How important is a woman's income to a guy when she's dating?

[Anonymous]

Note to those in the dating pool: There are many people in the dating pool (both men and women) who have serious financial problems. I was shocked when I dated the socially prominent lawyer in my town and he let drop that he and his former wife owed $70,000 on credit cards. I mean, who carries $70,000 on credit cards?

This guy also was kind of like a rock star in my town. I'd be at lunch or dinner dates with him and other women would come up to the table and throw themselves on him (hint around about dating) while I was present.

We did not go on many dates.....probably a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're talking about dating and not getting married, right?

Having a 6 figures income is not important at all, as long as she has a personality and/or look to go with it (income).

So most women date because they want to get married, and for the purpose of getting married. The op is likely not asking if a man would casually date and have sex with a woman who does or doesn’t make a lot (we know the answer to that is yes). Op is likely asking if a man would seriously date and consider marrying such a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 30 and earn 85. I am on track to earn over 100k. My salary goes up 7k/year. I’m an RN in a private surgical clinic and working on my MSN.

I also just started getting Botox and fillers this year. I plan on getting a tummy tuck and boob job. I do get a heavy discount because of my work.

Single mom with one kid. Own my condo. No debt.

I don’t struggle to meet men to say the least but it’s not a priority right now.

Botox and fillers at 30?? 85K is a pretty modest income at 30, are you also getting child support? I am an immigrant who moved to the US at 26 with very basic English (but with a good foreign technical degree). My first salary in the US was 85K at 27 y.o. and that was 20 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be very suspicious of a man who wanted his partner to earn a lot.

This. My exH had an income requirement. I was so upset. I met the requirement but was so angry about it. Almost broke up. Should have. A man who thinks like this is NOT marriage material.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 30 and earn 85. I am on track to earn over 100k. My salary goes up 7k/year. I’m an RN in a private surgical clinic and working on my MSN.

I also just started getting Botox and fillers this year. I plan on getting a tummy tuck and boob job. I do get a heavy discount because of my work.

Single mom with one kid. Own my condo. No debt.

I don’t struggle to meet men to say the least but it’s not a priority right now.

Botox and fillers at 30?? 85K is a pretty modest income at 30, are you also getting child support? I am an immigrant who moved to the US at 26 with very basic English (but with a good foreign technical degree). My first salary in the US was 85K at 27 y.o. and that was 20 years ago.

Yeah, but you're an asshole, so it's not like your salary matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, mostly it's a woman appearance that men are attracted to because they think with their little heads instead if the big heads.

Guys say that, but no way would a DCUM man in the UMC marry some high school educated dingbat no matter how hot she was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're talking about dating and not getting married, right?

Having a 6 figures income is not important at all, as long as she has a personality and/or look to go with it (income).

What's the point of dating if it doesn't lead to marriage?

Because it is fun and nice to have a relationship. Not all long-term relationships have to lead to marriage. I am never getting married again but am in a monogamous relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 30 and earn 85. I am on track to earn over 100k. My salary goes up 7k/year. I’m an RN in a private surgical clinic and working on my MSN.

I also just started getting Botox and fillers this year. I plan on getting a tummy tuck and boob job. I do get a heavy discount because of my work.

Single mom with one kid. Own my condo. No debt.

I don’t struggle to meet men to say the least but it’s not a priority right now.

Botox and fillers at 30?? 85K is a pretty modest income at 30, are you also getting child support? I am an immigrant who moved to the US at 26 with very basic English (but with a good foreign technical degree). My first salary in the US was 85K at 27 y.o. and that was 20 years ago.

Not the poster you were responding to but you were making A LOT 20 years ago if you were earning 85k then at age 27. The OP is making good money and better than average compared to most women at her age now.

[Anonymous]

Note to those in the dating pool: There are many people in the dating pool (both men and women) who have serious financial problems. I was shocked when I dated the socially prominent lawyer in my town and he let drop that he and his former wife owed $70,000 on credit cards. I mean, who carries $70,000 on credit cards?

You’d be surprised how many doctors are living paycheck to paycheck with a big mortgage, big payments on a fancy car, and nothing put away for retirement.

[Anonymous]

I've never met a man who cared about a woman's income... however, I think most guys in this area want a woman who has some kind of career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're talking about dating and not getting married, right?

Having a 6 figures income is not important at all, as long as she has a personality and/or look to go with it (income).

What's the point of dating if it doesn't lead to marriage?

Because it is fun and nice to have a relationship. Not all long-term relationships have to lead to marriage. I am never getting married again but am in a monogamous relationship.

Me too. And I’m a woman earning 400k with family money dating a guy with very little- but dear lord he’s handsome and kind and super super sexy and kind and fun. Won’t marry again, don’t need someone to take care of me - free to date who I please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never met a man who cared about a woman's income... however, I think most guys in this area want a woman who has some kind of career.

Men care much less about her “career” than about her income, especially if her career keeps her from being available to him and able to take care of kids.

Paralegal or teacher making $70k >>> lawyer who makes five times as much but is never around

[Anonymous]

Care about intelligence and education - yes because the genes of the mother of my children matter. Income? As long as she has proven she can be self-reliant (i.e. not living with her off her parents), I don’t care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've never met a man who cared about a woman's income... however, I think most guys in this area want a woman who has some kind of career.

Men care much less about her “career” than about her income, especially if her career keeps her from being available to him and able to take care of kids.

Paralegal or teacher making $70k >>> lawyer who makes five times as much but is never around

LMAO. The paralegals work longer hours than the lawyers. Who do you think is doing all the scut work? Teacher, I can see.

[Anonymous]

After divorce, many men that I have talked to who had wives with Hobby jobs or who were SAHMs care about income because they got burned once and don’t want a repeat.