Spouse Slept through Breakfast

[Anonymous]

In this one instance I wouldn’t be upset. Between usually doing breakfast duty and having sleep troubles, which can really be wearing, I’d say you gave your spouse a gift today. Any little luxury in this Covid time means a lot.

[Anonymous]

I don’t even eat breakfast and hate having to wake up to gorge myself because someone else is imposing their personal/work schedule and diet habits in me.

Next time give a heads up the day before that you will make an elaborate breakfast for 10am tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

The only way this would be annoying was if today was a special day or event, e.g. an anniversary, birthday, etc. Or if you had scheduled it and announced it. If you just decided this morning that you had enough time to make breakfast, then no, it is not a reason to be annoyed.

In our household, we split the cooking. Both of us have done this in the past and both of us have at time slept in. We value each other enough that when one of us needs the rest that badly that we sleep that late, it's better for the family that that parent gets the sleep.

[Anonymous]

Did they change their routine after you starting working from home? Who got the kids up for school and breakfast before COVID?

Regardless this is unacceptable. They need to be up with the kids as you are.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I'd be annoyed by them sleeping through an impromptu elaborate breakfast - you created the work for yourself and they probably knew the kids were being supervised and picked sleep (understandable).

I would be annoyed if they were constantly sleeping until 11 while I had to watch the kids and work, but since you say there are sleeping difficulties involved I think it makes more sense.

[Anonymous]

huh??? DH and I trade off who gets to sleep in. It's usually only about once a week but it's bliss. Give each other grace. Why do you care about her sleeping in?

I'm currently working and DH is working every other week. I let him sleep until 10 while I watch our 1 and 3 year old. They're pretty happy and good in the morning so it's not a burden. I'm still able to work while they play and eat. Then by 10 they're bouncing off the walls. DH is eternally grateful I let him sleep in and usually does other kind things for me later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they depressed? Are they getting other things done during the day? That would impact my answer.

This was my first thought - depression

[Anonymous]

It sounds like normally breakfast for the kids is her responsibility? So maybe since you were on top of it, she decided to take the time for herself?

If your spouse is a SAHM and you refer a lot to how she "doesn't have a job," maybe she just doesn't like you.

Also, did you clean up from this breakfast? I kind of hate when my DH "decides to cook" because he splatters oil everywhere and never cleans the counters or the floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like normally breakfast for the kids is her responsibility? So maybe since you were on top of it, she decided to take the time for herself?

If your spouse is a SAHM and you refer a lot to how she "doesn't have a job," maybe she just doesn't like you.

Also, did you clean up from this breakfast? I kind of hate when my DH "decides to cook" because he splatters oil everywhere and never cleans the counters or the floor.

Normally the kids get their own breakfast (cereal) because spouse is sleeping and I am working. And I clean up meticulously afterward, thanks.

Interesting thought about how spouse just might not like me. Certainly possible, but I doubt it. You sound like someone whose spouse may not like them much though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only way this would be annoying was if today was a special day or event, e.g. an anniversary, birthday, etc. Or if you had scheduled it and announced it. If you just decided this morning that you had enough time to make breakfast, then no, it is not a reason to be annoyed.

In our household, we split the cooking. Both of us have done this in the past and both of us have at time slept in. We value each other enough that when one of us needs the rest that badly that we sleep that late, it's better for the family that that parent gets the sleep.

Reminds me of my neurotic spouse who woke everyone one up at 6am while going out to buy a ballon and forgot half the grocery list, then made everyone wake up and eat AT 7:30am for one kids bday meal, then rushed off and left a big clean up mess and plates of food in order to go do his work calls from 8am to 6pm.

Check the box, done, did it!!

So considerate and thoughtful, yeah.

[Anonymous]

Bloated? Seems like many are overeating with this stay at home all the time krap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only way this would be annoying was if today was a special day or event, e.g. an anniversary, birthday, etc. Or if you had scheduled it and announced it. If you just decided this morning that you had enough time to make breakfast, then no, it is not a reason to be annoyed.

In our household, we split the cooking. Both of us have done this in the past and both of us have at time slept in. We value each other enough that when one of us needs the rest that badly that we sleep that late, it's better for the family that that parent gets the sleep.

Reminds me of my neurotic spouse who woke everyone one up at 6am while going out to buy a ballon and forgot half the grocery list, then made everyone wake up and eat AT 7:30am for one kids bday meal, then rushed off and left a big clean up mess and plates of food in order to go do his work calls from 8am to 6pm.

Check the box, done, did it!!

So considerate and thoughtful, yeah.

Yeah that’s the same thing.

[Anonymous]

How old are the kids? Can they feed and entertain themselves, or are you on kid duty while also working? For me this would be a no-go because my kids are 1 and 3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like normally breakfast for the kids is her responsibility? So maybe since you were on top of it, she decided to take the time for herself?

If your spouse is a SAHM and you refer a lot to how she "doesn't have a job," maybe she just doesn't like you.

Also, did you clean up from this breakfast? I kind of hate when my DH "decides to cook" because he splatters oil everywhere and never cleans the counters or the floor.

Normally the kids get their own breakfast (cereal) because spouse is sleeping and I am working. And I clean up meticulously afterward, thanks.

Interesting thought about how spouse just might not like me. Certainly possible, but I doubt it. You sound like someone whose spouse may not like them much though.

Sounds like she need to sleep in. She can reheat her breakfast when she’s ready to eat it. If you’re still upset about something you both should talk about the family schedule and roles, responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

Must be the lesbian couple again. So tiresome having your every minute broadcast on dcum.