everyone should do, but not everything in the mind of vaping 20yo in a thong who has aspirations of being an Instagram sensation is appropriate for children. In fact, a lot of it is extremely demeaning to women... want to demean yourself on instagram or swing your Speedo in your backyard jacuzzi with your friends from the tanning salon? Go for it... but skip the public pool at school dismissal time.

Again and again, Americans prove my point of being prudes! Kids don't care unless you MAKE IT WEIRD.

Instagram and TikTok have made things weird.

The 20yo vaping and trying to vamp for the fraternity boys across the pool where my kids are learning to swim are making things weird. 20yos try to seduce each other all the time, and that's not normal, but you'd find it weird if they did it at a playground. A public pool after school is a playground. Save it for the bar or your frat's pool party.

No it’s not a playground. It’s a public park. There are old folk having chess tournaments and 20yos flirting and kids being hyper and toddlers screaming. You have no more right to tell the 20yos to dress differently than they have the right to telling my excited 4yo to shut up. It’s a shared space and everyone is using is for their own purposes.

And your 11yo can learn that girls aren’t Barbies if you teach him that girls (even girls in skimpy bikinis) are people with feelings and emotions and opinions too. In fact your posts sound like you’re currently sending him the message that he his respect for women can and should be conditioned on what they’re wearing.

NP - I have taught my sons to feel pity for girls who have been deluded by faux feminism and told to “empower” themselves by wearing revealing clothing. In reality, all they are doing is returning to the days when women were viewed as objects. Only now there is no mystery left. Those girls in bikinis might have feelings and emotions, but they are training the public to ignore their personality and focus only on outward appearance.

This rubs me the wrong way a little bit.

Yes it sucks when women and girls feel pressured to dress a certain way because they think that’s the only avenue to empowerment.

Do not assume that every woman in a bikini is a victim of society. Maybe she just likes the bikini and feels good about her body. It’s not her responsibility to train the public.

Teach your sons that women are people. No need to pity them. Treat them with respect.

Nobody is teaching their sons to pity girls in thongs. But girls in thongs are not appropriate trying to get Instagram famous are not appropriate at public pools.

Perhaps you missed the post pp was replying to:

I have taught my sons to feel pity for girls who have been deluded by faux feminism and told to “empower” themselves by wearing revealing clothing.

So yeah, people are literally teaching their sons to pity women in clothing she doesn't deem appropriate. It's disgusting. Just teach them to be respectful. But since pp isn't respectful herself, that's probably too difficult.

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At least it’s not men in thongs

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This thread honestly exemplifies why our society is falling apart. We used to have these things called "societal norms" which were intended so that the group as a whole could interact respectfully. Now, people see any restriction or even any comment about their personal behavior as "policing" and they believe that everyone else should "MYOB" and stay home or suck it up if they don't want to: see your naked body, listen to your cursing, watch you shoplift, smell your weed, watch you yell at or smack your child, cut in line, sit by your dog on the plane or have to use a shopping cart after your feces covered dog sits in it, etc.

Do people not understand that their behavior negatively impacts the experience of those around them, and that some, even a little bit of, personal restraint would make this world a better place for everyone, not just you?

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Anonymous wrote:At least it’s not men in thongs

Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.

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Anonymous wrote:It really sounds like we need to close the community pools. They are corrupting our young people and allow adults to act in prideful ways.

Is there a reason to have these pools in the first place?

When you study the history of such pools, racism is often a factor.

That settles it. Public pools should be permanently closed.

Yep. They're racist. Shut 'em down.

We've got trouble!
Right here in River City!
With a capital T
That rhymes with P
That stands for pool!

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I oppose pool dress codes. Those thong bikinis motivate my teen sons to spend the summer at the pool socializing and off video games.

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Anonymous wrote:I oppose pool dress codes. Those thong bikinis motivate my teen sons to spend the summer at the pool socializing and off video games.

I’m sure the dads love going to the pool as well. Their bathroom doors are probably locked shut for some selfie time after coming back!

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Mine just requires proper swimwear (meaning bathing suits, not street clothes). Never see people of any age wearing thongs. Cheeky coverage, yes, but that is the style now.

I wear a high cut bikini bottom (not quite cheeky but not full coverage either). I am short and this style is most flattering on me.

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My god, women have been wearing bikinis for decades. You parents telling your sons to pity the girls is the dumbest thing I’ve heard. I wore bikinis in my day, because I liked them.