Second Date- Yes or No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's his reaction to those things? Does he seem open to eating things he's never heard of? The openness to new experience would be more of the litmus test for a second date than past experience for me.

This

If he is open to doing new things great. If he doesnt even want to try new stuff like that then I say no to a 2nd date.

And stop trying to find another food he hadn't eaten. Somebody else said their Dh/BF hadn't ever tried avocado until college ... same same. You know, I grew up in a small town, not a lot of food choices, and not a lot of ethnic food. Avocado might seem like a standard now, but it sure as heck wasn't when I was growing up. Some people are also just naturally kind of shy around new foods.

So, be open to his limitations if he is willing to open up his limitations.

[Anonymous]

The problem with this guy is not his food choices. It is his stupidity. If he didn't know what the food choices were he could quickly find out (the world wide web) instead of responding like a plebe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He says he's never had Indian food. ...He doesn't read, never been to a play etc.

Never had Indian food: a little unusual, but completely unimportant.

Doesn't read: complete dealbreaker.

(I'm male, if it matters.)

+1. Im female.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem with this guy is not his food choices. It is his stupidity. If he didn't know what the food choices were he could quickly find out (the world wide web) instead of responding like a plebe.

Yep. How hard is it to type "pho" into Google and click n images?

"Oh, looks like noodle soup!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem with this guy is not his food choices. It is his stupidity. If he didn't know what the food choices were he could quickly find out (the world wide web) instead of responding like a plebe.

Yep. How hard is it to type "pho" into Google and click n images?

"Oh, looks like noodle soup!"

Nitpicky. He was honest. So let's say he googles it and then says, I've never had it. OP would think the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem with this guy is not his food choices. It is his stupidity. If he didn't know what the food choices were he could quickly find out (the world wide web) instead of responding like a plebe.

Yep. How hard is it to type "pho" into Google and click n images?

"Oh, looks like noodle soup!"

Nitpicky. He was honest. So let's say he googles it and then says, I've never had it. OP would think the same thing.

He's a moron. All he has to do is respond affirmatively to any and all requests.

[Anonymous]

You are not compatible at all. No need for a second date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently separated 46 year old UMC, post grad educated, white woman. I'd been married for 14 years. I haven't been with another man since before my husband.

My sister says I needed to say fvck it and just into into Tinder to 'get alive again'

First few dates are just really ick because its obvious the guys think it's basically a booty call. That's not my interest at all.

Match with another guy and we actually correspond for a week before meeting. We meet. He's cute-ish, a little short, but he's professional, well spoken and kind so I'm open to meet again.

I suggest Indian. He says he's never had Indian food. I figure he's kidding but he's not so I say how about Pho. He says he doesn't even know what that is. Alarms are going off. How does a 45 year old urban professional not know about Pho or curry? Just for fun I then suggest Banh Mi. Yeah, never heard of that. He's never been out off the country. He doesn't read, never been to a play etc.

He's incredibly uncultured and its weird given his station.

Would you go out again?

What exactly is his station, so to speak?

The DH of one of my friends sounds like this. He's quite wealthy, has made tons of $$$ as an exec at a large builder (like a Toll Bros). But he's very uncultured in many ways--won't eat anything spicier than salt, not well read, etc.

[Anonymous]

I eat in a lot of restaurants. But you haven't had a meal until you've tasted "Home Cooking." I was eating at one of the company's (AmEx) men's home in France. His wife is French. This woman can cook.

[Anonymous]

I’m sure he knows about things that you are not familiar with too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's his reaction to those things? Does he seem open to eating things he's never heard of? The openness to new experience would be more of the litmus test for a second date than past experience for me.

100% agree

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you aren’t into him. Decline a second date. But don’t do it based on food.

[Anonymous]

Did you enjoy his company? A second date would be a very good way of finding out more about him than simply whether or not he's had/done something.

It's just a date (assuming he wants another one). There are no major red flags here. Not even pink ones.

[Anonymous]

“No. Find someone compatible.”

This! There are many fishes in the sea and you shouldn’t have to work this hard to set up a second date with one. The right answer would have been “never had Indian, but willing to try!” The fact that he’s resistant to try, and doesn’t seem to be making suggestions of his own, suggests that he’s either not that interested or not up for dating in general.

[Anonymous]

Like others have said, it depends on his reaction to things. DH was once that guy when he was in his 20s. Just not really exposed to it as a kid and then kept to what he knew as a young adult. Girl he was dating before me opened him up to everything else there was to offer. I think a lot is just how you're raised. My FIL is awesome, but even when he goes to a place like NYC, he's looking to eat at Applebee's.