Does anyone care if a woman comes from/has money

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Anonymous wrote:Being poor can hurt you in dating as a woman. You will be assumed to be a gold digger. In HS —HIGH SCHOOL— I dated a boy twice and in the car ride home, his dad asked me what I thought about prenups. I had no idea what that even was.

LMFAO that's so inappropriate and weird! What a freak.

Op, I don't think it really matters that much, but it kind of does. Men prefer women who are from similar backgrounds/education levels. Someone on YBM tried to tell me once "Any woman can marry rich, a billionaire would marry a Target check-out girl if he could!" LOL no, bb. A billionaire would be looking for an Ivy League MBA who speaks 25 different languages.

Can a man chime in? No trolls. Do rich men really want an overachiever who speaks different languages and looks dont matter?

Looks obviously matter. I will say that in general wealthier people tend to be more attractive. Nobody is overweight. All the easy barriers to good looks are handled early. Everyone gets braces and excellent dental care. Everyone sees a dermatologist so they have great skin. They have the time and money to invest in sports — things like tennis, golf, skiing, snowboarding, horse back riding.

Is this a joke? Melinda Gates, Priscilla Chan and Anne Wojcicki are extraordinarily average looking women. Susan Wojcicki who is Anne's sister and the CEO of Youtube wouldn't even be called average... lol She is extremely plain!

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Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

I actually don’t think this is terrible. It sounds responsible.

+1. OP, he thought he would have to support you based on your salary, and he couldn't afford to do that because he owed it to his kids to support them. It's naïve to think that a potential partner's financial picture shouldn't matter.

I was supporting myself just fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

I actually don’t think this is terrible. It sounds responsible.

+1. OP, he thought he would have to support you based on your salary, and he couldn't afford to do that because he owed it to his kids to support them. It's naïve to think that a potential partner's financial picture shouldn't matter.

Ok, so you’re saying that men do care about a woman’s salary and net worth, then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Being poor can hurt you in dating as a woman. You will be assumed to be a gold digger. In HS —HIGH SCHOOL— I dated a boy twice and in the car ride home, his dad asked me what I thought about prenups. I had no idea what that even was.

LMFAO that's so inappropriate and weird! What a freak.

Op, I don't think it really matters that much, but it kind of does. Men prefer women who are from similar backgrounds/education levels. Someone on YBM tried to tell me once "Any woman can marry rich, a billionaire would marry a Target check-out girl if he could!" LOL no, bb. A billionaire would be looking for an Ivy League MBA who speaks 25 different languages.

You don't know men worth anything. Successful men marry many women who are not "successful" or "highly educated". All those Instagram models? Guess what? They get offers from wealthily men ALL THE TIME! I'm in the 1% and I used to date women who made $50-$80k a year. It's not all about being successful, it's about personality. Not everyone is lucky enough to be wealthy or successful. One girl I dated for a while came from a family in Annapolis. Her family wasn't wealthy and she worked at a marketing company in DC..maybe made 60-70k a year? I didn't care. She was awesome.

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This thread is so stupid it's not even funny. Looks are so important to men. And I am a man. Look up that hot across from the last Baywatch movie. The blond one. She did that one movie and started dating one of the founders of WalMart. She hasn't worked again and is now married with a billions. Yes, it's great if a woman is smart, etc. But, if you're hot as all hell and just overall a good person men will love you forever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being poor can hurt you in dating as a woman. You will be assumed to be a gold digger. In HS —HIGH SCHOOL— I dated a boy twice and in the car ride home, his dad asked me what I thought about prenups. I had no idea what that even was.

LMFAO that's so inappropriate and weird! What a freak.

Op, I don't think it really matters that much, but it kind of does. Men prefer women who are from similar backgrounds/education levels. Someone on YBM tried to tell me once "Any woman can marry rich, a billionaire would marry a Target check-out girl if he could!" LOL no, bb. A billionaire would be looking for an Ivy League MBA who speaks 25 different languages.

You don't know men worth anything. Successful men marry many women who are not "successful" or "highly educated". All those Instagram models? Guess what? They get offers from wealthily men ALL THE TIME! I'm in the 1% and I used to date women who made $50-$80k a year. It's not all about being successful, it's about personality. Not everyone is lucky enough to be wealthy or successful. One girl I dated for a while came from a family in Annapolis. Her family wasn't wealthy and she worked at a marketing company in DC..maybe made 60-70k a year? I didn't care. She was awesome.

Men would date anything. (Women too). Marrying and selecting a partner for life and a mother/father of your children is different.

Instagram models don't get offers of marriage, it's a different kind of offer.

Anyway, assortative mating is a statistical fact. Your personal experience doesn't matter very much.

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nobody has ever been attracted to my status.

Your status? You wrote you have money. What the hell is “status”?

Inactive?

