Pregnant at 35 - had sex once!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not confusing or wild. You had unprotected sex, and you got pregnant.

That’s like saying you only fired the gun at the target once, and you’re soooo shockeddd that it hit the target.

Why do we have these threads like every two months? Morons.

Because every single thread on this site that deals with having kids after age 30-35 gets dozens of comments saying your chances of getting pregnant at those ages are nonexistent and that most of those people you know who got pregnant actually had IVF and just didn't tell you.

Look at the Meghan Markle threads - she got married at 36 and half the comments basically said she was too old to be fertile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am struggling to wrap my mind around this. Somehow I managed to get pregnant at 35 after having sex JUST ONCE last month. We have two kids already and were casually starting to toss around the idea of having one more....we just had unprotected sex ONCE and BAM! This is insane, I must be no more than 4 weeks along. Has anyone else been in my situation? I am in shock, happy of course but I have a 6 year old and a 2 year old so obviously this time around the situation will be different to say the least! Please tell me I will be ok!

You're 35 and you don't understand how unprotected sex works?

[Anonymous]

Nature is opportunistic- had my DS at 36- unprotected sex with DH once.
It happens but statistically uncommon--congratulations.

[Anonymous]

Yup. You have 2 kids already. Meaning during every birth your reproductive system and hormones was shaken up. Took me 18 months to get pregnant with my first at 33. Took one time of unprotected sex to get pregnant with second when first was 3. A friend has 2 ivf babies and was told she could not have children (blocked tubes etc) without it. She had a surprise 3rd baby last year. Fertility is still so very unknown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok genuinely confused why you’re so shocked? You’re 35 and had unprotected sex. You’re not 65. Congrats though

+1
Hopefully your partner has more brains than you. We don't need any additional stupidity, that's for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup. You have 2 kids already. Meaning during every birth your reproductive system and hormones was shaken up. Took me 18 months to get pregnant with my first at 33. Took one time of unprotected sex to get pregnant with second when first was 3. A friend has 2 ivf babies and was told she could not have children (blocked tubes etc) without it. She had a surprise 3rd baby last year. Fertility is still so very unknown.

Same thing happened to me! 18 months to get pregnant with my first at 36. We decided to try for our second as soon as the first turned one because we figured I was even older and it would take even longer. Nope! Pregnant on the first try. And that's how we ended up with two under two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not confusing or wild. You had unprotected sex, and you got pregnant.

That’s like saying you only fired the gun at the target once, and you’re soooo shockeddd that it hit the target.

Why do we have these threads like every two months? Morons.

Because every single thread on this site that deals with having kids after age 30-35 gets dozens of comments saying your chances of getting pregnant at those ages are nonexistent and that most of those people you know who got pregnant actually had IVF and just didn't tell you.

Oh really? You get your health and fertility and family planning advice from DCUM? How very interesting. I get my advice on those topics from DOCTORS and books/resources written by doctors and scientists.

So again I say...morons.

[Anonymous]

When I was 34 and we were a few months from officially planning to start trying for #2 I was using temp charting to assess my fertility. Not a perfect method but I have a super regular, clear cycle. Had sex once that month absolutely nowhere near my fertile time and surprise! Pregnant! I guess DD was just meant to be

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nature is opportunistic- had my DS at 36- unprotected sex with DH once.
It happens but statistically uncommon--congratulations.

I really don't think it is as statistically uncommon as people make it out to be. I think we totally overstate the idea that fertility declines in the late 30s, and so a lot of people think it's "unlikely" to get pregnant from one time when you are in your late 30s or early 40s, so they roll the dice and figure the odds are in their favor. It's just not very uncommon and we are doing people a disservice by overstating the fertility declines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nature is opportunistic- had my DS at 36- unprotected sex with DH once.
It happens but statistically uncommon--congratulations.

I really don't think it is as statistically uncommon as people make it out to be. I think we totally overstate the idea that fertility declines in the late 30s, and so a lot of people think it's "unlikely" to get pregnant from one time when you are in your late 30s or early 40s, so they roll the dice and figure the odds are in their favor. It's just not very uncommon and we are doing people a disservice by overstating the fertility declines.

It's especially not uncommon for women who have previously had children. If you have two kids, your body has already demonstrated that you are fertile. It used to be pretty common for women to have a third or fourth or fifth kid in their late 30s/early 40s. Secondary fertility issues exist, but are not the norm. So a demonstrably fertile woman having unprotected sex should not be surprised if she gets pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am struggling to wrap my mind around this. Somehow I managed to get pregnant at 35 after having sex JUST ONCE last month. We have two kids already and were casually starting to toss around the idea of having one more....we just had unprotected sex ONCE and BAM! This is insane, I must be no more than 4 weeks along. Has anyone else been in my situation? I am in shock, happy of course but I have a 6 year old and a 2 year old so obviously this time around the situation will be different to say the least! Please tell me I will be ok!

I got pregnant for the first time at 35 on one try. It is not hard at all for many people. Had a totally normal and healthy pregnancy and baby. It is a total myth that it can be challenging for most to get pregnant after 35. Everyone has a different fertility cliff...most women before modern times had babies until they literally couldn't anymore...which was generally mid 40s. Stopping at 2-3 kids in your 20s and 30s is a modern thing.

[Anonymous]

The ol we only did it once incredulity. It only takes once! You are fertile! You knew this.

I got pregnant first month trying (had sex a few times, but still) both times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok genuinely confused why you’re so shocked? You’re 35 and had unprotected sex. You’re not 65. Congrats though

This.
OP, I hate to say it but you did you skip sex ed in school?? Ugh, people are so stupid it's sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’ve demonstrated that you can get pregnant. Twice!
You had unprotected sex.
You’re in your mid-thirties.

What’s the surprise? 🤷🏻‍♀️

This isn’t some unicorn situation.

But, but.... she didn't EXPECT it.

Sounds like a 14 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’ve demonstrated that you can get pregnant. Twice!
You had unprotected sex.
You’re in your mid-thirties.

What’s the surprise? 🤷🏻‍♀️

This isn’t some unicorn situation.

+1 this thread is so weird.