Husbands, what little things do you wish your wives would stop/change?

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Anonymous wrote:-I wish she would brush her teeth more often

-Actually set aside time for sex, instead of it being the last thing we do if she's still awake

-Stop wasting wine, leaving the cork off the bottle, not putting it away, pouring a whole glass and drinking none of it

-Don't be so self-conscious about receiving oral, or stop telling me "I haven't showered." Shower fresh is good but a a few to even several hours after is just as good, if not better. Don't waive me off unless you really have a good reason. Or...go take a damn shower if you're so concerned.

God! PSA - Take a shower or wash up at night. Follow good dental hygiene and wear fresh clothes to bed. How can people expect to be intimate with each other when they are not clean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish my wife would not leave her open diet Coke cans or glasses of water laying around. If you're done, toss them or put them in the sink. If they aren't done...just put them in the fridge or something. There is a half full can of diet Coke in one of the recliners cup holders. It's been there for 4 days. She will eventually get it. At least she doesn't leave dirty dishes laying around anymore.

Its a small thing, not even worth bringing up. But it drives me nuts sometimes.

We have this problem also, and she is modeling it for our DC. She is a *very* slow drinker and *very* forgetful, so I find mostly-full cans all over the place, even in places that defy common sense (precariously perched on bedside table; next to laptop. We have cat - this is begging for a mess). Once set down, they sit for hours or days until I finally just pitch them.

Untreated adult ADHD is a real pita.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She never takes her clean clothes out of the dryer.

Does not rinse coffee or tea cups when done, so they get rings inside them.

Mine forgets to take them out of the washer, and thinks it's perfectly fine to let them moulder there for days.

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I wish my wife would quit crowd sourcing every tiny thought that pops into her head by surveying the folks on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Is it too much to ask that she maintain an even somewhat tidy back passage? Toilet paper is not "killing the earth."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She never takes her clean clothes out of the dryer.

Does not rinse coffee or tea cups when done, so they get rings inside them.

a tiny bit of baking soda with get rid of the ring. Put some on a sponge with soap and viola!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She never takes her clean clothes out of the dryer.

Does not rinse coffee or tea cups when done, so they get rings inside them.

Mine forgets to take them out of the washer, and thinks it's perfectly fine to let them moulder there for days.

There is only 1 person in the house that takes things out of the dishwasher?

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Anonymous wrote:I’d love a hug when I get home from work. It’d just be nice to start to the evening. Currently, just the dogs come to say hello and if I try to hug her I’ll get an elbow.

The other thing is that if our son or I try to talk to her - please listen to what we’re saying instead of just cutting us off and mowing over us with a loud/aggressive/unpleasant opinion. It creates resentment from both of us.

I’m sure I’ve got some things to work on too.

Is it because she's moving around doing house or child care?

Yes, or work email/text, etc. I am too. Last night I got home and immediately started cleaning the kitchen, cooking dinner and helping our teen with math homework. I get it - there’s lots to be done, but the 10 seconds it takes to hug someone won’t take the household schedule off track.

Approaching me to GIVE you something--a hug--while I am busy doing something that benefits you/the household/your children shows that you don't notice or care what I'm doing. How about:


"Thank you for making dinner. Can I help with anything? When you're not busy, I'd love a hug."

Yeah, that’s the approach I usually take. She’ll get busy and forget. After about the 3rd time asking and 15 minutes or so it just feels like I’m begging and there’s stuff I can be doing for the household too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d love a hug when I get home from work. It’d just be nice to start to the evening. Currently, just the dogs come to say hello and if I try to hug her I’ll get an elbow.

The other thing is that if our son or I try to talk to her - please listen to what we’re saying instead of just cutting us off and mowing over us with a loud/aggressive/unpleasant opinion. It creates resentment from both of us.

I’m sure I’ve got some things to work on too.

Is it because she's moving around doing house or child care?

Yes, or work email/text, etc. I am too. Last night I got home and immediately started cleaning the kitchen, cooking dinner and helping our teen with math homework. I get it - there’s lots to be done, but the 10 seconds it takes to hug someone won’t take the household schedule off track.

Approaching me to GIVE you something--a hug--while I am busy doing something that benefits you/the household/your children shows that you don't notice or care what I'm doing. How about:


"Thank you for making dinner. Can I help with anything? When you're not busy, I'd love a hug."

Yeah, that’s the approach I usually take. She’ll get busy and forget. After about the 3rd time asking and 15 minutes or so it just feels like I’m begging and there’s stuff I can be doing for the household too.

NP here, I just book massages since my wife is uninterested in touch. Usually, they are the legit massages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She never takes her clean clothes out of the dryer.

Does not rinse coffee or tea cups when done, so they get rings inside them.

Mine forgets to take them out of the washer, and thinks it's perfectly fine to let them moulder there for days.

There is only 1 person in the house that takes things out of the dishwasher?

