Is she interested or not?

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Anonymous wrote:You already slept with her? That was your first mistake.

Having sex with an attractive woman that you like isn't a mistake if both are available. It's normal human behavior.

[Anonymous]

Op have you even had the exclusivity talk yet? She won't commit unless you agree not to see other women. But be careful because nurses are notoriously promiscuous and she'll probably cheat on you if you do commit.

[Anonymous]

OP, when a busy person wants to have a relationship they make time. You are getting played, move on. Stop being a sucker, she is dating a few other guys. Do not follow her around like a puppy.

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Anonymous wrote:Based on what OP has described, I can't get a good read on whether the woman is into him or not.

All that said, fwiw, I think people who are "soooooo busy" in the dating phase of life are big red flags. I mean, this woman is in school, doesn't have a job, doesn't have a spouse, presumably doesn't own a SFH, and doesn't have kids (the big one). Yes, school is demanding. But I think almost anyone who has a full time job, kids, home obligations, spouse, all added together can look back on their days where their only obligation was nothing but being a full time student. And you look back and think how easy things were. The woman can't literally be doing school for 18 hours a day 7 days a week. Because how could people go to nursing school with kids? Or a spouse that they maintain a good relationship with? People do those things concurrently, and are successful. Anyone who can't get their sh*t together more as a student without any other obligations is a big red flag to me. I dated a guy in college for 3 years who was "so busy" with school, but in hind sight he was just a narcissistic drama queen who was incapable of prioritizing anyone other than himself ever.

The exception being, of course, if the "so busy" person is dating someone who for whatever reason is totally fine with it (either they like alone time, independence, or are equally busy themselves). But if someone is already frustrated that their SO is "so busy" while you are dating, it's a big red flag for me that this isn't going to work.

So when I read OP's post, I think either the woman is a drama queen who needs to get her sh*t together, or isn't into OP.

Op here. She isn't just a student. She works full-time and is 6 months into a 2 years masters program for a CRNA. She spends most of her time outside of work or in class to do homework and study. You sure look down on students as if that isn't hard. You sound the drama queen.

If she's in a 2 year masters CRNA program, she doesn't "work full time". She has full time clinical obligations as part of her education. The two (clinical and classwork) add up to a significant full time job. But it doesn't mean she can't find time for other things. She's not that into you.

[Anonymous]

Does she reach out to you by text and initiate plans with you? If so, I would think she is into you and after two months it's appropriate to have a talk about what each of you is looking for. I'm busy-single mom working full time. I'm dating someone I really like, but for me seeing him once, maybe twice, a week is perfect. Even if I did have more time, I don't want to be connected at the hip with someone. I was dating someone else who I also liked, but just wanted way more of my time than I wanted to share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Based on what OP has described, I can't get a good read on whether the woman is into him or not.

All that said, fwiw, I think people who are "soooooo busy" in the dating phase of life are big red flags. I mean, this woman is in school, doesn't have a job, doesn't have a spouse, presumably doesn't own a SFH, and doesn't have kids (the big one). Yes, school is demanding. But I think almost anyone who has a full time job, kids, home obligations, spouse, all added together can look back on their days where their only obligation was nothing but being a full time student. And you look back and think how easy things were. The woman can't literally be doing school for 18 hours a day 7 days a week. Because how could people go to nursing school with kids? Or a spouse that they maintain a good relationship with? People do those things concurrently, and are successful. Anyone who can't get their sh*t together more as a student without any other obligations is a big red flag to me. I dated a guy in college for 3 years who was "so busy" with school, but in hind sight he was just a narcissistic drama queen who was incapable of prioritizing anyone other than himself ever.

The exception being, of course, if the "so busy" person is dating someone who for whatever reason is totally fine with it (either they like alone time, independence, or are equally busy themselves). But if someone is already frustrated that their SO is "so busy" while you are dating, it's a big red flag for me that this isn't going to work.

So when I read OP's post, I think either the woman is a drama queen who needs to get her sh*t together, or isn't into OP.

Op here. She isn't just a student. She works full-time and is 6 months into a 2 years masters program for a CRNA. She spends most of her time outside of work or in class to do homework and study. You sure look down on students as if that isn't hard. You sound the drama queen.

If she's in a 2 year masters CRNA program, she doesn't "work full time". She has full time clinical obligations as part of her education. The two (clinical and classwork) add up to a significant full time job. But it doesn't mean she can't find time for other things. She's not that into you.

Op here. You don't have a clue. She does work full-time as a nurse while going to school for her CRNA. She works 35 hours a week as a RN and then goes to school. She easily averages a 70 hour week with all if that combined.

