Out of the blue email

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got out of the blue email from someone I had a relationship with 8y ago. Both married. “Misses talking.” How to respond?

Has this kind of thing happened to others here? I was so surprised, did not expect AT ALL.

This happened to me — a guy who I was crazy for but ultimately broke up with amicably. Different life paths, super young, etc. . Anyway, we had connected on FB years after we spilt up with no overtures, and then a couple of years later, he contacted me out of the blue with some really nice reminiscing. Both married for years, and the short back and forth was sweet and just…nice. Two months later, he had died. His death was shocking to me — I vaguely remember a heart issue when we were young — but I think he knew his time was up and he was reaching out one last time to somebody who was special at one point in his life. And I am forever grateful that he did, because it gives me comfort to know I wasn’t alone in how much the time we spent together meant.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got out of the blue email from someone I had a relationship with 8y ago. Both married. “Misses talking.” How to respond?

Has this kind of thing happened to others here? I was so surprised, did not expect AT ALL.

This happened to me — a guy who I was crazy for but ultimately broke up with amicably. Different life paths, super young, etc. . Anyway, we had connected on FB years after we spilt up with no overtures, and then a couple of years later, he contacted me out of the blue with some really nice reminiscing. Both married for years, and the short back and forth was sweet and just…nice. Two months later, he had died. His death was shocking to me — I vaguely remember a heart issue when we were young — but I think he knew his time was up and he was reaching out one last time to somebody who was special at one point in his life. And I am forever grateful that he did, because it gives me comfort to know I wasn’t alone in how much the time we spent together meant.

That is a sweet story. Its' a little strange that while you were having this exchange he never mentioned he was dying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got out of the blue email from someone I had a relationship with 8y ago. Both married. “Misses talking.” How to respond?

Has this kind of thing happened to others here? I was so surprised, did not expect AT ALL.

This happened to me — a guy who I was crazy for but ultimately broke up with amicably. Different life paths, super young, etc. . Anyway, we had connected on FB years after we spilt up with no overtures, and then a couple of years later, he contacted me out of the blue with some really nice reminiscing. Both married for years, and the short back and forth was sweet and just…nice. Two months later, he had died. His death was shocking to me — I vaguely remember a heart issue when we were young — but I think he knew his time was up and he was reaching out one last time to somebody who was special at one point in his life. And I am forever grateful that he did, because it gives me comfort to know I wasn’t alone in how much the time we spent together meant.

Sweet. Beautiful. And heartbreaking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's just trolling to get some. Don't.

Isn’t it ultimately up to OP? Hadn’t you considered: maybe she wants some?

[Anonymous]

OP:

What if I just reply, "Hi John, Are you still married?"

I know it's kind of abrasive but so is the reach-out if he's still married.

[Anonymous]

Meet for drinks ... catch up on old times ... could be fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got out of the blue email from someone I had a relationship with 8y ago. Both married. “Misses talking.” How to respond?

Has this kind of thing happened to others here? I was so surprised, did not expect AT ALL.

This happened to me — a guy who I was crazy for but ultimately broke up with amicably. Different life paths, super young, etc. . Anyway, we had connected on FB years after we spilt up with no overtures, and then a couple of years later, he contacted me out of the blue with some really nice reminiscing. Both married for years, and the short back and forth was sweet and just…nice. Two months later, he had died. His death was shocking to me — I vaguely remember a heart issue when we were young — but I think he knew his time was up and he was reaching out one last time to somebody who was special at one point in his life. And I am forever grateful that he did, because it gives me comfort to know I wasn’t alone in how much the time we spent together meant.

That is a sweet story. Its' a little strange that while you were having this exchange he never mentioned he was dying.

It may not have been an expected death. That is a sweet story. I'm glad you were able to have that closure.

[Anonymous]

I miss some of my exes. Some of them are pretty cool people, and it would be great to catch up every now and then. Doesn't mean I want to jump their bones (although I guess that would be fun too).

[Anonymous]

He doesn't "miss talking."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn't "miss talking."

IKR

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got out of the blue email from someone I had a relationship with 8y ago. Both married. “Misses talking.” How to respond?

Has this kind of thing happened to others here? I was so surprised, did not expect AT ALL.

He and his wife are having troubles, he's looking to cheat. It happens more than you think. WALK AWAY.

He wouldn’t be contacting OP unless he was divorced, separated, or looking to leave his marriage.

OP is separated.

Neither of them are divorced.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got out of the blue email from someone I had a relationship with 8y ago. Both married. “Misses talking.” How to respond?

Has this kind of thing happened to others here? I was so surprised, did not expect AT ALL.

He and his wife are having troubles, he's looking to cheat. It happens more than you think. WALK AWAY.

He wouldn’t be contacting OP unless he was divorced, separated, or looking to leave his marriage.

OP is separated.

Neither of them are divorced.

OP can ask the ex about current marital status. OP is separated—on the way to divorce already waiting for it to be final—that marriage is over…does not matter if the paper has not arrived in the mail yet at this point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got out of the blue email from someone I had a relationship with 8y ago. Both married. “Misses talking.” How to respond?

Has this kind of thing happened to others here? I was so surprised, did not expect AT ALL.

He and his wife are having troubles, he's looking to cheat. It happens more than you think. WALK AWAY.

He wouldn’t be contacting OP unless he was divorced, separated, or looking to leave his marriage.

OP is separated.

Neither of them are divorced.

OP can ask the ex about current marital status. OP is separated—on the way to divorce already waiting for it to be final—that marriage is over…does not matter if the paper has not arrived in the mail yet at this point.

It matters to people who aren't tacky. And OP should do her own research into whether he's married or not, that is if she cares about being the OW, she might be tacky like you and not care at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got out of the blue email from someone I had a relationship with 8y ago. Both married. “Misses talking.” How to respond?

Has this kind of thing happened to others here? I was so surprised, did not expect AT ALL.

He and his wife are having troubles, he's looking to cheat. It happens more than you think. WALK AWAY.

He wouldn’t be contacting OP unless he was divorced, separated, or looking to leave his marriage.

OP is separated.

Neither of them are divorced.

OP can ask the ex about current marital status. OP is separated—on the way to divorce already waiting for it to be final—that marriage is over…does not matter if the paper has not arrived in the mail yet at this point.

It matters to people who aren't tacky. And OP should do her own research into whether he's married or not, that is if she cares about being the OW, she might be tacky like you and not care at all.

It is not tacky. She is getting divorced. She can ask if he is single. btw, I did not date until I was divorced but I think it is fine if people do. The marriage is OVER. You basically have to live like you are divorced in many ways whlie separated anyway. My separation was YEARS long. Divorces can drag out.