Birthday Gift For New Girlfriend.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never get engaged to someone I'd only known for six months.

I would appreciate something meaningful rather than something just expensive. If you both like hiking (and your knee is fine) take her hiking somewhere with beautiful views. But I vote think meaningful rather than big.

Op here. I am not getting engaged yet. I feel it’s headed in that direction, but waiting a good year is best. How expensive is too expensive. There is a nice jewelry set ( necklace and earrings) with her birth stone for about $400. Maybe we can go to a hotel of Inn with a spa.

If you can afford it $400 is reasonable. I'd appreciate that.

I am NP and please don't take it offensive but I what kind of jewelry set is for $400? Is it costume jewelry? I am not trying to be snarky just wondering as I can't find anything under 1k as a gift.

Sigh...comments like this so make me wish that I could find the modified, down to earth version of DCUM somewhere else. I'd fit in with that group better. $400 is a hell of a nice gift for a new gf. I honestly think that is too high.

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Ronco 5-Tray Electric Food Dehydrator. She will go wild.

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Anonymous wrote:Her birthday is a little far out ( Memorial Day weekend) but I’m trying to plan something big. We met in December and have had a crazy couple of months. Besides the usual first months of dating, I had surgery for appendicitis and had a knee surgery. During those times, she took care of me. I really like her and want to do something big to not only show my feelings for her are very deep, but repay her for everything she has done. I realize most women would have left at that point, but she stuck by my side. We are both early 30’s, love being active, camping, beaches, hiking, etc.

both early 30s, dating 6+ mos, you should know by now if she is "The One". If she isn't and you can't commit to a ring, cut her loose, and let her find a man, who she can depend on and marry. You know she's not "The One", you just feel you want to "repay her" for her kindness, otherwise you wouldn't have to ask what to get her. Please, stop wasting her time.

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Anonymous wrote:Her birthday is a little far out ( Memorial Day weekend) but I’m trying to plan something big. We met in December and have had a crazy couple of months. Besides the usual first months of dating, I had surgery for appendicitis and had a knee surgery. During those times, she took care of me. I really like her and want to do something big to not only show my feelings for her are very deep, but repay her for everything she has done. I realize most women would have left at that point, but she stuck by my side. We are both early 30’s, love being active, camping, beaches, hiking, etc.

both early 30s, dating 6+ mos, you should know by now if she is "The One". If she isn't and you can't commit to a ring, cut her loose, and let her find a man, who she can depend on and marry. You know she's not "The One", you just feel you want to "repay her" for her kindness, otherwise you wouldn't have to ask what to get her. Please, stop wasting her time.

Op here. You’re wrong. I am not leading her on, and I know she is someone I want to be with for a long time, but I know she would be freaked out with a ring at 6 months. We moved talked about it and she said at our age, around a year mark seems like a good idea whether to know or not. I think many of you probably rush into things and wonder why it fails. Most don’t get engaged after only 6 months of dating.

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Anonymous wrote:Her birthday is a little far out ( Memorial Day weekend) but I’m trying to plan something big. We met in December and have had a crazy couple of months. Besides the usual first months of dating, I had surgery for appendicitis and had a knee surgery. During those times, she took care of me. I really like her and want to do something big to not only show my feelings for her are very deep, but repay her for everything she has done. I realize most women would have left at that point, but she stuck by my side. We are both early 30’s, love being active, camping, beaches, hiking, etc.

That is very sweet, Op! Do you know what she likes? Ie besides hiking? For some women getting jewelry is great but, for me I don't like it and find it very boring ( I know I am not the usual women but then again my grandma liked getting stocks and bonds for her birthday!) I disagree with the person who says a trip is not a present! I love to travel so that is one of my favorite...or a show in ny. Is she a Hamilton fan? Maybe tickets to see that?

Good luck!

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Op here. I can spend more on a gift. I make about $300k a year, but she’s not materialistic. She is from the Midwest and not all “ I need a guy to make X amount and buy me X things” like many women in DC.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I can spend more on a gift. I make about $300k a year, but she’s not materialistic. She is from the Midwest and not all “ I need a guy to make X amount and buy me X things” like many women in DC.

I too am from the Midwest so I can relate. You sound like a good, solid guy. Follow your heart and follow her lead. She probably would enjoy an experience/trip more than anything. Best of luck to both of you!

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I can spend more on a gift. I make about $300k a year, but she’s not materialistic. She is from the Midwest and not all “ I need a guy to make X amount and buy me X things” like many women in DC.

You're just CHEAP & not too creative. 30+ yo & $300K a year- you are asking a website what to get her? TROLL.
No respectable DC woman would put up with you

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Anonymous wrote:Her birthday is a little far out ( Memorial Day weekend) but I’m trying to plan something big. We met in December and have had a crazy couple of months. Besides the usual first months of dating, I had surgery for appendicitis and had a knee surgery. During those times, she took care of me. I really like her and want to do something big to not only show my feelings for her are very deep, but repay her for everything she has done. I realize most women would have left at that point, but she stuck by my side. We are both early 30’s, love being active, camping, beaches, hiking, etc.

That is very sweet, Op! Do you know what she likes? Ie besides hiking? For some women getting jewelry is great but, for me I don't like it and find it very boring ( I know I am not the usual women but then again my grandma liked getting stocks and bonds for her birthday!) I disagree with the person who says a trip is not a present! I love to travel so that is one of my favorite...or a show in ny. Is she a Hamilton fan? Maybe tickets to see that?

Good luck!

Op here. Yes, we have a lot of common interest, and I know her well enough to know what she likes. We are both very into running, hiking, going to spas, camping, concerts, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I can spend more on a gift. I make about $300k a year, but she’s not materialistic. She is from the Midwest and not all “ I need a guy to make X amount and buy me X things” like many women in DC.

I too am from the Midwest so I can relate. You sound like a good, solid guy. Follow your heart and follow her lead. She probably would enjoy an experience/trip more than anything. Best of luck to both of you!

Seriously? You’re attacking him because he’s asking a question? Many successful men and women asking what to get their partners. I guess you are in the group of high maintenance women OP mentioned and it upset you. Oh well!

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I can spend more on a gift. I make about $300k a year, but she’s not materialistic. She is from the Midwest and not all “ I need a guy to make X amount and buy me X things” like many women in DC.

I too am from the Midwest so I can relate. You sound like a good, solid guy. Follow your heart and follow her lead. She probably would enjoy an experience/trip more than anything. Best of luck to both of you!

Seriously? You’re attacking him because he’s asking a question? Many successful men and women asking what to get their partners. I guess you are in the group of high maintenance women OP mentioned and it upset you. Oh well!

Sorry, not meant for you. This was meant for the poster who called OP cheap.