Yes I'm confused. Why doesn't he do it then. Then they won't sit there for days, problem solved, lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:-I wish she would brush her teeth more often

-Actually set aside time for sex, instead of it being the last thing we do if she's still awake

-Stop wasting wine, leaving the cork off the bottle, not putting it away, pouring a whole glass and drinking none of it

-Don't be so self-conscious about receiving oral, or stop telling me "I haven't showered." Shower fresh is good but a a few to even several hours after is just as good, if not better. Don't waive me off unless you really have a good reason. Or...go take a damn shower if you're so concerned.

The bottom paragraph. Take the hint for heavens sake, she is nicely letting you know she doesn't want to at that moment. She doesn't need to have a good reason to "waive you off". Sex isn't all about you and your needs. It's about both so please try to be respectful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d love a hug when I get home from work. It’d just be nice to start to the evening. Currently, just the dogs come to say hello and if I try to hug her I’ll get an elbow.

The other thing is that if our son or I try to talk to her - please listen to what we’re saying instead of just cutting us off and mowing over us with a loud/aggressive/unpleasant opinion. It creates resentment from both of us.

I’m sure I’ve got some things to work on too.

Is it because she's moving around doing house or child care?

Yes, or work email/text, etc. I am too. Last night I got home and immediately started cleaning the kitchen, cooking dinner and helping our teen with math homework. I get it - there’s lots to be done, but the 10 seconds it takes to hug someone won’t take the household schedule off track.

Approaching me to GIVE you something--a hug--while I am busy doing something that benefits you/the household/your children shows that you don't notice or care what I'm doing. How about:

"Thank you for making dinner. Can I help with anything? When you're not busy, I'd love a hug."

The day you have to ASK for a hug is the day your marriage is dead. You literally can’t put the dishes aside for TWO SECONDS to hug your spouse and show them the tiniest bit of affection? Jesus Christ.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wish my wife would not leave her open diet Coke cans or glasses of water laying around. If you're done, toss them or put them in the sink. If they aren't done...just put them in the fridge or something. There is a half full can of diet Coke in one of the recliners cup holders. It's been there for 4 days. She will eventually get it. At least she doesn't leave dirty dishes laying around anymore.

Its a small thing, not even worth bringing up. But it drives me nuts sometimes.

We have this problem also, and she is modeling it for our DC. She is a *very* slow drinker and *very* forgetful, so I find mostly-full cans all over the place, even in places that defy common sense (precariously perched on bedside table; next to laptop. We have cat - this is begging for a mess). Once set down, they sit for hours or days until I finally just pitch them.

Untreated adult ADHD is a real pita.

First poster here. She doesn't have ADHD, this is just a weird quirk of hers, hence why I don't find it a big deal in the end. She can spend her day being insanely productive and at the end of the day there will still be that damn can of diet Coke and an empty water glass on the table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d love a hug when I get home from work. It’d just be nice to start to the evening. Currently, just the dogs come to say hello and if I try to hug her I’ll get an elbow.

The other thing is that if our son or I try to talk to her - please listen to what we’re saying instead of just cutting us off and mowing over us with a loud/aggressive/unpleasant opinion. It creates resentment from both of us.

I’m sure I’ve got some things to work on too.

Is it because she's moving around doing house or child care?

Yes, or work email/text, etc. I am too. Last night I got home and immediately started cleaning the kitchen, cooking dinner and helping our teen with math homework. I get it - there’s lots to be done, but the 10 seconds it takes to hug someone won’t take the household schedule off track.

Approaching me to GIVE you something--a hug--while I am busy doing something that benefits you/the household/your children shows that you don't notice or care what I'm doing. How about:

"Thank you for making dinner. Can I help with anything? When you're not busy, I'd love a hug."

The day you have to ASK for a hug is the day your marriage is dead. You literally can’t put the dishes aside for TWO SECONDS to hug your spouse and show them the tiniest bit of affection? Jesus Christ.

Seriously expecting a hug every day upon entering the home is way over the top. Probably the busy time, how about letting the partner decide on when they want to give out the hugs, LOL. Little petty stuff, non-issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d love a hug when I get home from work. It’d just be nice to start to the evening. Currently, just the dogs come to say hello and if I try to hug her I’ll get an elbow.

The other thing is that if our son or I try to talk to her - please listen to what we’re saying instead of just cutting us off and mowing over us with a loud/aggressive/unpleasant opinion. It creates resentment from both of us.

I’m sure I’ve got some things to work on too.

Is it because she's moving around doing house or child care?

Yes, or work email/text, etc. I am too. Last night I got home and immediately started cleaning the kitchen, cooking dinner and helping our teen with math homework. I get it - there’s lots to be done, but the 10 seconds it takes to hug someone won’t take the household schedule off track.

Approaching me to GIVE you something--a hug--while I am busy doing something that benefits you/the household/your children shows that you don't notice or care what I'm doing. How about:


"Thank you for making dinner. Can I help with anything? When you're not busy, I'd love a hug."

Yeah, that’s the approach I usually take. She’ll get busy and forget. After about the 3rd time asking and 15 minutes or so it just feels like I’m begging and there’s stuff I can be doing for the household too.

So get busy and do stuff so she's not doing everything.