Does anyone care if a woman comes from/has money

[Anonymous]

Obviously, guys are looking to marry women who check a lot of boxes, and the presence of $millions will be seen favorably, particularly by those men who don’t anticipate otherwise earning/inheriting that kind of money (i.e., it fills a need/solves a problem).

[Anonymous]

I think on both sides it’s just a common background thing- coming from similar lifestyles, and families that held similar philosophies about money. If you grow up UNC/wealthy, that’s for the most part who you’ll be surrounded by in life throughout your education and hobbies. You’ll meet more types of people than you otherwise would online dating, but in many situations you’ll probably feel like you have most in common with someone who grew up similarly.

[Anonymous]

I can read this question a couple of different ways.

[Anonymous]

Man here, I make good money so perhaps others feel differently.

All else being equal, a woman who has money is a bonus but it doesn't factor into who I want to date. A woman who is deep in debt is a big negative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s that thread where OPs friends all married wealthy men. But I come from a family who are well within the top 1% and have a decent job on my own. And I don’t think any man has every cared. Granted I don’t flaunt my money, but being wealthy has literally never helped me in dating. So I assume this is just a thing that benefits men?

This can't be real. You would know perfectly well that significant money attracts people, granted for the wrong reasons.

OP here responding for the first time. And no, nobody has ever been attracted to my status. But I also don’t look very wealthy, I wear jeans, flannels or t-shirts, and no make-up. So it wouldn’t come up I’m fairly wealthy unless someone knew me well. When I mention a ski trip, prep school or something else they can figure it out. But I don’t normally talk about that stuff.

Everyone skis now, so skiing doesn't mean anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here, I make good money so perhaps others feel differently.

All else being equal, a woman who has money is a bonus but it doesn't factor into who I want to date. A woman who is deep in debt is a big negative.

Another guy, and this PP nails it.

Difference in lifestyles and attitudes to money may become issues later in the relationship, but can't see why it's be a problem just dating.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely men care about it. Not all, of course, but many do. More than a few have dreams of being SAHDs or trophy husbands for wealthy women. It’s kind of gross, IMHO, but if it floats their boat and they can live their dream, more power to ‘em.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely men care about it. Not all, of course, but many do. More than a few have dreams of being SAHDs or trophy husbands for wealthy women. It’s kind of gross, IMHO, but if it floats their boat and they can live their dream, more power to ‘em.

Financial empowerment is attractive to everyone. Outside of themes like creating dependency and control, frivolous behavior, and exploitation? It is usually a feature, not a flaw.

[Anonymous]

Most men became more interested when they found out I owned my apartment. Also they liked that I was able to go out to the same places as they were and I could cover the bill.

I don't think it was ever a deciding factor, it was more of an icing on the cake thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men became more interested when they found out I owned my apartment. Also they liked that I was able to go out to the same places as they were and I could cover the bill.

I don't think it was ever a deciding factor, it was more of an icing on the cake thing.

Same. Actually, men that seemed too excited turned me off. I’m sure men experience this too. I stopped disclosing some of the positive traits because I did not want to be exploited, and I wasn’t trying to market myself. I was simply open to a connection with a partner.

[Anonymous]

I had two high school school crushes not reciprocate. When I went to a more prestigious grad school years later I suddenly heard from both within a month. That's when I figured out my family did not have enough money for them to date me, and the prestigious grad school seemed to make up for that.

Was also dumped by another boyfriend in college, after he reloaded my family was LMC.

This is what happens when your family is LMC but believes in education and sends you to private schools. I received a good education but had absolutely little to no dating life.

[Anonymous]

Reloaded should be "realized". Darn autocorrect.

[Anonymous]

More than a few have dreams of being SAHDs or trophy husbands for wealthy women.

Riiight. Source?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had two high school school crushes not reciprocate. When I went to a more prestigious grad school years later I suddenly heard from both within a month. That's when I figured out my family did not have enough money for them to date me, and the prestigious grad school seemed to make up for that.

Was also dumped by another boyfriend in college, after he reloaded my family was LMC.

This is what happens when your family is LMC but believes in education and sends you to private schools. I received a good education but had absolutely little to no dating life.

I do think this is common in UMC families. Hopefully you have had better experiences since then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

More than a few have dreams of being SAHDs or trophy husbands for wealthy women.

Riiight. Source?

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