I saw him with the woman he left me for last night and it hurt.

[Anonymous]

He was not the one, you got lucky he broke up with you. You are young, try to be happy.

[Anonymous]

Did he cheat on you, leave you for her, or break up with you then start dating her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. Been there. All I can say is that the universe has your back. I’m 45 and all romantic relationships that ended that I didn’t want at the time to end we’re blessings in disguise because they Les me to my husband who I wouldn’t trade for the world. The pain will get easier. In the meantime hugs

Same story here.
My worst breakup was when I was 29 and my boyfriend of two years dumped me via phone, while I had the flu! I was devastated and a year later, ran into him on the street with his _new wife and baby_. WTF. Twenty years later I can say thank god I didn’t end up with him, for myriad reasons.

Hang in there, OP. You’re in a lot of pain today. You will be happy again. Take care of yourself and remember these intense, sad feelings will pass. Hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he cheat on you, leave you for her, or break up with you then start dating her?

I don’t know when he met her. I honestly don’t believe he was cheating on me with her. AllI know is one minute we were happy and the next thing I know he wanted to end things. That was a little over 2 weeks ago and now he’s with her. I assume she’s the reason we broke up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh why are you hanging out with your ex?

I’m not. I went out last night with friends and he was there with her.

A bad coincidence. Try not to go to places where you have a high chance of seeing him.

Yes coincidence I’m not stalking him. I went ice skating with my friends. They wanted to get me out of the house. He never took me ice skating so I didn’t think he’d be there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go on a lot of dates.

I don’t want to date. I want him. ? pathetic I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He looked happy. They looked happy and in love which sucked. That shouldn’t have been a surprise to me. I guess I just hoped he would change his mind.

She’s pretty and nice too which also stung. I wanted her to be a monster so I could go on justify hating her. We could probably have been friends in an alternate universe where she wasn’t my ex’s new girlfriend.

I hate that I’m thinking about him/ then. I be been good the last 2 weeks not looking at his social media. Deleted his number so I didn’t do anything stupid. Now all I can think about is them kissing and how he used to kiss me.
Ugh!

This isn’t my first break up. I’ve been dating since I was 16 and I’ll be 26 in a few weeks. I thought he was the one.

Poor 26 year old girl, fortunate enough to have been dating since 16 but not mature enough to put on her big girl pants when it comes to not getting her way in love.

There are women your age who struggle to attract men and you're whining about the man who got away.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. I understand. I was forced to end it with the one I really wanted because he met HER. He would not cut it off with me so I cut it off. He married her. I never really got over it and I married the wrong person. What is awful is that coincidentally she takes their kid to the same preschool I do and I see her several times a week. I have no idea if she knows who I am. It's been more than 10 years. The pain is not as bad as if I would have seen her right after the break up...I can imagine that is truly awful. So sorry you had to see it. It will get easier in time, but it may not ever truly go away. Depends on how your future romantic life works out an d if you end up happy with it or not.

[Anonymous]

You want him because you can’t have him not necessarily because he is the one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He looked happy. They looked happy and in love which sucked. That shouldn’t have been a surprise to me. I guess I just hoped he would change his mind.

She’s pretty and nice too which also stung. I wanted her to be a monster so I could go on justify hating her. We could probably have been friends in an alternate universe where she wasn’t my ex’s new girlfriend.

I hate that I’m thinking about him/ then. I be been good the last 2 weeks not looking at his social media. Deleted his number so I didn’t do anything stupid. Now all I can think about is them kissing and how he used to kiss me.
Ugh!

This isn’t my first break up. I’ve been dating since I was 16 and I’ll be 26 in a few weeks. I thought he was the one.

Poor 26 year old girl, fortunate enough to have been dating since 16 but not mature enough to put on her big girl pants when it comes to not getting her way in love.

There are women your age who struggle to attract men and you're whining about the man who got away.

I can’t imagine why you don’t attract dates.

[Anonymous]

Op, I’m sorry you are hurting right now. I’m old enough to be your mom. When I was your age I went through a similar break up. I pined for him for a while and hoped he would change his mind and come back to me. He never did. He married her. I did a few years later meet my now DH and he’s a better fit for me. In a weird twist of fate our kids are actually dating. I know you can’t see it now but as great as your ex was he was not the one for you. Your guy will come. For now be hurt. Wallow for a bit, but then get back out there and live your life. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Good on him. He did exactly what DCUM preaches. Hypergamy!

[Anonymous]

Happened to me many times. Time heals all wounds. There is not a single one I pine after now. In fact, the one that hurt the most (best friend tinlovers then cheated on me with my then roommate,) is evidently a serial philanderer with a wife and 3 kids. And the roommate 50 now and never married, promising career went nowhere.

[Anonymous]

Wait, he broke up with you 2 weeks ago and now he looks happy and in love??? Oh sweetie you have dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. Been there. All I can say is that the universe has your back. I’m 45 and all romantic relationships that ended that I didn’t want at the time to end we’re blessings in disguise because they Les me to my husband who I wouldn’t trade for the world. The pain will get easier. In the meantime hugs

Same story here.
My worst breakup was when I was 29 and my boyfriend of two years dumped me via phone, while I had the flu! I was devastated and a year later, ran into him on the street with his _new wife and baby_. WTF. Twenty years later I can say thank god I didn’t end up with him, for myriad reasons.

Hang in there, OP. You’re in a lot of pain today. You will be happy again. Take care of yourself and remember these intense, sad feelings will pass. Hugs to you.

Oh the tears I cried for so many men. Each one was excruciating and I pined for them to take me back.
Many decades later, I’m friends with most of them on FB. Looking at their lives now I realize what a bad fit we were. So so glad that all those relationships ended. Took me until 40 to get married, but he’s the perfect fit for me.

Hang in there OP, it does get better.