Girlfriend Is Lazy

[Anonymous]

Look op she will not change. She has never had to clean up after herself. She thinks the magic cleanup fairies take care of everything(that’s you!). It will only get worst. You have talk to her about it and she could care less.
Move on. There are plenty of women who are not lazy pigs. This is why you date to see if you are compatible. If you have a good job and make decent money you have plenty of options. Do not settle.

[Anonymous]

This would be such a no for me honestly OP open up your eyes, you need to break up. Try having her help you cleanup or ask her nicely to tidy up after herself - see her reaction and then enjoy the fights and arguments and attitude and you won’t love everything about her so much anymore. A person like this has more flaws you don’t know about - discipline issues, disrespect issues, and narcissism issues.

[Anonymous]

Does she look like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend is incredibly lazy. She doesn’t cook and barely cleans. She is very messy. I cook and clean. I grew up with a military dad who taught me it was important to be independent and able to handle those responsibilities. I grew up doing my own laundry and cooking many of my own meals ( after school) since I was like 12. She grew up with a mom who did her laundry and always cleaned up after her. I do love her but I’m starting to really worry about being with someone who is so messy. I can look past the cooking, but never cleaning up after herself is irritating.

What’s your question?

OP here. There is not question. Many people on here post topics to complain without a question or asking for advice. I’m just to here to vent. That’s it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a slob before marriage and children. But never cleaning, like not scrubbing bathroom ever, never vacuuming, never cooking, oh that will never change. Will be hard for you with children unless you can afford a weekly housekeeper plus carryout for 4 every night for dinner. I'd bail unless you have a lot of money.

OP here. I have high HHI but I’m not going to rider out every night. First, it’s unhealthy, and secondly, I want to teach future kids how to cook. I don’t do all the deep cleaning but I do my own laundry, cook, load and empty dishwasher, hand wash dishes, and clean up the house. Her housekeeper does all of the deep cleaning. I was not a messy person and didn’t think I needed a housekeeper every week. I might have to if I want to make this work.

I don’t want to break up because it’s not a deal breaker for me. I love everything else about her.

It sounds like you aren’t compatible. What exactly do you like about her?

OP here. Well, she’s fit, hot, and has big boobs. She’s very good in bed! Besides looks and sex, she’s very passionate about her job. She’s smart, passionate, ambitious, fun, funny, adventurous, great with kids, enjoys the same hobbies, etc. She’s very kind and generous to everyone. She’s a good tipper ( even with poor service) and goes out of her way to be nice to those she cares about. My family and friends loves her. This is really her only negative I don’t like. It’s not a deal breaker, but it’s irritating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a slob before marriage and children. But never cleaning, like not scrubbing bathroom ever, never vacuuming, never cooking, oh that will never change. Will be hard for you with children unless you can afford a weekly housekeeper plus carryout for 4 every night for dinner. I'd bail unless you have a lot of money.

OP here. I have high HHI but I’m not going to rider out every night. First, it’s unhealthy, and secondly, I want to teach future kids how to cook. I don’t do all the deep cleaning but I do my own laundry, cook, load and empty dishwasher, hand wash dishes, and clean up the house. Her housekeeper does all of the deep cleaning. I was not a messy person and didn’t think I needed a housekeeper every week. I might have to if I want to make this work.

I don’t want to break up because it’s not a deal breaker for me. I love everything else about her.

It sounds like you aren’t compatible. What exactly do you like about her?

OP here. Well, she’s fit, hot, and has big boobs. She’s very good in bed! Besides looks and sex, she’s very passionate about her job. She’s smart, passionate, ambitious, fun, funny, adventurous, great with kids, enjoys the same hobbies, etc. She’s very kind and generous to everyone. She’s a good tipper ( even with poor service) and goes out of her way to be nice to those she cares about. My family and friends loves her. This is really her only negative I don’t like. It’s not a deal breaker, but it’s irritating.

OP here. The way she makes me feel is amazing. I’ve never felt so comfortable with someone. I feel so confident with her. She’s always supporting me. I love everything else besides her cleaning. Cooking really isn’t an issue since I like to cook. She can cook basic things but hates cooking.

[Anonymous]

My sister is was like this growing up and I was just the opposite.

If anything she is worse as an adult. The messiness won’t get better, it’ll get worse.

And mean! What she said about the housekeeper. Entitled.

Dump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Some examples are leaving food out in the counter all day long, never cleaning her dishes, leaving food and cups all over the place, leaving her makeup and everything all over the counters, leaving her clothes all over floor. I’m a very neat person and I’ve never dated someone so messy.

