For Cheaters Who Were Caught Red Handed.

[Anonymous]

My cousin was being cheated on. He saw a mutual friend of his wife and him out somewhere and the guy said: "I didn't know you and Larla weren't together anymore?"

"Huh?" He said. She was with another guy, who turned out to be her AP.

Dumb move on her part if she was in a close proximity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Golf guy here. I just opened the door and told her. At the time I didn't think AP and her knew each other but we later found out they share a hairdresser and a cleaning lady. You never know how small your world is until the explodes. We actually went golfing (ex and i) the next day and just had a long 10 hour convo. We decided that day to end it. We didn't do the "i think I can get over this" dance.

Holy crap, your ex must be some kind of a saint. I would have beat you to death with a golf club right then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Golf guy here. I just opened the door and told her. At the time I didn't think AP and her knew each other but we later found out they share a hairdresser and a cleaning lady. You never know how small your world is until the explodes. We actually went golfing (ex and i) the next day and just had a long 10 hour convo. We decided that day to end it. We didn't do the "i think I can get over this" dance.

Holy crap, your ex must be some kind of a saint. I would have beat you to death with a golf club right then.

It's really a sad story, and he's still worried his daughter may find out. I'm sure at some point the ex wife has told her, or someday when she wants to know more. While no marriage is perfect it's really a horrific thing when a family breaks up, and lives are altered over garbage. I'm sure this AP wasn't worth all the problems that ensued. If anything it's bewildering and sad to see how many couples allow strangers to steal what's really important.

It sounds like golfer stepped over a dollar to pick up a nickel. A slug nickel at that...

[Anonymous]

So golf guy, did you stay with the AP afterward?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Golf guy here. I just opened the door and told her. At the time I didn't think AP and her knew each other but we later found out they share a hairdresser and a cleaning lady. You never know how small your world is until the explodes. We actually went golfing (ex and i) the next day and just had a long 10 hour convo. We decided that day to end it. We didn't do the "i think I can get over this" dance.

Holy crap, your ex must be some kind of a saint. I would have beat you to death with a golf club right then.

It's really a sad story, and he's still worried his daughter may find out. I'm sure at some point the ex wife has told her, or someday when she wants to know more. While no marriage is perfect it's really a horrific thing when a family breaks up, and lives are altered over garbage. I'm sure this AP wasn't worth all the problems that ensued. If anything it's bewildering and sad to see how many couples allow strangers to steal what's really important.

It sounds like golfer stepped over a dollar to pick up a nickel. A slug nickel at that...

Yeah sorry to say it but his daughter will definitely find this out at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Golf guy here. I just opened the door and told her. At the time I didn't think AP and her knew each other but we later found out they share a hairdresser and a cleaning lady. You never know how small your world is until the explodes. We actually went golfing (ex and i) the next day and just had a long 10 hour convo. We decided that day to end it. We didn't do the "i think I can get over this" dance.

Holy crap, your ex must be some kind of a saint. I would have beat you to death with a golf club right then.

It's really a sad story, and he's still worried his daughter may find out. I'm sure at some point the ex wife has told her, or someday when she wants to know more. While no marriage is perfect it's really a horrific thing when a family breaks up, and lives are altered over garbage. I'm sure this AP wasn't worth all the problems that ensued. If anything it's bewildering and sad to see how many couples allow strangers to steal what's really important.

It sounds like golfer stepped over a dollar to pick up a nickel. A slug nickel at that...

Yeah sorry to say it but his daughter will definitely find this out at some point.

I'm sure his wife told the basics, but yes girls especially want the details when they are older. At some point mom or a relative will or has told the story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

Can you imagine your daughter standing there staring and not being able to process the pain and betrayal. It's going to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

OMG!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

OMG!

Should have hid AP in the closet, then take wife out to eat so AP can get the heck out of dodge. Then never cheat again!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Golf guy here. I just opened the door and told her. At the time I didn't think AP and her knew each other but we later found out they share a hairdresser and a cleaning lady. You never know how small your world is until the explodes. We actually went golfing (ex and i) the next day and just had a long 10 hour convo. We decided that day to end it. We didn't do the "i think I can get over this" dance.

Holy crap, your ex must be some kind of a saint. I would have beat you to death with a golf club right then.

It's really a sad story, and he's still worried his daughter may find out. I'm sure at some point the ex wife has told her, or someday when she wants to know more. While no marriage is perfect it's really a horrific thing when a family breaks up, and lives are altered over garbage. I'm sure this AP wasn't worth all the problems that ensued. If anything it's bewildering and sad to see how many couples allow strangers to steal what's really important.

It sounds like golfer stepped over a dollar to pick up a nickel. A slug nickel at that...

It's not so dramatic if you don't make it dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Man, golf guy— your story is something. After reading all of your updates, I have to say that it sounds like you lost an amazing wife. It’s great that you still have a good relationship with her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Golf guy here. I just opened the door and told her. At the time I didn't think AP and her knew each other but we later found out they share a hairdresser and a cleaning lady. You never know how small your world is until the explodes. We actually went golfing (ex and i) the next day and just had a long 10 hour convo. We decided that day to end it. We didn't do the "i think I can get over this" dance.

Holy crap, your ex must be some kind of a saint. I would have beat you to death with a golf club right then.

It's really a sad story, and he's still worried his daughter may find out. I'm sure at some point the ex wife has told her, or someday when she wants to know more. While no marriage is perfect it's really a horrific thing when a family breaks up, and lives are altered over garbage. I'm sure this AP wasn't worth all the problems that ensued. If anything it's bewildering and sad to see how many couples allow strangers to steal what's really important.

It sounds like golfer stepped over a dollar to pick up a nickel. A slug nickel at that...

Yeah sorry to say it but his daughter will definitely find this out at some point.

I'm sure his wife told the basics, but yes girls especially want the details when they are older. At some point mom or a relative will or has told the story.

Exactly. Zero chance that will not come out at some point, even if it's not his ex that tells her. (Although I don't think it would be wrong of her to tell her adult daughter those details, if she asks. Which she may)

[Anonymous]

Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Amused that everyone is focused on golf guy's daughter finding out two decades or so later that he had an affair. So what? I'd be a different story if she'd walked in on him like the lady above - so images you can't get out of your head. But a distant memory of a affair? It's fine. Look at our current POTUS and our third-to-last one. Both kids lived through it as it happened, that's when you have to worry.

As a daughter, unfortunately I can tell you that you're wrong. Finding out details like this would permanently change my opinion of my dad/the kind of person he is...not make me stop loving him or anything, but I would never see him in the same way. And I'm in my 30s

I think it depends on the person. When I was in my mid-20s, I found out that my mom had an affair shortly before my parents divorced. It didn't change my opinion about the kind of person she is or change our relationship at all. It did change my opinion about the kind of marriage my parents had.