Found out the guy I’m dating is waiting until marriage...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister was a virgin until she married at 26. That in 1995. I have never known a couple more obsessed with sex. It did not mean low drive.

+1^2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am also religious and recognize sex as being sacred. I am not a virgin but I don’t sleep around. New BF is okay with some sexual acts but not intercourse itself. I’m happy to keep dating - he’s the first guy I’ve really liked in a long time - but this isn’t a situation I’ve found myself in with a potentially serious boyfriend before.

Date him and see how it goes. Honestly, I think you’ll be far better off with him than many of the porn-obsessed guys that are in the dating pool now.

Agree. I’d give it a chance, personally. I had a BF like this in grad school. We had a great relationship while it lasted but differing long term goals. Like someone else said, too, I’ve dated plenty of guys I had an amazing sex life with, but the relationship itself sucked and went nowhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am also religious and recognize sex as being sacred. I am not a virgin but I don’t sleep around. New BF is okay with some sexual acts but not intercourse itself. I’m happy to keep dating - he’s the first guy I’ve really liked in a long time - but this isn’t a situation I’ve found myself in with a potentially serious boyfriend before.

It sounds like you could be a good match and if he is OK with some sexual acts and he turns out to be very good with them in terms of satisfying you then you can feel optimistic that he will be fine. But I would never marry someone with whom I had no sexual experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We like each other, talk every day, go out several times a week (started dating recently). Just found out that given his religious beliefs, he wants to wait until marriage to have sex. I’m late twenties, he’s early twenties. WWYD?

Give up the butt.

LOL, but yes, this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We like each other, talk every day, go out several times a week (started dating recently). Just found out that given his religious beliefs, he wants to wait until marriage to have sex. I’m late twenties, he’s early twenties. WWYD?

He gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nonstarter. Multiple reasons:

- there's no way to determine if you are truly a good fit until after you sleep together and have that level of physical intimacy. Before that, you're only playing the roles of good friends. It's important to figure out if you have good sexual chemistry, but it's also important to get to know this person during overnight stays, and not just three hour date segments.

- He's early thirties and has no sexual experience. Maybe when i was young i would have fussed around with a 21 year old who didn't know how to satisfy my needs, but not at this age.

- If he's early 30s and never had sex, this -could- be explained simply by his religious beliefs. But statistically, it's far more likely related to his either having extremely low sex drive or being gay or having some kind of sexual issues. Run. Don't walk.

- He's extremely religious and you're not. It's highly unlikely you'll end up together long term.

Absolute nonsense. These two might not be a fit if they have incompatible moral values, but the idea that people cannot have a successful and satisfying marriage unless they test-drive each other like a couple of objects is preposterous.

[Anonymous]

If he is a failed NFL quarterback, he might still be worth your time.

[Anonymous]

Is every kind of sex off the table, or just PIV? Is he OK with oral? Butsects? Maybe you can work this out.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a unicorn who can give you happiness and fidelity in marriage.

However, it is always worth doing a proper test drive, scientifically speaking.

Marriage (especially with kids) is simply too huge a commitment to be subject to risk of any incompatibility which cannot be resolved.

[Anonymous]

DH and I both were virgins. We dated for 6 years before marrying. We have a great sex life and my DH is a great husband.

[Anonymous]

He's definitely gay.

[Anonymous]

How deep do his religious beliefs go?

Is he also a Trump supporter, against same-sex marriage as well as a woman’s right to choose?!

If so, then he would be a no go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How deep do his religious beliefs go?

Is he also a Trump supporter, against same-sex marriage as well as a woman’s right to choose?!

If so, then he would be a no go.

That would be a dream man for me <3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We like each other, talk every day, go out several times a week (started dating recently). Just found out that given his religious beliefs, he wants to wait until marriage to have sex. I’m late twenties, he’s early twenties. WWYD?

Do you share similar religious beliefs? I had a friend who was a 35 year old virgin and despite being beautiful and smart, couldn't keep a boyfriend because she was saving herself. I later met a guy who wasn't a virgin, but decided to abstain until after marriage. I connected the two of them and they've now been married 5 years and have a 3 year old son.

And they've probably had sex twice (marriage night, and conceiving their child). I guess if it floats your boat.

So funny, and not true in many cases. It probably hot in their bedroom and wherever else they happen to be.

[Anonymous]

Some hoes on these threads