Spouse Slept through Breakfast

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Must be the lesbian couple again. So tiresome having your every minute broadcast on dcum.

But, missing breakfast is a huge deal!!!

[Anonymous]

Spouse seems to be struggling and you seem unsympathetic and controlling, OP. You actually made breakfast for your kids? Well jolly for you!

[Anonymous]

Nope. I slept late today too, and was 15 minutes late "to work". And I didn't stay up late or anything last night.

You didn't say to spouse "I'm making a fancy breakfast and I'd really like for you to eat with us this morning." You just sent your kid to say "Mom said breakfast will be ready in 10/is ready." So for all your spouse knew you tossed a box of Cheerios on the table and told everyone to dig in.

[Anonymous]

I don't have the energy, particularly these days, to sweat the small stuff and I consider this small stuff. So no, it wouldn't bother me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all much be must bigger people than I because I would lose my mind if my DH, who is a SAHD, slept in until 10:30 on the daily while I worked. F that. I wouldn’t be mad about missing breakfast, I would be mad about the sleeping in that late. With kids? I can’t even imagine.

+1

[Anonymous]

You decided to make breakfast. That doesn't mean anyone else has to eat it. I would not be annoyed, esp if there are "sleeping difficulties."

[Anonymous]

Somebody isn’t getting enough appreciation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all much be must bigger people than I because I would lose my mind if my DH, who is a SAHD, slept in until 10:30 on the daily while I worked. F that. I wouldn’t be mad about missing breakfast, I would be mad about the sleeping in that late. With kids? I can’t even imagine.

You said special breakfasts are very much out of the ordinary...so your spouse had not way of knowing that this was not a good morning for his normal habit.

I say, discuss it but not in an angry way.

Maybe say how nice it was -but he was missed--so next time, you will try to plan ahead so he can set his alarm.

[Anonymous]

This is no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Breakfast has nothing to do with it
Sleep till 10 am, that is a concern

[Anonymous]

I sleep in all the time. What is the big deal? Why couldn't you make breakfast one day vs. expecting to be waited on? Kids can get their own cereal or you can help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Breakfast has nothing to do with it
Sleep till 10 am, that is a concern

Why? Everybody has different sleep needs and schedules.

[Anonymous]

Uh. Of course you're upset. Why would you care what others feel?

I'd frankly be more concerned than upset, but I can understand that it would make you feel upset.

Your spouse should be screened for depression, and at a minimum, find a purpose and reason to wake up before 9am to model healthy habits for your children (who I assume will ALL have to get up before 9am in the Fall, online or not).

[Anonymous]

Y'all need to read "Why We Sleep". People have different chronotypes. That doesn't make them awful or lazy people.

If it's imposing a genuine burden on you, that's one thing. But it seems like you're just annoyed by the very fact of your spouse sleeping.

Mine loves to go to bed at 8:30. I stay up until 1 a lot. My spouse gets up at 6-7. I awaken at 8-9. We just have different sleep patterns and needs. When school is in session we flex to make it work, but now we're enjoying the freedom to suit our own particular chronotype. Where's the harm?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all much be must bigger people than I because I would lose my mind if my DH, who is a SAHD, slept in until 10:30 on the daily while I worked. F that. I wouldn’t be mad about missing breakfast, I would be mad about the sleeping in that late. With kids? I can’t even imagine.

The kids could be teens. This wouldn't bother me at all.