What is sex like with your spouse after an affair?

Anonymous
^ yes. That’s what that means.

Lots of men want just sex. They will pay for it and/or be 300 for every 5 females on a sex dating app.

A Gigolo isn’t as lucrative or as available as a prostitute because women aren’t having just sex - wham bam here is $50.

More gay men are going for the gigolo than women.

Male strip clubs and private rooms are also nowhere, NOWHERE as prevalent as a female strip club.

The sexes are very different with regards to sex. No matter how many women want to protest.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:^ yes. That’s what that means.

Lots of men want just sex. They will pay for it and/or be 300 for every 5 females on a sex dating app.

A Gigolo isn’t as lucrative or as available as a prostitute because women aren’t having just sex - wham bam here is $50.

More gay men are going for the gigolo than women.

Male strip clubs and private rooms are also nowhere, NOWHERE as prevalent as a female strip club.

The sexes are very different with regards to sex. No matter how many women want to protest.



Yes. Men are so much more able to just blow a load. Women will do it in the guise of a relationship like an affair because they attach meaning to it and need an emotional connection.
Anonymous
These women obviously didn’t grow up in a household of brothers. Geesh. A different species indeed.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I have never had an affair and I cannot imagine being with someone other than my husband. What is it like to have sex with an affair partner and then have sex with your spouse?

Do you feel...gross? bored?


No and no... I treated my AP like the hoe that she was/is and she liked it. She wanted/wants very explicit talk, wanted/wants me to finish in her face... She’s a very bad girl.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:^ yes. That’s what that means.

Lots of men want just sex. They will pay for it and/or be 300 for every 5 females on a sex dating app.

A Gigolo isn’t as lucrative or as available as a prostitute because women aren’t having just sex - wham bam here is $50.

More gay men are going for the gigolo than women.

Male strip clubs and private rooms are also nowhere, NOWHERE as prevalent as a female strip club.

The sexes are very different with regards to sex. No matter how many women want to protest.



As a woman I totally agree. Women mostly care about the kids and their lifestyle. If their spouse is cheating they are more concerned about the damage to those 2 things.
Men that have affairs 99% do not want to get caught or lose their families, it mostly just about sex. Only thing is once the wife finds out she's often done emotionally whether she chooses to let him know or not. Once a guy cheats it contaminates the marriage for good.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^ yes. That’s what that means.

Lots of men want just sex. They will pay for it and/or be 300 for every 5 females on a sex dating app.

A Gigolo isn’t as lucrative or as available as a prostitute because women aren’t having just sex - wham bam here is $50.

More gay men are going for the gigolo than women.

Male strip clubs and private rooms are also nowhere, NOWHERE as prevalent as a female strip club.

The sexes are very different with regards to sex. No matter how many women want to protest.



As a woman I totally agree. Women mostly care about the kids and their lifestyle. If their spouse is cheating they are more concerned about the damage to those 2 things.
Men that have affairs 99% do not want to get caught or lose their families, it mostly just about sex. Only thing is once the wife finds out she's often done emotionally whether she chooses to let him know or not. Once a guy cheats it contaminates the marriage for good.


Lifestyle won't be affected because I have always made my own very good salary---and would get a hefty settlement (own multiple homes)---but the KIDS. It's all about the damage to the kids. Kids in their early teens---it's just about the worst time ever to spring separation/divorce on them (studies show this)---especially when it was a very happy household and they would be just a blindsided as I was. That is a ton of trauma these dumb *ss cheaters don't think about because they are never getting caught..riiiight.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^ yes. That’s what that means.

Lots of men want just sex. They will pay for it and/or be 300 for every 5 females on a sex dating app.

A Gigolo isn’t as lucrative or as available as a prostitute because women aren’t having just sex - wham bam here is $50.

More gay men are going for the gigolo than women.

Male strip clubs and private rooms are also nowhere, NOWHERE as prevalent as a female strip club.

The sexes are very different with regards to sex. No matter how many women want to protest.



As a woman I totally agree. Women mostly care about the kids and their lifestyle. If their spouse is cheating they are more concerned about the damage to those 2 things.
Men that have affairs 99% do not want to get caught or lose their families, it mostly just about sex. Only thing is once the wife finds out she's often done emotionally whether she chooses to let him know or not. Once a guy cheats it contaminates the marriage for good.


