Feeling alone as mother of two boys

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wanted all boys and I “got lucky” and got them.

Me too.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I fear this too OP, and think about it often. I foresee old age being lonely.

You will he not because you have sons but because you’re bitter that you have sons, and they can sense that.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry OP. I’m glad you are going to talk to a professional about this. Do you have any friends who have 2+ boys/no girls? I have 2 boys too (and I love it and I would have been DEEPLY disappointed if I didn’t have a son) and I usually gravitate toward the boy moms. We find each other! There’s a lot of good things about having one of each, but there’s a lot of good things about having 2 boys. Focus on your sweet baby and know that this, too, shall pass!

[Anonymous]

I feel lucky that we didn't have girls. So happy to have boys.

[Anonymous]

Get screened for PPD for one. And two, I know plenty of families in which the sons of all ages are close to threat mothers and families. And not just ones with an only child. It's how you raise them and how you treat their girlfriends and wives. My dh is now much much closer to his family that he's seen me and my family and also since he became a dad and can see his parents love their grandchild. His mom had a health scare and he was there for a week for her in the hospital, talking to doctors, taking her dinner that I made or he picked up. Bringing her home after her stay, helping her shower, set up routines to take medication etc (all this with my FIL on the scene but just in shock and not too helpful).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s interesting that people have such strong gender preferences. I was so relieved when I found out I was having a boy and even now am so happy that we have a boy. Not that all boys or girls or the same of course, but almost all the girls I know are into cheer or dance or something along those lines, and I’d much rather be at baseball or basketball games. But it is what you make of it. Enjoy your kids’ interests, whatever they may be, and be thankful that your kids are healthy. My son loves me fiercely and I feel the same way about him. I get him in a way that even his dad doesn’t and raising a little boy is completely different than what I’m used to, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

This is one of the reasons I really wanted girls, I love the girly activities!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s interesting that people have such strong gender preferences. I was so relieved when I found out I was having a boy and even now am so happy that we have a boy. Not that all boys or girls or the same of course, but almost all the girls I know are into cheer or dance or something along those lines, and I’d much rather be at baseball or basketball games. But it is what you make of it. Enjoy your kids’ interests, whatever they may be, and be thankful that your kids are healthy. My son loves me fiercely and I feel the same way about him. I get him in a way that even his dad doesn’t and raising a little boy is completely different than what I’m used to, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

This is one of the reasons I really wanted girls, I love the girly activities!

Can you really be this selfish as to post this here on this thread where the OP is struggling

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanted all boys and I “got lucky” and got them.

Same. OP’s post is bizarro.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I fear this too OP, and think about it often. I foresee old age being lonely.

It is not the job of your children (boys or girls) to keep you from being lonely. That's what friends are for. Get some.

[Anonymous]

I have a boy (16). He's the greatest person I've ever known, from birth to teen. I don't expect that he'll be uninvolved as an adult, but I don't worry about it either. Boys to men are generally very loving and respectful to their moms. I expect yours will be too. Also, wait until the teen years when you spend time with their friends that are girls. You'll be very grateful to have no drama, easygoing guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s interesting that people have such strong gender preferences. I was so relieved when I found out I was having a boy and even now am so happy that we have a boy. Not that all boys or girls or the same of course, but almost all the girls I know are into cheer or dance or something along those lines, and I’d much rather be at baseball or basketball games. But it is what you make of it. Enjoy your kids’ interests, whatever they may be, and be thankful that your kids are healthy. My son loves me fiercely and I feel the same way about him. I get him in a way that even his dad doesn’t and raising a little boy is completely different than what I’m used to, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

This is one of the reasons I really wanted girls, I love the girly activities!

Can you really be this selfish as to post this here on this thread where the OP is struggling

Why not? Plenty of people are posting about how they wanted boys instead of girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and never thought about the whole "lose the son" business til I cam here. I'm sad that I didn't get one of each but happy for them as I expect [b]same sex siblings are closer. Also my MIL has one son and one daughter and the daughter is estranged from the family. They are local and my family isn't. They are who we invite for holidays and I got her wedding china and some of her jewelry (just as examples that I'm part of the family and she values me). It really is on a case by case basis.

Not always true.

Uh, hence the last sentence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s interesting that people have such strong gender preferences. I was so relieved when I found out I was having a boy and even now am so happy that we have a boy. Not that all boys or girls or the same of course, but almost all the girls I know are into cheer or dance or something along those lines, and I’d much rather be at baseball or basketball games. But it is what you make of it. Enjoy your kids’ interests, whatever they may be, and be thankful that your kids are healthy. My son loves me fiercely and I feel the same way about him. I get him in a way that even his dad doesn’t and raising a little boy is completely different than what I’m used to, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

This is one of the reasons I really wanted girls, I love the girly activities!

Can you really be this selfish as to post this here on this thread where the OP is struggling

Why not? Plenty of people are posting about how they wanted boys instead of girls.

I just ... wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I fear this too OP, and think about it often. I foresee old age being lonely.

It is not the job of your children (boys or girls) to keep you from being lonely. That's what friends are for. Get some.

+1

Also, another vote for getting screened for PPD. It’s very disturbing that you are extrapolating things about your entire parenting relationship and experience, and old age, because of your child’s genitalia.

[Anonymous]

I worry about this too and I have a boy and a girl. DH is a typical son who doesn't call, but still loves his parents. I work full time too and pushed back hard on the expectation that I plan everything with his family. I've been so hurt over the years by how they treat their daughter's family better than their son's (paid for her wedding, were there when she gave birth, on and on). I won't do that with my kids. I will treat them equally in expectation and gifts.