Second Date- Yes or No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He says he's never had Indian food. ...He doesn't read, never been to a play etc.

Never had Indian food: a little unusual, but completely unimportant.

Doesn't read: complete dealbreaker.

(I'm male, if it matters.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has he even brought up a second date? You may not be right for him either, and may never hear from him again. Problem solved.

If he does ask you out, simply and kindly tell him you don't think you have much in common and move on.

And by the way, the fact you tout your own background right up front as though it's a banner to be waved is a bit off-putting. Plus, calling him "uncultured" because he hasn't experienced what YOU have is judgmental without reason.

You don't even know him well enough to understand his background and life story. There may be many reasons he never travelled or hasn't tried all the global cuisines you have.

How about trying a little slice of Humble Pie before you go on your next date?

Whooah, your anger and aggression about a totally reasonable question is ... just...gross. Go take a walk or something.

Ha ha - if you think this is angry and aggressive you must be living under a rock. The answer is valid and related to the initial statements and question. As others have noted, OP seems to be a bit full of herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has he even brought up a second date? You may not be right for him either, and may never hear from him again. Problem solved.

If he does ask you out, simply and kindly tell him you don't think you have much in common and move on.

And by the way, the fact you tout your own background right up front as though it's a banner to be waved is a bit off-putting. Plus, calling him "uncultured" because he hasn't experienced what YOU have is judgmental without reason.

You don't even know him well enough to understand his background and life story. There may be many reasons he never travelled or hasn't tried all the global cuisines you have.

How about trying a little slice of Humble Pie before you go on your next date?

Whooah, your anger and aggression about a totally reasonable question is ... just...gross. Go take a walk or something.

Ha ha - if you think this is angry and aggressive you must be living under a rock. The answer is valid and related to the initial statements and question. As others have noted, OP seems to be a bit full of herself.

OP seemed fairly matter of fact about her descriptions IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has he even brought up a second date? You may not be right for him either, and may never hear from him again. Problem solved.

If he does ask you out, simply and kindly tell him you don't think you have much in common and move on.

And by the way, the fact you tout your own background right up front as though it's a banner to be waved is a bit off-putting. Plus, calling him "uncultured" because he hasn't experienced what YOU have is judgmental without reason.

You don't even know him well enough to understand his background and life story. There may be many reasons he never travelled or hasn't tried all the global cuisines you have.

How about trying a little slice of Humble Pie before you go on your next date?

Whooah, your anger and aggression about a totally reasonable question is ... just...gross. Go take a walk or something.

Ha ha - if you think this is angry and aggressive you must be living under a rock. The answer is valid and related to the initial statements and question. As others have noted, OP seems to be a bit full of herself.

Jealous much

[Anonymous]

If you like everything else about him, go on a second date. It'd be a great experience observing a guy in an unfamiliar environment (food). You could learn something new about him, good or bad.

[Anonymous]

WTF is pho?

[Anonymous]

Op, where you having fun ridiculing him during your date? You may think that you are pretty special, but your behavior shows your degree of immaturity. Grow up and respect. Just move on and good luck finding somebody that will put up with you.

[Anonymous]

You aren’t going to go on a second date with a kind guy because of his food preferences?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is pho?

Are you posting from South Dakota or something?

[Anonymous]

Everyone tries new foods for the first time, at some point. If you like the guy, sure, go on a second date. Maybe he'll be grateful for the rest of his life that you introduced him to pho and saag paneer, or maybe you'll spend the rest of your lives disagreeing about what to eat for dinner but otherwise happy - or maybe you'll have one more date then decide this isn't what you're after. It's just a date.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I'd be a bit cautious about a mid 40s guy in a major city that hasn't even heard of pho. I don't know how that is possible. His coworkers never had it for lunch? He doesnt read the Washington Post food section? They have a best pho in DC piece every year. He doesn't watch pop culture TV like Andrew Zimmerman or Bourdain?

Is he maybe autistic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is pho?

Dafuh? You mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I'd be a bit cautious about a mid 40s guy in a major city that hasn't even heard of pho. I don't know how that is possible. His coworkers never had it for lunch? He doesnt read the Washington Post food section? They have a best pho in DC piece every year. He doesn't watch pop culture TV like Andrew Zimmerman or Bourdain?

Is he maybe autistic?

I think this is the OP's point.

[Anonymous]

My friends and I have seen this kind of thing before. A lot of guys - even guys who are old enough and seem reasonably sophisticated - are really limited in their food choices. I imagine women can be too, but I don't date them to know.

Where did he grow up? Did he just recently move to the area? I grew up in Kansas, and if I'd stayed there for college and my 20's/30's, my experiences would be very different. My dad and brother still live there and I don't think they've ever eaten Indian, Korean, Ethiopian, etc.

Is he willing to expand his horizons for you? If not, I might take a pass. I like trying new things too much to date someone who purposely limits himself so much.

[Anonymous]

11:24 here - I do think you should go on a second date, but maybe not many dates after that. You've got to at least get to the bottom of this!!