Sick of DH's Behavior

[Anonymous]

Clothes on the kitchen table? Ask hm once to remove. Then throw them all in a basket and sent upstairs (do not fold).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clothes on the kitchen table? Ask hm once to remove. Then throw them all in *edit* into the trash

Fixed it for ya.

Okay, maybe not the trash. But if my DH left his stuff out like that, it would disappear for awhile. Same as when my kids leave their stuff out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has he always been a slob?

OP--not at all. When we were dating: "no".

How long have you been married?

OP--Almost three years.

[Anonymous]

Ask the 16 yo if Dad has always been a slob and if that’s been an issue before for people living in the same house as him.

[Anonymous]

OP I hear ya. I got married last June. During the time I dated my now husband he was perfectly capable of flushing the toilet after he pees, wiping the seat if he pees on it, throwing the endless amount of paper towels he uses into the trash bin, taking his own plate to the sink after he eats, etc. I told him time and time again that I cannot live like a slob. I'm not a neat freak, but basic hygiene is important to me. I'm going to start hiding his shit from now on. I'm also going to stop flushing the toilet to see if he gets a hit. Me nagging is clearly not working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I hear ya. I got married last June. During the time I dated my now husband he was perfectly capable of flushing the toilet after he pees, wiping the seat if he pees on it, throwing the endless amount of paper towels he uses into the trash bin, taking his own plate to the sink after he eats, etc. I told him time and time again that I cannot live like a slob. I'm not a neat freak, but basic hygiene is important to me. I'm going to start hiding his shit from now on. I'm also going to stop flushing the toilet to see if he gets a hit. Me nagging is clearly not working.

Meant to say he no longer cares about any of the things he used to do when we were dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask the 16 yo if Dad has always been a slob and if that’s been an issue before for people living in the same house as him.

OP--Not at all. Ex-wife was a slob, was one of the reasons they divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I hear ya. I got married last June. During the time I dated my now husband he was perfectly capable of flushing the toilet after he pees, wiping the seat if he pees on it, throwing the endless amount of paper towels he uses into the trash bin, taking his own plate to the sink after he eats, etc. I told him time and time again that I cannot live like a slob. I'm not a neat freak, but basic hygiene is important to me. I'm going to start hiding his shit from now on. I'm also going to stop flushing the toilet to see if he gets a hit. Me nagging is clearly not working.

Meant to say he no longer cares about any of the things he used to do when we were dating.

OP here--it's like the switch flipped and someone expect you to be their maid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I hear ya. I got married last June. During the time I dated my now husband he was perfectly capable of flushing the toilet after he pees, wiping the seat if he pees on it, throwing the endless amount of paper towels he uses into the trash bin, taking his own plate to the sink after he eats, etc. I told him time and time again that I cannot live like a slob. I'm not a neat freak, but basic hygiene is important to me. I'm going to start hiding his shit from now on. I'm also going to stop flushing the toilet to see if he gets a hit. Me nagging is clearly not working.

Meant to say he no longer cares about any of the things he used to do when we were dating.

OP here--it's like the switch flipped and someone expect you to be their maid.

Is he feeling resentful over something? Something may be bothering him about your relationship, and he is acting out, instead of talking about it. See if you can get to the bottom of this, without specifically mentioning the issue of not cleaning up after himself.

We had a "peeing on the toilet seat" phase. Talk about stupid nonsense. I just asked if he'd forgotten how to pee properly, more joky than angry, I think that helped? Don't give up and start doing the lion's share of the housework, though, because you'll be doing that for life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask the 16 yo if Dad has always been a slob and if that’s been an issue before for people living in the same house as him.

OP--Not at all. Ex-wife was a slob, was one of the reasons they divorced.

Hmm. Yet here we are, talking about him being a slob...

[Anonymous]

Touché

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask the 16 yo if Dad has always been a slob and if that’s been an issue before for people living in the same house as him.

OP--Not at all. Ex-wife was a slob, was one of the reasons they divorced.

Hmm. Yet here we are, talking about him being a slob...

OP--She was a bigger slob I guess or it was both of them....my step-DC tells me her mom's house is a disaster with stuff stuck to the floor for months and bathroom never gets cleaned.

[Anonymous]

If you want it done, then do it yourself.

[Anonymous]

We went through a period where if he weren’t putting his clothes away, etc, I’d stick it all in his pillow.

[Anonymous]

He’s a ManChild.
Either put up with it forever or tell him you will never put up with it and keep on him to be an adult.