Tell me about being a mistress

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So get a f*ck buddy. Why would you ruin someone's marriage just so you can get laid?

OP isn't married. She has no obligations to any marriage.

That said: OP, I think you will come out of this feeling bad/ unfulfilled, because he won't leave his wife and you will develop feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Surely there are plenty of unmarried men who would agree to no-strings-attached sex, no?

Self fulfilling prophecy. OP believes all men are horrible, she gets to prove this by being with a cheater. She then absolves her self of all wrongdoing because all mean are horrible and the wife should expect this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So get a f*ck buddy. Why would you ruin someone's marriage just so you can get laid?

OP isn't married. She has no obligations to any marriage.

That said: OP, I think you will come out of this feeling bad/ unfulfilled, because he won't leave his wife and you will develop feelings.

OP is a human and has an obligation not to be n asshole to other human.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So get a f*ck buddy. Why would you ruin someone's marriage just so you can get laid?

OP isn't married. She has no obligations to any marriage.

That said: OP, I think you will come out of this feeling bad/ unfulfilled, because he won't leave his wife and you will develop feelings.

OP is a human and has an obligation not to be n asshole to other human.

As per whom?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So get a f*ck buddy. Why would you ruin someone's marriage just so you can get laid?

OP isn't married. She has no obligations to any marriage.

That said: OP, I think you will come out of this feeling bad/ unfulfilled, because he won't leave his wife and you will develop feelings.

OP is a human and has an obligation not to be n asshole to other human.

As per whom?

Anyone who is not an asshole.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So get a f*ck buddy. Why would you ruin someone's marriage just so you can get laid?

OP isn't married. She has no obligations to any marriage.

That said: OP, I think you will come out of this feeling bad/ unfulfilled, because he won't leave his wife and you will develop feelings.

OP is a human and has an obligation not to be n asshole to other human.

As per whom?

Anyone who is not an asshole.

This times a million. I feel really sorry for you if you think otherwise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So get a f*ck buddy. Why would you ruin someone's marriage just so you can get laid?

OP isn't married. She has no obligations to any marriage.

That said: OP, I think you will come out of this feeling bad/ unfulfilled, because he won't leave his wife and you will develop feelings.

OP is a human and has an obligation not to be n asshole to other human.

As per whom?

Anyone who is not an asshole.

Spoken like a spouse of a cheater.
OP can do whatever she wants. She has no obligation to anyone else, or their marriage. OP can get involved with your husband, or mine, or my neighbor's... IF the husbands agree. They have obligations- OP doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm feeling terribly cynical about men and relationships in general. I do not feel equipped to be in a relationship, but I want consistent sex. There is a married man in my orbit whom I think would go for it.

If you've been an OW, what advice do you have?

How do you think getting involved with a married man will benefit your life? Why do you want to invite that drama into your life? It would be 10 times easier for you to find a FWB .

Better if you stopped dating and sex for 6-12 months and get therapy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So get a f*ck buddy. Why would you ruin someone's marriage just so you can get laid?

OP isn't married. She has no obligations to any marriage.

That said: OP, I think you will come out of this feeling bad/ unfulfilled, because he won't leave his wife and you will develop feelings.

OP is a human and has an obligation not to be n asshole to other human.

As per whom?

Anyone who is not an asshole.

Spoken like a spouse of a cheater.
OP can do whatever she wants. She has no obligation to anyone else, or their marriage. OP can get involved with your husband, or mine, or my neighbor's... IF the husbands agree. They have obligations- OP doesn't.

Spoken like a cheater and an asshole.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So get a f*ck buddy. Why would you ruin someone's marriage just so you can get laid?

OP isn't married. She has no obligations to any marriage.

That said: OP, I think you will come out of this feeling bad/ unfulfilled, because he won't leave his wife and you will develop feelings.

OP is a human and has an obligation not to be n asshole to other human.

As per whom?

Anyone who is not an asshole.

Spoken like a spouse of a cheater.
OP can do whatever she wants. She has no obligation to anyone else, or their marriage. OP can get involved with your husband, or mine, or my neighbor's... IF the husbands agree. They have obligations- OP doesn't.

Yes OP can do that and that would make her an asshole.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So get a f*ck buddy. Why would you ruin someone's marriage just so you can get laid?

OP isn't married. She has no obligations to any marriage.

That said: OP, I think you will come out of this feeling bad/ unfulfilled, because he won't leave his wife and you will develop feelings.

OP is a human and has an obligation not to be n asshole to other human.

As per whom?

Anyone who is not an asshole.

Spoken like a spouse of a cheater.
OP can do whatever she wants. She has no obligation to anyone else, or their marriage. OP can get involved with your husband, or mine, or my neighbor's... IF the husbands agree. They have obligations- OP doesn't.

Give OP your contact information. She's in need of a husband to bang.

[Anonymous]

If you’re going to do it, go for a very wealthy guy who has an understanding with his wife (she has her playthings, he has his). Otherwise it’s really not worth the hassle. With a regular joe, you have to deal with a pretty restricted schedule and very limited money. I know you say you just want sex, but “just sex” gets boring very quickly. You need other activities to help increase attraction. Also, he’ll be paranoid about getting caught, so if the parents of a kid in his class walk in the restaurant you’re at, you have to go hide (I speak from experience....)

Also keep in mind he’ll probably have a whole sob story about how his wife won’t have sex with him and is an all-around witch. You’ll feel sorry for him. Then one day, years from now when you’re married with kids, you’ll realize that the wife wasn’t the problem. There’s a reason wives lose interest, and it’s because their husbands are losers. Although, you may be able to find a guy whose wife would be thrilled if you have an affair, since it means he’ll stop bugging her for sex.

Overall, I don’t recommend it unless you can snag someone worthwhile. Way easier to just find a FWB. Single guys also tend to be much hotter than married guys (who generally let themselves go).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to do it, go for a very wealthy guy who has an understanding with his wife (she has her playthings, he has his). Otherwise it’s really not worth the hassle. With a regular joe, you have to deal with a pretty restricted schedule and very limited money. I know you say you just want sex, but “just sex” gets boring very quickly. You need other activities to help increase attraction. Also, he’ll be paranoid about getting caught, so if the parents of a kid in his class walk in the restaurant you’re at, you have to go hide (I speak from experience....)

Also keep in mind he’ll probably have a whole sob story about how his wife won’t have sex with him and is an all-around witch. You’ll feel sorry for him. Then one day, years from now when you’re married with kids, you’ll realize that the wife wasn’t the problem. There’s a reason wives lose interest, and it’s because their husbands are losers. Although, you may be able to find a guy whose wife would be thrilled if you have an affair, since it means he’ll stop bugging her for sex.

Overall, I don’t recommend it unless you can snag someone worthwhile. Way easier to just find a FWB. Single guys also tend to be much hotter than married guys (who generally let themselves go).

Make that his kid’s class, not his class, ha.

[Anonymous]

OP you sound like you need therapy to examine your self-destructive tendencies.

Putting aside all the morality issues, it is odd that if you are looking for consistent sex with one person you would go straight to married man rather than single fwb. A single FWB would likely have more availability and would not come with all the drama of a married man. Also you are much more likely to get a young hottie who is still fit.

[Anonymous]

Married men want sex, but the sex is an hour at lunch in a hotel. They can’t get away often, and you accommodate their schedule, not yours. It is a really crappy thing to do to another woman, but you don’t realize that until you are a mature human being. Depending on his finances, he can’t leave a financial trail, so he either has to have bank, or you will be paying for stuff if you want anything other than take out because he can’t be seen out with you. Overall, it’s a D*CK move on your part. Grow up.