Girlfriend Is Lazy

[Anonymous]

Maybe she doesn't have ADHD, but I agree with PP that not noticing messes is very ADHD.

[Anonymous]

OMG this sounds like my 13 y/o DD

Wow

[Anonymous]

Omg! Break up.

[Anonymous]

She needs a richer boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She needs a richer boyfriend.

Like that would change anything lol. She’s a slob.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs a richer boyfriend.

Like that would change anything lol. She’s a slob.

They’re only getting their place cleaned twice a month!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs a richer boyfriend.

Like that would change anything lol. She’s a slob.

They’re only getting their place cleaned twice a month!

Most people do that.

[Anonymous]

I was a slob before marriage and children. But never cleaning, like not scrubbing bathroom ever, never vacuuming, never cooking, oh that will never change. Will be hard for you with children unless you can afford a weekly housekeeper plus carryout for 4 every night for dinner. I'd bail unless you have a lot of money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a slob before marriage and children. But never cleaning, like not scrubbing bathroom ever, never vacuuming, never cooking, oh that will never change. Will be hard for you with children unless you can afford a weekly housekeeper plus carryout for 4 every night for dinner. I'd bail unless you have a lot of money.

OP here. I have high HHI but I’m not going to rider out every night. First, it’s unhealthy, and secondly, I want to teach future kids how to cook. I don’t do all the deep cleaning but I do my own laundry, cook, load and empty dishwasher, hand wash dishes, and clean up the house. Her housekeeper does all of the deep cleaning. I was not a messy person and didn’t think I needed a housekeeper every week. I might have to if I want to make this work.

I don’t want to break up because it’s not a deal breaker for me. I love everything else about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs a richer boyfriend.

Like that would change anything lol. She’s a slob.

They’re only getting their place cleaned twice a month!

Even if you have a cleaner every day it's gross to leave food scraps out on the counter overnight for them to clean when they arrive. This is a gross way to live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a slob before marriage and children. But never cleaning, like not scrubbing bathroom ever, never vacuuming, never cooking, oh that will never change. Will be hard for you with children unless you can afford a weekly housekeeper plus carryout for 4 every night for dinner. I'd bail unless you have a lot of money.

OP here. I have high HHI but I’m not going to rider out every night. First, it’s unhealthy, and secondly, I want to teach future kids how to cook. I don’t do all the deep cleaning but I do my own laundry, cook, load and empty dishwasher, hand wash dishes, and clean up the house. Her housekeeper does all of the deep cleaning. I was not a messy person and didn’t think I needed a housekeeper every week. I might have to if I want to make this work.

I don’t want to break up because it’s not a deal breaker for me. I love everything else about her.

It sounds like you aren’t compatible. What exactly do you like about her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend is incredibly lazy. She doesn’t cook and barely cleans. She is very messy. I cook and clean. I grew up with a military dad who taught me it was important to be independent and able to handle those responsibilities. I grew up doing my own laundry and cooking many of my own meals ( after school) since I was like 12. She grew up with a mom who did her laundry and always cleaned up after her. I do love her but I’m starting to really worry about being with someone who is so messy. I can look past the cooking, but never cleaning up after herself is irritating.

What’s your question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Some examples are leaving food out in the counter all day long, never cleaning her dishes, leaving food and cups all over the place, leaving her makeup and everything all over the counters, leaving her clothes all over floor. I’m a very neat person and I’ve never dated someone so messy.

She sounds like a slob.

+1

Marry someone on the same page, OP. She is not the one. She sounds useless, since you asked. Anyone can spit out kids - find someone with a purpose in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs a richer boyfriend.

Like that would change anything lol. She’s a slob.

They’re only getting their place cleaned twice a month!

Even if you have a cleaner every day it's gross to leave food scraps out on the counter overnight for them to clean when they arrive. This is a gross way to live.

Then nag her about it or clean up after her. Or dump. But you’re never going to really change her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a slob before marriage and children. But never cleaning, like not scrubbing bathroom ever, never vacuuming, never cooking, oh that will never change. Will be hard for you with children unless you can afford a weekly housekeeper plus carryout for 4 every night for dinner. I'd bail unless you have a lot of money.

OP here. I have high HHI but I’m not going to rider out every night. First, it’s unhealthy, and secondly, I want to teach future kids how to cook. I don’t do all the deep cleaning but I do my own laundry, cook, load and empty dishwasher, hand wash dishes, and clean up the house. Her housekeeper does all of the deep cleaning. I was not a messy person and didn’t think I needed a housekeeper every week. I might have to if I want to make this work.

I don’t want to break up because it’s not a deal breaker for me. I love everything else about her.

So why are you here? And just a glimpse into your future your kids will be slobs just like her and you will spend the rest of your life in filth. This not a deal-breaker will become a huge issue when you are living in the daily waste of your wife and children. She can't clean up after herself now, do you think she's going to clean up after babies? Oh no my friend get used to finding dirty diapers and milk moldy bottles everywhere and waiting for your to clean at night. Kiss goodbye any vacations or other luxuries you dreamed of for your family because in order to keep your head above water you will be paying a pretty penny for round the clock cleaning. You'll start to resent that loss of money. You also won't be having much sex to offset .