Freak accident

[Anonymous]

Op here. I’m not mad at the 8yo, because she wasn’t the one who was hitting me while I was unconscious, and also she’s just kinda clueless about these things. And finally she was very remorseful and upset when she found out I was actually unconscious. The 5yo is a different story. He kept laughing even afterwards- which made me even more livid.

And my husband roughhouses with them a lot. Play fights, and he lets them beat up on him, and he is rough with them. I don’t like that stuff, so I draw pretty clear boundaries with me in terms of hitting, etc.

We did have a very clear discussion after about what to do in that kind of situation. I’m not making excuses for my kids- I was disappointed in how they handled it. And yes- a bit concerned about their apparent lack of concern for me.

[Anonymous]

OP, wereyou actually passed out, or were you pretending to pass out to test how they’d respond. It would be very unusual for a 5yo to be able to choke you so quickly with a scarf just hanging around your neck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m not mad at the 8yo, because she wasn’t the one who was hitting me while I was unconscious, and also she’s just kinda clueless about these things. And finally she was very remorseful and upset when she found out I was actually unconscious. The 5yo is a different story. He kept laughing even afterwards- which made me even more livid.

And my husband roughhouses with them a lot. Play fights, and he lets them beat up on him, and he is rough with them. I don’t like that stuff, so I draw pretty clear boundaries with me in terms of hitting, etc.

We did have a very clear discussion after about what to do in that kind of situation. I’m not making excuses for my kids- I was disappointed in how they handled it. And yes- a bit concerned about their apparent lack of concern for me.

How do you know what exactly happened?
Do you have a security camera?

I still don’t get why you are making excuses for your 8yo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Knowing my kids, my best guess is that they thought I was playing, but also I am sure they must have had some inkling that something was wrong. My older child, while brilliant, lacks basic common sense and is oblivious and I can’t rely on the child to do things that make sense in unusual situations. My 5yo, while sweet, can be a wrecking ball and plays rough. If I had to guess, I think there was a part of him that was worried that I was not ok, and he was mildly panicking to get a reaction out of me by doing more and more violent things to me, while still acting like he was playing.

If you roughhouse with your kids, and if you play games with them and joke around (including playing a scarf-around-the-neck game), then that's what they thought you were doing.

I guess most of the other posters never play with their kids.

If playing with your kids means choke-out style games involving strangulation, that yeah, no.

+1. I’m not trying to raise a future serial killer.

[Anonymous]

Your 8 yr old needs some serious help. Really, OP. You can not excuse this away. That she just looked at you, shrugged, and took your phone to play games on it? That is MESSED UP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, wereyou actually passed out, or were you pretending to pass out to test how they’d respond. It would be very unusual for a 5yo to be able to choke you so quickly with a scarf just hanging around your neck.

I didn’t think it could happen either- he was hanging off the couch behind me, pulling my infinity scarf which was wrapped double around my neck. And I was leaning forward and I felt it choking me but didn’t think I’d actually pass out.

[Anonymous]

Wait. If you were “passed out”, how could you possibly know what your kids were doing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, wereyou actually passed out, or were you pretending to pass out to test how they’d respond. It would be very unusual for a 5yo to be able to choke you so quickly with a scarf just hanging around your neck.

I didn’t think it could happen either- he was hanging off the couch behind me, pulling my infinity scarf which was wrapped double around my neck. And I was leaning forward and I felt it choking me but didn’t think I’d actually pass out.

So you thought it was ok for him to choke you with your scarf.

Really strange details. It doesn’t seem all that freak.

Your 8yo just plays games while mom is unconscious. 5yo punches you while you are unconscious.

You really need to understand this is not acceptable behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, wereyou actually passed out, or were you pretending to pass out to test how they’d respond. It would be very unusual for a 5yo to be able to choke you so quickly with a scarf just hanging around your neck.

I didn’t think it could happen either- he was hanging off the couch behind me, pulling my infinity scarf which was wrapped double around my neck. And I was leaning forward and I felt it choking me but didn’t think I’d actually pass out.

Have you been to a doctor yet? You should probably be seen to make sure there aren’t any red flags for your health in here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m not mad at the 8yo, because she wasn’t the one who was hitting me while I was unconscious, and also she’s just kinda clueless about these things. And finally she was very remorseful and upset when she found out I was actually unconscious. The 5yo is a different story. He kept laughing even afterwards- which made me even more livid.

And my husband roughhouses with them a lot. Play fights, and he lets them beat up on him, and he is rough with them. I don’t like that stuff, so I draw pretty clear boundaries with me in terms of hitting, etc.

We did have a very clear discussion after about what to do in that kind of situation. I’m not making excuses for my kids- I was disappointed in how they handled it. And yes- a bit concerned about their apparent lack of concern for me.

How do you know what exactly happened?
Do you have a security camera?

I still don’t get why you are making excuses for your 8yo.

Because my 8yo doesn’t know how to lie, so I got the story from her. I’m not letting her totally off the hook, but she was just so upset and apologetic after (and she normally NEVER cries or apologizes).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your 8 yr old needs some serious help. Really, OP. You can not excuse this away. That she just looked at you, shrugged, and took your phone to play games on it? That is MESSED UP.

+1 Stop excusing your child as “clueless”. An 8 yo should have been panicking that you were not responding. That their response was to take your phone and play games shows there is something terribly wrong with your child’s mental state. You really need to have your child evaluated by a psychiatrist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, wereyou actually passed out, or were you pretending to pass out to test how they’d respond. It would be very unusual for a 5yo to be able to choke you so quickly with a scarf just hanging around your neck.

I didn’t think it could happen either- he was hanging off the couch behind me, pulling my infinity scarf which was wrapped double around my neck. And I was leaning forward and I felt it choking me but didn’t think I’d actually pass out.

Have you been to a doctor yet? You should probably be seen to make sure there aren’t any red flags for your health in here.

I have low blood pressure, so I do get lightheaded easily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your 8 yr old needs some serious help. Really, OP. You can not excuse this away. That she just looked at you, shrugged, and took your phone to play games on it? That is MESSED UP.

+1 Stop excusing your child as “clueless”. An 8 yo should have been panicking that you were not responding. That their response was to take your phone and play games shows there is something terribly wrong with your child’s mental state. You really need to have your child evaluated by a psychiatrist.

She IS seeing someone. She just doesn’t have common sense in these situations. Things need to be spelled out for her.

[Anonymous]

Is your 8yo on the spectrum, OP? Based on the way you describe her, she might benefit from some social skills classes?

No clue what to do about your 5yo. It doesn’t seem like normal behavior to me, but then again what do I know? Punching hard enough to give a black eye requires a lot of effort for a 5yo...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your 8 yr old needs some serious help. Really, OP. You can not excuse this away. That she just looked at you, shrugged, and took your phone to play games on it? That is MESSED UP.

+1 Stop excusing your child as “clueless”. An 8 yo should have been panicking that you were not responding. That their response was to take your phone and play games shows there is something terribly wrong with your child’s mental state. You really need to have your child evaluated by a psychiatrist.

She IS seeing someone. She just doesn’t have common sense in these situations. Things need to be spelled out for her.

Is she autistic? You should just say she has SN instead of having everyone telling you something is off with her and that she needs help.