For Cheaters Who Were Caught Red Handed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not leave my dear spouse because I love them with all my heart, honestly. We met and fell in love when we were young and had nothing, then built a happy, successful, and rich life together. We have a big family and several decades of love, shared experiences, friends, memories, passion, and happiness together.

Why would I willingly or easily surrender all of that to an AP who may in no small part be attracted to my spouse for their name (well known in their profession), connections, and wealth? ( My spouse has already admitted to working to advance AP's career, and AP has requested their advice and help.) I will fight for my spouse, and our children's parent with all my heart and every ounce of strength I have because I really love them.

It's called getting played. And this has to be fake.

Not fake in the least. This is the position of 50 percent of the women I know. They aren't giving up their spouse, status, lifestyle because some woman tried to poach their husbands. Plenty of men think they would like their wives to just walk away so they could go on with the AP. Most of them who get their wish end up regretting it. Those sexy APs want their own children and are often far more demanding that wife #1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced that ALL husbands cheat if they have the opportunity, especially those that travel for work. Most women don't cheat unless they're looking to trade up.

What ? Cheating is 50:50. Must be a lot of traveling guys and women looking to trade up

[Anonymous]

The vast majority of women in these relationships are single/separated/divorced and looking for more than just sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not leave my dear spouse because I love them with all my heart, honestly. We met and fell in love when we were young and had nothing, then built a happy, successful, and rich life together. We have a big family and several decades of love, shared experiences, friends, memories, passion, and happiness together.

Why would I willingly or easily surrender all of that to an AP who may in no small part be attracted to my spouse for their name (well known in their profession), connections, and wealth? ( My spouse has already admitted to working to advance AP's career, and AP has requested their advice and help.) I will fight for my spouse, and our children's parent with all my heart and every ounce of strength I have because I really love them.

It's called getting played. And this has to be fake.

Not fake in the least. This is the position of 50 percent of the women I know. They aren't giving up their spouse, status, lifestyle because some woman tried to poach their husbands. Plenty of men think they would like their wives to just walk away so they could go on with the AP. Most of them who get their wish end up regretting it. Those sexy APs want their own children and are often far more demanding that wife #1.

+1

You know, you are right. I am shocked that more people do not realize and/or admit this. Second marriages are a sham a lot of the time, because the couples lost two families, totally damaged the kids, and now they have to make it work - they don't have a choice. Each friend I know who has been through this (about ten or so, at my age) has regretted breaking their family into shards over a "soul mate" that is anything but. Sucks, but thy should have thought it through even a little bit, and they would not have screwed up so bad. It's not like they can go backward in time, but they would if they could. So immature and irresponsible (since this is anon).

[Anonymous]

What is the change of music all about?? Is there a certain type I should looked out for? ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the change of music all about?? Is there a certain type I should looked out for? ?

Look for whatever music is popular with 20somethings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not leave my dear spouse because I love them with all my heart, honestly. We met and fell in love when we were young and had nothing, then built a happy, successful, and rich life together. We have a big family and several decades of love, shared experiences, friends, memories, passion, and happiness together.

Why would I willingly or easily surrender all of that to an AP who may in no small part be attracted to my spouse for their name (well known in their profession), connections, and wealth? ( My spouse has already admitted to working to advance AP's career, and AP has requested their advice and help.) I will fight for my spouse, and our children's parent with all my heart and every ounce of strength I have because I really love them.

It's called getting played. And this has to be fake.

Not fake in the least. This is the position of 50 percent of the women I know. They aren't giving up their spouse, status, lifestyle because some woman tried to poach their husbands. Plenty of men think they would like their wives to just walk away so they could go on with the AP. Most of them who get their wish end up regretting it. Those sexy APs want their own children and are often far more demanding that wife #1.

No, you just refuse to reclaim your dignity and leave. The men learn to hide things a little more as the compromise. It's really not a fight, at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced that ALL husbands cheat if they have the opportunity, especially those that travel for work. Most women don't cheat unless they're looking to trade up.

I travel all of the time for work. In our 10 years of marriage I have had plenty of opportunity to cheat, had female colleagues bluntly ask me I would like to come back to their room. I have never cheated on my wife or even thought about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the change of music all about?? Is there a certain type I should looked out for? ?

In my husband's case it was a sudden interest in Sata Bareilles's soulful reflections and love songs. Ughh.

[Anonymous]

Sara Bareilles

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced that ALL husbands cheat if they have the opportunity, especially those that travel for work. Most women don't cheat unless they're looking to trade up.

I travel all of the time for work. In our 10 years of marriage I have had plenty of opportunity to cheat, had female colleagues bluntly ask me I would like to come back to their room. I have never cheated on my wife or even thought about it.

I don't even know you and I love you. Thanks for showing husbands how to be a good man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced that ALL husbands cheat if they have the opportunity, especially those that travel for work. Most women don't cheat unless they're looking to trade up.

I travel all of the time for work. In our 10 years of marriage I have had plenty of opportunity to cheat, had female colleagues bluntly ask me I would like to come back to their room. I have never cheated on my wife or even thought about it.

I’m starting to become convinced that men need their own Me Too moment. Women can be very brazen in trying to seduce married men. I’ve seen it first hand, whereas I as a women get plenty of flirting but never ever much more beyond that from men now that I’m married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced that ALL husbands cheat if they have the opportunity, especially those that travel for work. Most women don't cheat unless they're looking to trade up.

I travel all of the time for work. In our 10 years of marriage I have had plenty of opportunity to cheat, had female colleagues bluntly ask me I would like to come back to their room. I have never cheated on my wife or even thought about it.

+1. I’ve never had it go as far as invitations back to rooms, but have had female colleagues express sexual interest.

I’m very careful who I drink with on trips, or who I get close to. If it’s obvious there’s a crush involved, i’ll Distance myself.

I certainly love my wife, but I also have a family with two small kids to protect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced that ALL husbands cheat if they have the opportunity, especially those that travel for work. Most women don't cheat unless they're looking to trade up.

I travel all of the time for work. In our 10 years of marriage I have had plenty of opportunity to cheat, had female colleagues bluntly ask me I would like to come back to their room. I have never cheated on my wife or even thought about it.

I’m starting to become convinced that men need their own Me Too moment. Women can be very brazen in trying to seduce married men. I’ve seen it first hand, whereas I as a women get plenty of flirting but never ever much more beyond that from men now that I’m married.

Getting hit on isn't the same as having somebody whip their penis out at you. Or start to masturbate in front of you. Or try put their hand up your shirt. Or physically hold you down so you can't get away. Not.The.Same.
#metooandf#ckyouifyouthinkthatsomebodyaskingtocomeuptoyourroomisMeToo.Itistn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced that ALL husbands cheat if they have the opportunity, especially those that travel for work. Most women don't cheat unless they're looking to trade up.

I travel all of the time for work. In our 10 years of marriage I have had plenty of opportunity to cheat, had female colleagues bluntly ask me I would like to come back to their room. I have never cheated on my wife or even thought about it.

I’m starting to become convinced that men need their own Me Too moment. Women can be very brazen in trying to seduce married men. I’ve seen it first hand, whereas I as a women get plenty of flirting but never ever much more beyond that from men now that I’m married.

Getting hit on isn't the same as having somebody whip their penis out at you. Or start to masturbate in front of you. Or try put their hand up your shirt. Or physically hold you down so you can't get away. Not.The.Same.
#metooandf#ckyouifyouthinkthatsomebodyaskingtocomeuptoyourroomisMeToo.Itistn't.

Married men are ver aggressive when seeking a AP. It's the first clue that they are married.