Tell me about being a mistress

[Anonymous]

You are single and cannot find another single person to have sex with so your solution is to find a married guy to have sex with. You are too dumb for words and finding someone dumber than you, married or single, will be difficult. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

I get it OP, married men are exciting, they will pursue you heavily but its a loosing proposition. Yes, most lie and why give their wived the opion of not fulfilling the duties of the marriage.

You you go in it with your eyes wide open, keep them open.

[Anonymous]

It's right there in OP's post. She has a crush on a specific married man. That's who this is about.

[Anonymous]

31 yo DH here that has a mistress with permission from DW. There is something special that a married man offers a mistress that a single man cannot. Knowing that he is in a stable committed relationship gives a certain element of security and personal safety that some random single dude cannot. I believe that this allows her to feel more free to give and take what satisfies her needs. This creates a firy and primal connection between he and the mistress that leaves both feeling an increased level of satisfaction.

However, the mistress may develop feelings as others said. In my case, I warned mine not to because I would end it without second chance. So far so good for all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you want to help ruining a family? It’s one thing if you fall in love with a married man. If you look for one, you are just despicable and there is really something wrong with tou

+1

[Anonymous]

OP, it's good to recognize that--as someone who would seriously consider sleeping with a married man--you are not worthy of being married or in a long-term relationship, but you can work on that, you know.

[Anonymous]

I will never understand why women accept so little of men and in the case of an affair (even if just for sex) both women are being mistreated and disrespected.

You say you are cynical about men but you’re not better apparently. Take a sincere look at yourself and figure out if you have a pattern of making bad devisions and if that’s the reason you haven’t been successful in relationships.

[Anonymous]

Watch Discovery ID for a while. You might change your mind. People kill for love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's good to recognize that--as someone who would seriously consider sleeping with a married man--you are not worthy of being married or in a long-term relationship, but you can work on that, you know.

Of course she's "worthy", being married isn't s a special thing that you have to prove you are good enough for. Anyone can, and does, get married. She's not ready for a good relationship, and she has some things to work through clearly, but it's not about being worthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's good to recognize that--as someone who would seriously consider sleeping with a married man--you are not worthy of being married or in a long-term relationship, but you can work on that, you know.

Of course she's "worthy", being married isn't s a special thing that you have to prove you are good enough for. Anyone can, and does, get married. She's not ready for a good relationship, and she has some things to work through clearly, but it's not about being worthy.

Yes, it is. I previously sought out what OP is seeking. It ended up hurting me. But it also forced me to recognize I had a problem. I didn’t think I was worthy of a real relationship and wasn’t able to connect with a man. Once I fixed myself I fell in love and got married. I can assure you marriage is way better than being a man’s side thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:31 yo DH here that has a mistress with permission from DW. There is something special that a married man offers a mistress that a single man cannot. Knowing that he is in a stable committed relationship gives a certain element of security and personal safety that some random single dude cannot. I believe that this allows her to feel more free to give and take what satisfies her needs. This creates a firy and primal connection between he and the mistress that leaves both feeling an increased level of satisfaction.

However, the mistress may develop feelings as others said. In my case, I warned mine not to because I would end it without second chance. So far so good for all.

And what happens when you discover you have developed feelings for your mistress?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also keep in mind he’ll probably have a whole sob story about how his wife won’t have sex with him [which of course is actually true] and is an all-around witch [probably also true]. You’ll feel sorry for him [as you should]. Then one day, years from now when you’re married with kids, you’ll realize that the wife wasn’t the problem. There’s a reason wives lose interest [it's called, "getting married"], and it’s because their husbands are losers [definition of "loser": nice, ordinary, hard-working guy who has been married for a couple of years and now wifey is bored]. Although, you may be able to find a guy whose wife would be thrilled if you have an affair, since it means he’ll stop bugging her for sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:31 yo DH here that has a mistress with permission from DW. There is something special that a married man offers a mistress that a single man cannot. Knowing that he is in a stable committed relationship gives a certain element of security and personal safety that some random single dude cannot. I believe that this allows her to feel more free to give and take what satisfies her needs. This creates a firy and primal connection between he and the mistress that leaves both feeling an increased level of satisfaction.

However, the mistress may develop feelings as others said. In my case, I warned mine not to because I would end it without second chance. So far so good for all.

You think women like being mistresses because it provides security, but you also tell her that you would immediately end things should she develop feelings?

Scratching my head over here......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also keep in mind he’ll probably have a whole sob story about how his wife won’t have sex with him [which of course is actually true] and is an all-around witch [probably also true]. You’ll feel sorry for him [as you should]. Then one day, years from now when you’re married with kids, you’ll realize that the wife wasn’t the problem. There’s a reason wives lose interest [it's called, "getting married"], and it’s because their husbands are losers [definition of "loser": nice, ordinary, hard-working guy who has been married for a couple of years and now wifey is bored]. Although, you may be able to find a guy whose wife would be thrilled if you have an affair, since it means he’ll stop bugging her for sex.

Touched a nerve there, huh?

[Anonymous]

One of my friends was involved with a married guy. He told her his marriage was in name only, completely sexless, wife was cold and unstable and didn’t understand him etc, but he was staying for their kid. After just over two years my friend found the wife’s blog and realized they’d had two more kids while she was being told there was no sex in 5+ years.