At a minimum she’s a slob and that won’t improve. At worse she has attention, awareness and executive functioning issues and that proliferates across everything (work, home life, raising kids, etc.).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look op she will not change. She has never had to clean up after herself. She thinks the magic cleanup fairies take care of everything(that’s you!). It will only get worst. You have talk to her about it and she could care less.
Move on. There are plenty of women who are not lazy pigs. This is why you date to see if you are compatible. If you have a good job and make decent money you have plenty of options. Do not settle.

Plus you’d think she’d have some pride and at least make an effort while dating. Then drop the act.

Be grateful she didn’t mask this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Some examples are leaving food out in the counter all day long, never cleaning her dishes, leaving food and cups all over the place, leaving her makeup and everything all over the counters, leaving her clothes all over floor. I’m a very neat person and I’ve never dated someone so messy.

OP here. Another thing is her awareness level is just not there. I will clean everything up ( doing it nightly) and she will eat a snack and leave everything messy again. When I ask her to clean it up, she acts bewildered like she didn’t even leave a mess.

I’m not super crazy but I do like a neat house. I make sure the kitchen is clean and things are nice and clean since I have a small condo and it can look messy easily.

Yikes, sound like autism or add.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m very clean myself and your situation would drive me crazy.
I think you should break up.

It’s just an insulting and disrespectful way to live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a slob before marriage and children. But never cleaning, like not scrubbing bathroom ever, never vacuuming, never cooking, oh that will never change. Will be hard for you with children unless you can afford a weekly housekeeper plus carryout for 4 every night for dinner. I'd bail unless you have a lot of money.

OP here. I have high HHI but I’m not going to rider out every night. First, it’s unhealthy, and secondly, I want to teach future kids how to cook. I don’t do all the deep cleaning but I do my own laundry, cook, load and empty dishwasher, hand wash dishes, and clean up the house. Her housekeeper does all of the deep cleaning. I was not a messy person and didn’t think I needed a housekeeper every week. I might have to if I want to make this work.

I don’t want to break up because it’s not a deal breaker for me. I love everything else about her.

It sounds like you aren’t compatible. What exactly do you like about her?

OP here. Well, she’s fit, hot, and has big boobs. She’s very good in bed! Besides looks and sex, she’s very passionate about her job. She’s smart, passionate, ambitious, fun, funny, adventurous, great with kids, enjoys the same hobbies, etc. She’s very kind and generous to everyone. She’s a good tipper ( even with poor service) and goes out of her way to be nice to those she cares about. My family and friends loves her. This is really her only negative I don’t like. It’s not a deal breaker, but it’s irritating.

Well, none of that is important after you have kids, except being great with kids when she sees some. After kids, she is exhausted, chubby, hair in greasy frizz bun, and no time for adventure or hobbies. Just work, get kids, dinner, laundry, homework, get kids ready for bed, you all bed. Every day. I can't even watch TV ever. I have no time. I don't even sit on our couch. I have 1 kid.

[Anonymous]

I grew up with a weekly housekeeper.

It’s one thing to not do your own vacuuming.

But unless you have a daily maid, you need to wash your own dishes once a day at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she look like this?

OH I loved this clip

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a slob before marriage and children. But never cleaning, like not scrubbing bathroom ever, never vacuuming, never cooking, oh that will never change. Will be hard for you with children unless you can afford a weekly housekeeper plus carryout for 4 every night for dinner. I'd bail unless you have a lot of money.

OP here. I have high HHI but I’m not going to rider out every night. First, it’s unhealthy, and secondly, I want to teach future kids how to cook. I don’t do all the deep cleaning but I do my own laundry, cook, load and empty dishwasher, hand wash dishes, and clean up the house. Her housekeeper does all of the deep cleaning. I was not a messy person and didn’t think I needed a housekeeper every week. I might have to if I want to make this work.

I don’t want to break up because it’s not a deal breaker for me. I love everything else about her.

It sounds like you aren’t compatible. What exactly do you like about her?

OP here. Well, she’s fit, hot, and has big boobs. She’s very good in bed! Besides looks and sex, she’s very passionate about her job. She’s smart, passionate, ambitious, fun, funny, adventurous, great with kids, enjoys the same hobbies, etc. She’s very kind and generous to everyone. She’s a good tipper ( even with poor service) and goes out of her way to be nice to those she cares about. My family and friends loves her. This is really her only negative I don’t like. It’s not a deal breaker, but it’s irritating.

Well, none of that is important after you have kids, except being great with kids when she sees some. After kids, she is exhausted, chubby, hair in greasy frizz bun, and no time for adventure or hobbies. Just work, get kids, dinner, laundry, homework, get kids ready for bed, you all bed. Every day. I can't even watch TV ever. I have no time. I don't even sit on our couch. I have 1 kid.

This is not all women. I know several moms who have multiple kids and are still attractive, fit, and fun. They go on regular date nights with their husbands. It’s important to have a strong connection before you have kids. That’s what keeps things going when kids are young and things are hard.