44yo - too late?

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

I wonder what happened with OP, given she started the thread in 2020?

[Anonymous]

To whoever said that is gross—YOU are gross. And you must be a hick from some tiny town to think that having a child in your forties is gross. Many of us have careers and grad schools and or didn’t meet their partners until later. Get a grip and a life. I’m actually lolong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To whoever said that is gross—YOU are gross. And you must be a hick from some tiny town to think that having a child in your forties is gross. Many of us have careers and grad schools and or didn’t meet their partners until later. Get a grip and a life. I’m actually lolong.

It’s definitely gross and your kids will probably young when their parents die.

[Anonymous]

Mother had my brother at 45, 18 years after my sister. He is fine, healthy young college graduate. She's a very active soon to be 68 yo.

[Anonymous]

My mom was 40 when she had me and my identical twin brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you have reached the promised land. You have kids who are old enough to do fun, adventurous things with, but still young enough to want to spend time with you. Why would you want to mess with that? A baby will bring you back to the land of scheduled naps, bedtimes, strict routines. I have a brother who has a 10 year old and just had another baby at age 50 (wife is much younger). He will not be able to do a lot of the things with his older kid that I am doing with mine because of the age gap between his kids. You will not have your older kids around much longer... think about what you want the next 6-10 years to look like with them.

I am considering going for a 3rd, and I also have older kids (7 & 10) and am over 40. What really helps is financial security: if you can afford a nanny or at least a top-notch baby sitter, and if you have an involved partner, then you absolutely can have fun with your older kids. Leave the baby napping with the nanny. Take the nanny with you when you are on vacation so she can be with the baby/toddler while you go zip lining/diving/skiing/whatever with your older kids. IMO, if there is a will, there is a way.