How Do I tell My BF he is Fat and I am not longer attracted to him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Know this… Over the course of your lives, you both will gain weight, and lose weight. You will most likely get pregnant and your body will change during the pregnancy and afterwards. You might get back into the same shape you were before, but you may also not. Both of you will grow older, and your body will change. Often times, not for the better. You might suffer from illness that will change the way you look, smell and even behave. He might also go through illness. If you intend on being together, and happy, over the course of a prolonged relationship (think decades… not years) than you should really take all of this into account. If you're not ready to accept that he (and you) will change physically – cut him loose. He'll never be able to remain as young and handsome as when you first met. Neither will you, but that's an issue you'll have to solve for yourself.

You’re ridiculous. Comparing the body changes of pregnancy to a man who just eats too much? You have no grasp on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Know this… Over the course of your lives, you both will gain weight, and lose weight. You will most likely get pregnant and your body will change during the pregnancy and afterwards. You might get back into the same shape you were before, but you may also not. Both of you will grow older, and your body will change. Often times, not for the better. You might suffer from illness that will change the way you look, smell and even behave. He might also go through illness. If you intend on being together, and happy, over the course of a prolonged relationship (think decades… not years) than you should really take all of this into account. If you're not ready to accept that he (and you) will change physically – cut him loose. He'll never be able to remain as young and handsome as when you first met. Neither will you, but that's an issue you'll have to solve for yourself.

You’re ridiculous. Comparing the body changes of pregnancy to a man who just eats too much? You have no grasp on this.

NP. You are ridiculous to expect people to be perfect weight throughout their lives. Compare or don't, weight gain will happen to most.

OP, if you are not attracted to your BF, do you both a favor and break up with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"How do I tell my GF she is fat and I am no longer attracted to her?"

Misogynist!

[Anonymous]

How about using a creative Christmas gift? Maybe one of those sausages from Pepridge Farms with a fortune inside. The fortune could say "You disgust me" or, more simply, "You're Fat!".

[Anonymous]

Break up. But wait until after christmas, don't be heartless. Don't say because its fat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not judging, OP - we want what we want. That said, even if he get's in shape again, there's no promise he won't gain it again.

My longtime BF has gained a good 25 pounds or more. Is he still cut with the perfect six pack? No. Will he be again? Perhaps? But I'm still very attracted to him and it doesn't change my love for him one bit.

It's not because I'm "nice" - it's because I love this man through and through.

Don't short change either one of you - there's no point in holding one another back.

Yes, please listen to these wise words. You won't be happy with him long term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Total troll post. Women either don't care about this or they just find a way to dump the guy but they don't whine about it.

LOL keep telling yourself that. Wishful thinking..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Know this… Over the course of your lives, you both will gain weight, and lose weight. You will most likely get pregnant and your body will change during the pregnancy and afterwards. You might get back into the same shape you were before, but you may also not. Both of you will grow older, and your body will change. Often times, not for the better. You might suffer from illness that will change the way you look, smell and even behave. He might also go through illness. If you intend on being together, and happy, over the course of a prolonged relationship (think decades… not years) than you should really take all of this into account. If you're not ready to accept that he (and you) will change physically – cut him loose. He'll never be able to remain as young and handsome as when you first met. Neither will you, but that's an issue you'll have to solve for yourself.

You’re ridiculous. Comparing the body changes of pregnancy to a man who just eats too much? You have no grasp on this.

Fat is fat, regardless of the reason.

[Anonymous]

Not everyone gets fat and unattractive. Some of us care about maintaining our looks, both for ourselves and our spouse.

[Anonymous]

Approach it from a health angle.

[Anonymous]

Lift weights, get dates.

[Anonymous]

Those who say it doesn't matter -- you're kidding yourself. When someone's appearance changes radically from how they looked when a relationship started, it's very likely their partner will become less attracted to them. Not always, but often.

My husband's weight has fluctuated a lot since we first started dating. After initially losing 50 lbs, he has gained about 20 back (putting him at about 10 lbs overweight). It's all in his chest/stomach area. He doesn't want to be overweight, eats well, but simply doesn't have time to exercise regularly. Do I love him less? Absolutely not. Am I less attracted to him now? A little bit. I just ignore that part of his body, frankly, when we're being intimate. The sex is still amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not judging, OP - we want what we want. That said, even if he get's in shape again, there's no promise he won't gain it again.

My longtime BF has gained a good 25 pounds or more. Is he still cut with the perfect six pack? No. Will he be again? Perhaps? But I'm still very attracted to him and it doesn't change my love for him one bit.

It's not because I'm "nice" - it's because I love this man through and through.

Don't short change either one of you - there's no point in holding one another back.

This. Your connection seems superficial, don't waste any more of his or your time.

Agree, the above response is the type of person everyone should be lucky enough to find and work at being their best for.

[Anonymous]

Find a rock hard guy frommthe gym and make sure he catches you in bed with that guy. He'll take the hint.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Total troll post. Women either don't care about this or they just find a way to dump the guy but they don't whine about it.

Women do care about this.

+1000

Unfortunately most care but do not hold themselves to that standard.