For Cheaters Who Were Caught Red Handed.

[Anonymous]

I'm wondering how some of you were caught, and how your partner handled it. We're you mad they caught you?

Did they use GPS, software on your phone, or follow you? Did they hire a PI, or have a friend follow you? Voice activated recorder?

I've had acquaintances on both ends over the years, but I'm thinking with technology it must be harder to get away with it for very long.

[Anonymous]

NP here. Did you potential affair partner out you after you lied to them about being married?

It's harder to lie about being married with social media and sites like pipl, spokeo, tineye, maryland judiciary case search, and others. If you put the pieces together in the puzzle, you can find out if they are married or not.

[Anonymous]

My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

I really hope she dumped you.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Good point, I forgot about the AP. Yes in many cases they often let the other spouse know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

I think I would have stuffed her into the closet!! Are you still married?

Did she know the AP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

I think I would have stuffed her into the closet!! Are you still married?

Did she know the AP?

I'm not married to her but 9 years later we get along really Well! We even laughed about it once at a drunken wedding night party. Just once though! My worst fear is once day my young adult daughter will get dumped or cheated on and my ex will tell her what happened. My daughter would know what a shame I am. Worst fear. Think about it at least twice a day. I tell that to my guys who take cheating lightly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

I think I would have stuffed her into the closet!! Are you still married?

Did she know the AP?

I'm not married to her but 9 years later we get along really Well! We even laughed about it once at a drunken wedding night party. Just once though! My worst fear is once day my young adult daughter will get dumped or cheated on and my ex will tell her what happened. My daughter would know what a shame I am. Worst fear. Think about it at least twice a day. I tell that to my guys who take cheating lightly

That's pretty bad, you probably have PTSD. I have to give your ex credit for still talking to you. Many wouldn't after that, kids or not.

Hopefully she never tells the daughter!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

I think I would have stuffed her into the closet!! Are you still married?

Did she know the AP?

I'm not married to her but 9 years later we get along really Well! We even laughed about it once at a drunken wedding night party. Just once though! My worst fear is once day my young adult daughter will get dumped or cheated on and my ex will tell her what happened. My daughter would know what a shame I am. Worst fear. Think about it at least twice a day. I tell that to my guys who take cheating lightly

Can you please tell more of the story about what happened right then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

I think I would have stuffed her into the closet!! Are you still married?

Did she know the AP?

I'm not married to her but 9 years later we get along really Well! We even laughed about it once at a drunken wedding night party. Just once though! My worst fear is once day my young adult daughter will get dumped or cheated on and my ex will tell her what happened. My daughter would know what a shame I am. Worst fear. Think about it at least twice a day. I tell that to my guys who take cheating lightly

Can you please tell more of the story about what happened right then?

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Cat fight??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

I think I would have stuffed her into the closet!! Are you still married?

Did she know the AP?

I'm not married to her but 9 years later we get along really Well! We even laughed about it once at a drunken wedding night party. Just once though! My worst fear is once day my young adult daughter will get dumped or cheated on and my ex will tell her what happened. My daughter would know what a shame I am. Worst fear. Think about it at least twice a day. I tell that to my guys who take cheating lightly

That's pretty bad, you probably have PTSD. I have to give your ex credit for still talking to you. Many wouldn't after that, kids or not.

Hopefully she never tells the daughter!

He probably has PTSD? Is that a joke? What about the wife who planned such a lovely surprise for a guy who could not have been less worthy of the effort, and then had her family implode? I hope she does tell the daughter. Why should she have to carry this guy's secret? Why should he have his kids' esteem if he doesn't deserve it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife surprised me on a business trip! I was almost my birthday and she drove 7 hours to drop the kids off at her moms then flew out of that airport another 4 hours to my work location. She booked a day of golf for us (which is my thing, not hers) and literally had 5k worth of brand new golf clubs next to her when she was knocking on my hotel room door. I felt like the worst person alive. I mean Hitler had grace over me at that moment. I could see her through the peep hole and the bow on the clubs and her smile. And there was NOTHING I could do. I couldn't stuff AP in the closet. Although I wanted to.

I think I would have stuffed her into the closet!! Are you still married?

Did she know the AP?

I'm not married to her but 9 years later we get along really Well! We even laughed about it once at a drunken wedding night party. Just once though! My worst fear is once day my young adult daughter will get dumped or cheated on and my ex will tell her what happened. My daughter would know what a shame I am. Worst fear. Think about it at least twice a day. I tell that to my guys who take cheating lightly

That's pretty bad, you probably have PTSD. I have to give your ex credit for still talking to you. Many wouldn't after that, kids or not.

Hopefully she never tells the daughter!

He probably has PTSD? Is that a joke? What about the wife who planned such a lovely surprise for a guy who could not have been less worthy of the effort, and then had her family implode? I hope she does tell the daughter. Why should she have to carry this guy's secret? Why should he have his kids' esteem if he doesn't deserve it?

I agree, but he should have PTSD. The whole thing sounds pretty horrible.

[Anonymous]

Holy shit, golf guy! What happened? What did you do!?

[Anonymous]

Golf guy here. I just opened the door and told her. At the time I didn't think AP and her knew each other but we later found out they share a hairdresser and a cleaning lady. You never know how small your world is until the explodes. We actually went golfing (ex and i) the next day and just had a long 10 hour convo. We decided that day to end it. We didn't do the "i think I can get over this" dance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm wondering how some of you were caught, and how your partner handled it. We're you mad they caught you?

Did they use GPS, software on your phone, or follow you? Did they hire a PI, or have a friend follow you? Voice activated recorder?

I've had acquaintances on both ends over the years, but I'm thinking with technology it must be harder to get away with it for very long.

The wife of ex DH's BF was at a work function in a hotel restaurant and saw me and AP walking through a hotel lobby and snapped a pic of us getting on the elevator. She sent it to BF who sent it to DH. By the time we finished and I came downstairs, DH was in the lobby and had called or texted about 20 times. I saw him first and ducked out the back fire door before he saw me. He texted me the pic, said it was over and that I needed to be gone before he got home. Yea, he was mad.