Does anyone care if a woman comes from/has money

[Anonymous]

Probably because the people you date are also wealthy.

[Anonymous]

I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

More than a few have dreams of being SAHDs or trophy husbands for wealthy women.

Riiight. Source?

https://uscode.house.gov/view.xhtml?path=%2Fprelim%40title18%2Fpart1%2Fchapter115&edition=prelim

What?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had two high school school crushes not reciprocate. When I went to a more prestigious grad school years later I suddenly heard from both within a month. That's when I figured out my family did not have enough money for them to date me, and the prestigious grad school seemed to make up for that.

Was also dumped by another boyfriend in college, after he reloaded my family was LMC.

This is what happens when your family is LMC but believes in education and sends you to private schools. I received a good education but had absolutely little to no dating life.

I do think this is common in UMC families. Hopefully you have had better experiences since then.

Thanks, my social life improved immensely once I steered clear of private schools and universities and met more people like me. Happily married to a STEM PhD who had an upbringing similar to mine.

My private school experiences really stunted my emotional growth for a while and it took a few years to catch up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

Yes. Divorced dads with kids to support are the ones who care if you have money. The others don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

I actually don’t think this is terrible. It sounds responsible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

More than a few have dreams of being SAHDs or trophy husbands for wealthy women.

Riiight. Source?

https://uscode.house.gov/view.xhtml?path=%2Fprelim%40title18%2Fpart1%2Fchapter115&edition=prelim

What?

Who?

[Anonymous]

I personally know a few men who sought out high earners (all three women are specialists physicians, butt ugly with so so personalities) for marriage. The three men are all handsome and professional (but none are physicians and earn far less) could have easily attracted more beautiful wives. Always wondered why??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally know a few men who sought out high earners (all three women are specialists physicians, butt ugly with so so personalities) for marriage. The three men are all handsome and professional (but none are physicians and earn far less) could have easily attracted more beautiful wives. Always wondered why??

Those guys actively looked for high earning women. They want that nice life. How old were the guys when they married the women?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

I actually don’t think this is terrible. It sounds responsible.

You think that divorced men with kids should be looking to only date women who can help support him? It’s one thing if a woman has debt and is broke. But saying he doesn’t want to date a woman because she only makes 70k and he has three kids to put through college....that’s implying he needs a second income to support HIS kids. He’s looking to marry someone who can help put his kids through college. That’s not responsible. That’s gold digger ish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

I actually don’t think this is terrible. It sounds responsible.

You think that divorced men with kids should be looking to only date women who can help support him? It’s one thing if a woman has debt and is broke. But saying he doesn’t want to date a woman because she only makes 70k and he has three kids to put through college....that’s implying he needs a second income to support HIS kids. He’s looking to marry someone who can help put his kids through college. That’s not responsible. That’s gold digger ish.

I think PP is saying this man did not want to be a gold-digger, and assumed OP didn’t have bank 🏦, so he broke up with her because he was concerned about quality of life.

[Anonymous]

I agree w OP. I dont have 8M sitting in a bank account (thanks also to my do-gooder job choices) but my parents are rich and consequently I ended up with a circle of close friends with varying degrees of wealth (ranging into private planes etc). We have all the same dating problems as the rest of the world.

[Anonymous]

Men don't care about a woman's wealth, pedigree, family of origin, etc. A woman only needs to be sex positive and not-fat, because everything else is negotiable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

I actually don’t think this is terrible. It sounds responsible.

+1. OP, he thought he would have to support you based on your salary, and he couldn't afford to do that because he owed it to his kids to support them. It's naïve to think that a potential partner's financial picture shouldn't matter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Being poor can hurt you in dating as a woman. You will be assumed to be a gold digger. In HS —HIGH SCHOOL— I dated a boy twice and in the car ride home, his dad asked me what I thought about prenups. I had no idea what that even was.

LMFAO that's so inappropriate and weird! What a freak.

Op, I don't think it really matters that much, but it kind of does. Men prefer women who are from similar backgrounds/education levels. Someone on YBM tried to tell me once "Any woman can marry rich, a billionaire would marry a Target check-out girl if he could!" LOL no, bb. A billionaire would be looking for an Ivy League MBA who speaks 25 different languages.

Can a man chime in? No trolls. Do rich men really want an overachiever who speaks different languages and looks dont matter?

Looks obviously matter. I will say that in general wealthier people tend to be more attractive. Nobody is overweight. All the easy barriers to good looks are handled early. Everyone gets braces and excellent dental care. Everyone sees a dermatologist so they have great skin. They have the time and money to invest in sports — things like tennis, golf, skiing, snowboarding, horse back riding.