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Anonymous wrote:Does she reach out to you by text and initiate plans with you? If so, I would think she is into you and after two months it's appropriate to have a talk about what each of you is looking for. I'm busy-single mom working full time. I'm dating someone I really like, but for me seeing him once, maybe twice, a week is perfect. Even if I did have more time, I don't want to be connected at the hip with someone. I was dating someone else who I also liked, but just wanted way more of my time than I wanted to share.

Op here. Yes. She regularly texts and calls me. I have seen her twice since I wrote this post. One was just a quick dinner before class, and the second time she stayed over at my place. I am not going to push for an exclusivity talk because I don't want to push her away.

Not all nurses are promiscuous. I have two nurses in my family who are not anything close to being a slut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Based on what OP has described, I can't get a good read on whether the woman is into him or not.

All that said, fwiw, I think people who are "soooooo busy" in the dating phase of life are big red flags. I mean, this woman is in school, doesn't have a job, doesn't have a spouse, presumably doesn't own a SFH, and doesn't have kids (the big one). Yes, school is demanding. But I think almost anyone who has a full time job, kids, home obligations, spouse, all added together can look back on their days where their only obligation was nothing but being a full time student. And you look back and think how easy things were. The woman can't literally be doing school for 18 hours a day 7 days a week. Because how could people go to nursing school with kids? Or a spouse that they maintain a good relationship with? People do those things concurrently, and are successful. Anyone who can't get their sh*t together more as a student without any other obligations is a big red flag to me. I dated a guy in college for 3 years who was "so busy" with school, but in hind sight he was just a narcissistic drama queen who was incapable of prioritizing anyone other than himself ever.

The exception being, of course, if the "so busy" person is dating someone who for whatever reason is totally fine with it (either they like alone time, independence, or are equally busy themselves). But if someone is already frustrated that their SO is "so busy" while you are dating, it's a big red flag for me that this isn't going to work.

So when I read OP's post, I think either the woman is a drama queen who needs to get her sh*t together, or isn't into OP.

Op here. She isn't just a student. She works full-time and is 6 months into a 2 years masters program for a CRNA. She spends most of her time outside of work or in class to do homework and study. You sure look down on students as if that isn't hard. You sound the drama queen.

If she's in a 2 year masters CRNA program, she doesn't "work full time". She has full time clinical obligations as part of her education. The two (clinical and classwork) add up to a significant full time job. But it doesn't mean she can't find time for other things. She's not that into you.

Op here. You don't have a clue. She does work full-time as a nurse while going to school for her CRNA. She works 35 hours a week as a RN and then goes to school. She easily averages a 70 hour week with all if that combined.

+1. Pp sounds like the drama queen. I wonder what she does that she feels the needs to speak down on ops love interest.

Op take it slow. She sounds like a keeper!

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Anonymous wrote:Does she reach out to you by text and initiate plans with you? If so, I would think she is into you and after two months it's appropriate to have a talk about what each of you is looking for. I'm busy-single mom working full time. I'm dating someone I really like, but for me seeing him once, maybe twice, a week is perfect. Even if I did have more time, I don't want to be connected at the hip with someone. I was dating someone else who I also liked, but just wanted way more of my time than I wanted to share.

Op here. Yes. She regularly texts and calls me. I have seen her twice since I wrote this post. One was just a quick dinner before class, and the second time she stayed over at my place. I am not going to push for an exclusivity talk because I don't want to push her away.

Not all nurses are promiscuous. I have two nurses in my family who are not anything close to being a slut.

What is that last line about? It sounds like you are worried that she's seeing someone else and you want to be exclusive. If so, you should talk to her about it, because if you haven't had a conversation about being exclusive there is nothing wrong with her seeing other guys. (When I said I don't want to be joined at the hip, I meant I want time to do my laundry, see friends, and attend community meetings. That said, I would never date a man who called women sluts.-or even "not sluts." I strongly suggest you examine your attitudes toward women.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she reach out to you by text and initiate plans with you? If so, I would think she is into you and after two months it's appropriate to have a talk about what each of you is looking for. I'm busy-single mom working full time. I'm dating someone I really like, but for me seeing him once, maybe twice, a week is perfect. Even if I did have more time, I don't want to be connected at the hip with someone. I was dating someone else who I also liked, but just wanted way more of my time than I wanted to share.

Op here. Yes. She regularly texts and calls me. I have seen her twice since I wrote this post. One was just a quick dinner before class, and the second time she stayed over at my place. I am not going to push for an exclusivity talk because I don't want to push her away.

Not all nurses are promiscuous. I have two nurses in my family who are not anything close to being a slut.