+1 sexual variety and feeling entitled
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^ yes. That’s what that means.

Lots of men want just sex. They will pay for it and/or be 300 for every 5 females on a sex dating app.

A Gigolo isn’t as lucrative or as available as a prostitute because women aren’t having just sex - wham bam here is $50.

More gay men are going for the gigolo than women.

Male strip clubs and private rooms are also nowhere, NOWHERE as prevalent as a female strip club.

The sexes are very different with regards to sex. No matter how many women want to protest.



As a woman I totally agree. Women mostly care about the kids and their lifestyle. If their spouse is cheating they are more concerned about the damage to those 2 things.
Men that have affairs 99% do not want to get caught or lose their families, it mostly just about sex. Only thing is once the wife finds out she's often done emotionally whether she chooses to let him know or not. Once a guy cheats it contaminates the marriage for good.


Lifestyle won't be affected because I have always made my own very good salary---and would get a hefty settlement (own multiple homes)---but the KIDS. It's all about the damage to the kids. Kids in their early teens---it's just about the worst time ever to spring separation/divorce on them (studies show this)---especially when it was a very happy household and they would be just a blindsided as I was. That is a ton of trauma these dumb *ss cheaters don't think about because they are never getting caught..riiiight.


No matter what salary your lifestyle is always affected. Divorce is still divided by 2 not to mention the unknowns going through the divorce. After my divorce my lawyer said you still never know what a judge will do. Cheating is a big trauma to all involved. My sil's husband cheated when they were fifty, just got the home paid off. His old college gf stalked him because her own husband was divorcing her, and she didn't have any money or a career. He didn't research any of that. Long story but he threw away his kids and spouse over her. Two of the kids never talked to dad again, my sil actually got the house in the divorce that he fought so hard for. He never saw his grand kids and 5 years later the OW died. Still they remained cut off from him, and he died a few years ago from not taking care of himself and drinking too much. The sad thing is they had it made, but he let a outsider swindler take it all from him. I think that's quite often the case with men who have those kinds of affairs. They refuse to see the hidden motives, or don't realize all they are risking. It's rarely greener on the otherside anyways.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^ yes. That’s what that means.

Lots of men want just sex. They will pay for it and/or be 300 for every 5 females on a sex dating app.

A Gigolo isn’t as lucrative or as available as a prostitute because women aren’t having just sex - wham bam here is $50.

More gay men are going for the gigolo than women.

Male strip clubs and private rooms are also nowhere, NOWHERE as prevalent as a female strip club.

The sexes are very different with regards to sex. No matter how many women want to protest.



As a woman I totally agree. Women mostly care about the kids and their lifestyle. If their spouse is cheating they are more concerned about the damage to those 2 things.
Men that have affairs 99% do not want to get caught or lose their families, it mostly just about sex. Only thing is once the wife finds out she's often done emotionally whether she chooses to let him know or not. Once a guy cheats it contaminates the marriage for good.


+1 sexual variety and feeling entitled


lol Still not worth my health, ding to my finances, and losing my spouse or children over. Anyone that sleeps with a married person isn't a jackpot to begin with, nor is the cheater to be fair.

Which leads us back to the kids, and lifestyle which only matters if one is with a cheater.
Anonymous
All I can say is bonding intimacy is real
Anonymous
Does it change forevermore
Anonymous
Oops meant to say forever or does it return to baseline if you decide to stay together

Anonymous
It’s boring once you’ve gotten used to the AP.
Anonymous
AP had more body image issues so was as free at times. More self-conscious. It was variety, but certain dirty things were reserved for my wife. I wouldn’t do with somebody that had a lot of men in her marriage.

Truthfully, never compared the two. I didn’t think of one when I was with the other. I still had good sex with my wife during the affair.

It was a relief when I ended the affair, like a weight lifted and all the stress from hiding it. It took a toll over time.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:All I can say is bonding intimacy is real


Yes. Best sex of our lives. Hysterical bonding post-affair is real. It hasn’t let up in 10 months. It’s like we are 25 again and can’t get enough of each other. Sometimes more than once a day. Much more intimate outside of the bedroom too.
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