I saw him with the woman he left me for last night and it hurt.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, the worst. So sorry OP. Hang in there, you'll get past this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, he broke up with you 2 weeks ago and now he looks happy and in love??? Oh sweetie you have dodged a bullet.

Yes, I’m sorry, he is a d-bag. Try to spend time with your friends, keep busy, exercise... in time the hurt will fade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. Been there. All I can say is that the universe has your back. I’m 45 and all romantic relationships that ended that I didn’t want at the time to end we’re blessings in disguise because they Les me to my husband who I wouldn’t trade for the world. The pain will get easier. In the meantime hugs

This! But I’m 44. I’ve been heartbroken by many breakups over the years and I now can’t imagine being with any of those guys that I so desperately wanted to hold onto.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh why are you hanging out with your ex?

I’m not. I went out last night with friends and he was there with her.

A bad coincidence. Try not to go to places where you have a high chance of seeing him.

I agree. After my divorce, I intentionally moved to the other side of town just so I would not run into my ex--and it worked.

[Anonymous]

I'm a great rebound.

[Anonymous]

I got my heart excruciatingly ripped out of my chest with 3 different guys in my 20s. Two were long term relationships and the other I was in love with but it was unrequited (other than one time he used me for sex, but that’s another story). Anyway, it was a blessing in disguise. Two of them were selfish arrogant trust fund brats were treated me like a piece of trash. The other was a spineless wishy washy man child. So why was I in love with them? I now realize that it was just lust/physical attraction and that they had certain accoutrements that I wanted in my life. It certainly wasn’t their sparkling personalities! Anyway, they all married plain homely woman who couldn’t hold a candle to me on terms of attractiveness and I found a great DH who appreciates me and treats me the way I deserve to be treated. Once you get past the longing and the physical attraction and you have enough distance from the relationship, you will hopefully realize that he was wrong for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He looked happy. They looked happy and in love which sucked. That shouldn’t have been a surprise to me. I guess I just hoped he would change his mind.

She’s pretty and nice too which also stung. I wanted her to be a monster so I could go on justify hating her. We could probably have been friends in an alternate universe where she wasn’t my ex’s new girlfriend.

I hate that I’m thinking about him/ then. I be been good the last 2 weeks not looking at his social media. Deleted his number so I didn’t do anything stupid. Now all I can think about is them kissing and how he used to kiss me.
Ugh!

This isn’t my first break up. I’ve been dating since I was 16 and I’ll be 26 in a few weeks. I thought he was the one.

Poor 26 year old girl, fortunate enough to have been dating since 16 but not mature enough to put on her big girl pants when it comes to not getting her way in love.

There are women your age who struggle to attract men and you're whining about the man who got away.

Bitter isn’t a good look

[Anonymous]

I am sorry OP.

Felt like you multiple times.

What I usually do is put 100% of the focus on myself.

Be daring.
Try a new color + cut.
Switch up your makeup routine.
Buy a sexy new outfit.

Professionally whiten your teeth.
Start a workout routine.
Drink more water.

Avoid toxic situations/people.
Go back to school and make getting your Ph.D your new goal.

And most of all, leave everything up to karma.
It never forgets a face.
I promise!

[Anonymous]

I know the goal is to make op feel better, but why assume the guy is a jerk or that she will do better? None of us know how their relationship was or the future. Op I’m sincerely sorry you are sad and I hope things brighten for you soon. Take what lessons you may need from this situation and move forward in the direction you feel is best. Also kudos to you for blocking is number and social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know the goal is to make op feel better, but why assume the guy is a jerk or that she will do better? None of us know how their relationship was or the future. Op I’m sincerely sorry you are sad and I hope things brighten for you soon. Take what lessons you may need from this situation and move forward in the direction you feel is best. Also kudos to you for blocking is number and social media.

Oh please, he is kissy facing the new chick right in front of OP. He’s a jerk. And what people are trying to tell her is that he is not right for her, which is obviously the case or they would still be together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the goal is to make op feel better, but why assume the guy is a jerk or that she will do better? None of us know how their relationship was or the future. Op I’m sincerely sorry you are sad and I hope things brighten for you soon. Take what lessons you may need from this situation and move forward in the direction you feel is best. Also kudos to you for blocking is number and social media.

Oh please, he is kissy facing the new chick right in front of OP. He’s a jerk. And what people are trying to tell her is that he is not right for her, which is obviously the case or they would still be together.

^^^
And he was probably cheating on her with the new chick too since they broke up suddenly two weeks ago and he is already in a full blown relationship with new chick. So new chick is kind of a skank too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are feeling misdirected anger: you hate her because you are not ready yet to hate him. Give it time and you will see that he is not the man for you

OP has every right to hate “her”. The floozy was clearly hooking up with her boyfriend while they were still together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the goal is to make op feel better, but why assume the guy is a jerk or that she will do better? None of us know how their relationship was or the future. Op I’m sincerely sorry you are sad and I hope things brighten for you soon. Take what lessons you may need from this situation and move forward in the direction you feel is best. Also kudos to you for blocking is number and social media.

Oh please, he is kissy facing the new chick right in front of OP. He’s a jerk. And what people are trying to tell her is that he is not right for her, which is obviously the case or they would still be together.

^^^
And he was probably cheating on her with the new chick too since they broke up suddenly two weeks ago and he is already in a full blown relationship with new chick. So new chick is kind of a skank too.

Plus - OP is 26! She will heal, and she will find love again. This isn’t a thread about a middle aged woman with kids getting a divorce and wondering what her future holds. Geez. OP has EVERY REASON to believe her romantic future is bright. But unfortunately she has to get through this pain and grief first. So many of us have BTDT, including me. It will fade, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I’m sorry you are hurting right now. I’m old enough to be your mom. When I was your age I went through a similar break up. I pined for him for a while and hoped he would change his mind and come back to me. He never did. He married her. I did a few years later meet my now DH and he’s a better fit for me. In a weird twist of fate our kids are actually dating. I know you can’t see it now but as great as your ex was he was not the one for you. Your guy will come. For now be hurt. Wallow for a bit, but then get back out there and live your life. Hugs.

Omgness. That twist of fate would kill me! How bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I’m sorry you are hurting right now. I’m old enough to be your mom. When I was your age I went through a similar break up. I pined for him for a while and hoped he would change his mind and come back to me. He never did. He married her. I did a few years later meet my now DH and he’s a better fit for me. In a weird twist of fate our kids are actually dating. I know you can’t see it now but as great as your ex was he was not the one for you. Your guy will come. For now be hurt. Wallow for a bit, but then get back out there and live your life. Hugs.

Omgness. That twist of fate would kill me! How bizarre.

If I was still in love with him and pining for him yes it would hurt. Im in my 50s now any lingering feelings I had for him are long gone. I’m happily married to a man I adore and we have a great life together. My ex and his wife seem very happy together and from what I’ve observed have raised a great kid.