What is that last line about? It sounds like you are worried that she's seeing someone else and you want to be exclusive. If so, you should talk to her about it, because if you haven't had a conversation about being exclusive there is nothing wrong with her seeing other guys. (When I said I don't want to be joined at the hip, I meant I want time to do my laundry, see friends, and attend community meetings. That said, I would never date a man who called women sluts.-or even "not sluts." I strongly suggest you examine your attitudes toward women.)

Op here. I was responding to a pp who said nurses are notorious for being sluts. I was saying how false that was. I do not call women sluts or condone anyone who uses that language.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she reach out to you by text and initiate plans with you? If so, I would think she is into you and after two months it's appropriate to have a talk about what each of you is looking for. I'm busy-single mom working full time. I'm dating someone I really like, but for me seeing him once, maybe twice, a week is perfect. Even if I did have more time, I don't want to be connected at the hip with someone. I was dating someone else who I also liked, but just wanted way more of my time than I wanted to share.

Op here. Yes. She regularly texts and calls me. I have seen her twice since I wrote this post. One was just a quick dinner before class, and the second time she stayed over at my place. I am not going to push for an exclusivity talk because I don't want to push her away.

Not all nurses are promiscuous. I have two nurses in my family who are not anything close to being a slut.

What is that last line about? It sounds like you are worried that she's seeing someone else and you want to be exclusive. If so, you should talk to her about it, because if you haven't had a conversation about being exclusive there is nothing wrong with her seeing other guys. (When I said I don't want to be joined at the hip, I meant I want time to do my laundry, see friends, and attend community meetings. That said, I would never date a man who called women sluts.-or even "not sluts." I strongly suggest you examine your attitudes toward women.)

Op here. I was responding to a pp who said nurses are notorious for being sluts. I was saying how false that was. I do not call women sluts or condone anyone who uses that language.

Op here. I was responding to pp 2:41. I was sticking up got nurses. Please know the facts before you attack me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she reach out to you by text and initiate plans with you? If so, I would think she is into you and after two months it's appropriate to have a talk about what each of you is looking for. I'm busy-single mom working full time. I'm dating someone I really like, but for me seeing him once, maybe twice, a week is perfect. Even if I did have more time, I don't want to be connected at the hip with someone. I was dating someone else who I also liked, but just wanted way more of my time than I wanted to share.

Op here. Yes. She regularly texts and calls me. I have seen her twice since I wrote this post. One was just a quick dinner before class, and the second time she stayed over at my place. I am not going to push for an exclusivity talk because I don't want to push her away.

Not all nurses are promiscuous. I have two nurses in my family who are not anything close to being a slut.

If she's working/studying 70 hours a week and you were able to get together twice in the last 4 days, I'd say that's a pretty good indication that she likes you a lot! If you see a future with her, keep seeing her.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she reach out to you by text and initiate plans with you? If so, I would think she is into you and after two months it's appropriate to have a talk about what each of you is looking for. I'm busy-single mom working full time. I'm dating someone I really like, but for me seeing him once, maybe twice, a week is perfect. Even if I did have more time, I don't want to be connected at the hip with someone. I was dating someone else who I also liked, but just wanted way more of my time than I wanted to share.

Op here. Yes. She regularly texts and calls me. I have seen her twice since I wrote this post. One was just a quick dinner before class, and the second time she stayed over at my place. I am not going to push for an exclusivity talk because I don't want to push her away.

Not all nurses are promiscuous. I have two nurses in my family who are not anything close to being a slut.

OP - thanks for coming back and updating. Sounds like things are good.

I think I was the pp that initially brought up exclusivity. I don't think that conversation will scare her away. It should answer your question and possibly, if she's as into you as you are her, allow her to exhale. Right now, she might be stressing that she's not giving you enough attention and could be concerned that it could open the door for another woman to steal you away. The exclusivity talk could open the door for things like her being comfortable enough to just swing by your house to spend the night after a day of studying and work. I understand I'm speculating but I just wanted to open your eyes to the possibility. Given your description of your relationship, the exclusivity talk won't scare her. I was concerned, based on your initial post, that you were going to go beyond that and possibly even introduce an ultimatum. I was concerned because I thought that might be a mistake. Your more recent posts make me realize I misread it. Handle how you want. Sounds like you have a good grip on things. Just wanted to point out that exclusivity isn't likely to scare a woman given you current situation. It's perfectly appropriate and likely will be anticipated soon.

Only other advice I can offer is shrug off the troll and haters. They live for reactions to their posts. Ignoring them frustrates them.

Good luck. Let us know.

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Women generally like it when men bring up exclusivity. You could always phrase it as, I'd like for us to be exclusive, but if you aren't ready for that yet, I understand and we can keep just dating.