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It’s not a necessary condition nor a sufficient condition for a man’s interest but if you have the other qualities that make you appealing to men then it is a huge bonus and differentiator.

If you don’t come from money don’t sweat it though because if you are smart, positive, fit, attractive and kind you can still attract a great guy.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is so stupid it's not even funny. Looks are so important to men. And I am a man. Look up that hot across from the last Baywatch movie. The blond one. She did that one movie and started dating one of the founders of WalMart. She hasn't worked again and is now married with a billions. Yes, it's great if a woman is smart, etc. But, if you're hot as all hell and just overall a good person men will love you forever.

Just looked her up and she grew up in Greenwich and went to Georgetown. So she's hot and comes from a good background.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

I actually don’t think this is terrible. It sounds responsible.

You think that divorced men with kids should be looking to only date women who can help support him? It’s one thing if a woman has debt and is broke. But saying he doesn’t want to date a woman because she only makes 70k and he has three kids to put through college....that’s implying he needs a second income to support HIS kids. He’s looking to marry someone who can help put his kids through college. That’s not responsible. That’s gold digger ish.

I don't read it as him necessarily thinking that a woman should help support his kids, but that, with three kids to support, he can't be supporting a woman. Like, he can't take on the financial responsibility for another person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is so stupid it's not even funny. Looks are so important to men. And I am a man. Look up that hot across from the last Baywatch movie. The blond one. She did that one movie and started dating one of the founders of WalMart. She hasn't worked again and is now married with a billions. Yes, it's great if a woman is smart, etc. But, if you're hot as all hell and just overall a good person men will love you forever.

Just looked her up and she grew up in Greenwich and went to Georgetown. So she's hot and comes from a good background.

This. It's always this.

Is the problem that girls are inundated with stories about sweet maidens who get plucked out of obscurity to become princesses? Even Hollywood tries to sell people on the idea of the overnight success who succeeded via grit and talent. It's cute, but it's not real.

Most rich people grew up rich. Most rich people marry other rich people. Most people who go to elite schools are upper class. Most people who go to elite schools will marry other people who went to elite schools. It's a numbers game, to some degree, and if your goal is "marry rich" you should know that if you started out poor, it's an uphill battle.

Alternatively, you can just seek to find meaning in your own life and seek out like-minded people whose company you enjoy. You might never be rich but you will be happy, which is more than a lot of rich people can say.

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Life is all about leagues. I've dated a number of women in the DC region who earned far more than I did (and many came from old money as well). I couldn't compete...couldn't afford all the nice things (dinner dates, events, vacations). I didn't want to look like a moocher by having the women cover everything.

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Anonymous wrote:There’s that thread where OPs friends all married wealthy men. But I come from a family who are well within the top 1% and have a decent job on my own. And I don’t think any man has every cared. Granted I don’t flaunt my money, but being wealthy has literally never helped me in dating. So I assume this is just a thing that benefits men?

This can't be real. You would know perfectly well that significant money attracts people, granted for the wrong reasons.

OP here responding for the first time. And no, nobody has ever been attracted to my status. But I also don’t look very wealthy, I wear jeans, flannels or t-shirts, and no make-up. So it wouldn’t come up I’m fairly wealthy unless someone knew me well. When I mention a ski trip, prep school or something else they can figure it out. But I don’t normally talk about that stuff.

You don’t need to be in the 1% to grow up with ski trips and prep school. It’s common enough in the UMC.

Anyone and everyone skis now, that is not a deciding factor, that is for sure!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is so stupid it's not even funny. Looks are so important to men. And I am a man. Look up that hot across from the last Baywatch movie. The blond one. She did that one movie and started dating one of the founders of WalMart. She hasn't worked again and is now married with a billions. Yes, it's great if a woman is smart, etc. But, if you're hot as all hell and just overall a good person men will love you forever.

Just looked her up and she grew up in Greenwich and went to Georgetown. So she's hot and comes from a good background.

This. It's always this.

Is the problem that girls are inundated with stories about sweet maidens who get plucked out of obscurity to become princesses? Even Hollywood tries to sell people on the idea of the overnight success who succeeded via grit and talent. It's cute, but it's not real.

Most rich people grew up rich. Most rich people marry other rich people. Most people who go to elite schools are upper class. Most people who go to elite schools will marry other people who went to elite schools. It's a numbers game, to some degree, and if your goal is "marry rich" you should know that if you started out poor, it's an uphill battle.

Alternatively, you can just seek to find meaning in your own life and seek out like-minded people whose company you enjoy. You might never be rich but you will be happy, which is more than a lot of rich people can say.

+1

This is why so many people in the DC area stick out, and not in a good way, because of how they treat other people.

They can buy the new house, drive the expensive car, carry the expensive purse, wear the expensive shoes, go on expensive trips, etc., but they will never fool old money.