44yo - too late?

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Yes

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44yo with two kids 10 and 12. Never had trouble conceiving previously, but that was 10 years ago. Would like to try for the third - is it too late? IUD has been removed, would likely just see if we can make it happen naturally. If it doesn't happen would likely not pursue IVF.

Anything to try to increase chances naturally?

I would ask yourself why you want a baby and start over? Is it because your kids are getting older and don't "need" you as much? Are you fearful of change? You can do so many fun and interesting things with your kids at their ages but, you won't really with a baby. Why not figure out your next stage in your life instead of having a baby?

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Take ubiquinol, 400mg daily. Meet an RE and check your numbers. Tell the RE you've been trying for six months otherwise they may not be able to see you.

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The fastest and healthiest way is to go straight to donor eggs.

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43 years old, positive pregnancy test after 10 months of trying. 2 months ago started theralogix ovavite and ovisitol.

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Normal times, sure!
Pandemic and you are going into teen land soon, NO!

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Anonymous wrote:Take COQ10 for 3+ full months to improve egg quality -of course you can try in the meantime!
https://theralogix.com/products/theranatal-ovavite-preconception-vitamin
If your partner is older then supplements might help him too. Keep the sperm moving! If it sits around more than a couple of days quality is poorer. Time sex, but have lots throughout the cycle too. Good luck!

Good point about his age.

Make him have his swimmers tested before you start. Plan accordingly.

A couple days of them “sitting around” is OK, and you may want him to “save up” before your window. But more than 5 - 6 days is not recommended for him. So if you are not having sex that frequently then you need to make him do something on his own. Then wait and try again.

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Anonymous wrote:I had my last a week before my 45th bday. Natural conception, totally healthy baby, keeps DH and I feeling young. Good luck!!!

Had my last at 43. Conceived naturally after several miscarriages and a failed ivf. Uneventful pregnancy and healthy baby.

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Anonymous wrote:I had my last a week before my 45th bday. Natural conception, totally healthy baby, keeps DH and I feeling young. Good luck!!!

Had my last at 43. Conceived naturally after several miscarriages and a failed ivf. Uneventful pregnancy and healthy baby.

thanks for sharing. so encouraging!!

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Had my last at 43 too. I decided I was too old for birth control so I stopped taking the pill and the next month I was pregnant. I was super worried about abnormalities but the only thing abnormal about her is her strong preference for wearing clothes that don't match.

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Also, you can try Metformin. This link talks about Metformin for PCOS but its known to be a very effective fertility drug and very safe. https://www.californiaivf.com/metformin/

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According to this article from 2018:

Women ages 40 to 44 had 114,730 of the 3.8 million babies born in 2017; women 45 and older had 9,325.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.usatoday.com/amp/624028002

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44yo with two kids 10 and 12. Never had trouble conceiving previously, but that was 10 years ago. Would like to try for the third - is it too late? IUD has been removed, would likely just see if we can make it happen naturally. If it doesn't happen would likely not pursue IVF.

Anything to try to increase chances naturally?

Why do you want a third? Are you afraid of moving on to the next stage in life? Babies grow up and I think while it may not be "too late" I do think you are not thinking properly. Your kids are at great ages to do things with. Think of all the things you won't be able to do before they leave for college if you have that baby. The third will be more like an only in just a few years.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't cheer on a 44 year old man. You already have two kids. Give the planet a break.

+1 read about parental age and autism risk.

Huh. I was 32 when I had my autistic son 1 who I wouldn’t want any other way- and was in perfect health, etc. but to you and the po commenting on chromosomal defects- I mean, yeah, op’s risk for those things are higher now. Everyone knows that. Some people just want children to love. They don’t have to be perfect.

Dp More younger women have babies with Down Syndrome but, the odds increase for older women. I too have an Autistic dd when I was 31 but, that is more to do with genes. I think the op should think about why she wants a third since she already has two children. Is she afraid of being an empty nester? Have a third 10 years younger will delay that but she can't keep having babies to make her feel younger or explore the next phase of her life.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't cheer on a 44 year old man. You already have two kids. Give the planet a break.

+1 read about parental age and autism risk.

Huh. I was 32 when I had my autistic son 1 who I wouldn’t want any other way- and was in perfect health, etc. but to you and the po commenting on chromosomal defects- I mean, yeah, op’s risk for those things are higher now. Everyone knows that. Some people just want children to love. They don’t have to be perfect.

Dp More younger women have babies with Down Syndrome but, the odds increase for older women. I too have an Autistic dd when I was 31 but, that is more to do with genes. I think the op should think about why she wants a third since she already has two children. Is she afraid of being an empty nester? Have a third 10 years younger will delay that but she can't keep having babies to make her feel younger or explore the next phase of her life.

Why? She wants a 3rd kid - what's it to you the reason why?

I'm in a similar position to OP. I have 2 and I feel like there is someone missing. If the person that's "missing" is a child with down syndrome or autism or a missing leg, it doesn't matter. I want them here. I'd rather do life with them than without them.