Is she interested or not?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing this woman that has been hard to figure out. We met at a mutual friends housewarming party 2 months ago. We have been on a a handful of dates, and slept together 3 times. The problem is she is rarely available to hang out. We talk and text a reasonable amount, and she seems to have fun when we do go out. She is a nurse and a student ( specializing in a nursing field), and I understand she is busy, but she has turned down more dates than accepted. I know she is busy, but so am I. I would normally move on but I really like her. I would also normally take her reluctance as disinterest, but she initiates many conversations, and initiated our last 2 dates, and being intimate 1 out of the 3 times. She has also spent the night twice. I make the effort because I like her, and feel she would so the same if she was equally interested. I am 33 and done with the mind games and casual dating. I am looking for a serious relationship that will hopefully prosper into a marriage. I will talk to her about it, but want to make sure I am not making something out of nothing, or misreading signals.

[Anonymous]

Keep dating her. See what happens. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

No she is not interested. She is most likely dating a few people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No she is not interested. She is most likely dating a few people.

Op here. I don't think she is because she took down her online profile.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you just ask her? Tell her you really like her, and you are interested in pursuing a serious relationship but you can't tell what she wants. Take it from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you just ask her? Tell her you really like her, and you are interested in pursuing a serious relationship but you can't tell what she wants. Take it from there.

Op said he will ask her. Clearly you can't read.

[Anonymous]

She's definitely interested, but very busy. Nursing is a demanding/draining job and she probably needs some downtime after her shifts are over, plus she's working hard in classes too.

She's in a "giving" profession and needs some time to recharge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's definitely interested, but very busy. Nursing is a demanding/draining job and she probably needs some downtime after her shifts are over, plus she's working hard in classes too.

She's in a "giving" profession and needs some time to recharge.

+1 Nursing, classes, studying......that is one very busy person. Why not just talk to her about her schedule.

[Anonymous]

OP: unless you are a loser, don't get married. Worst thing you can do to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: unless you are a loser, don't get married. Worst thing you can do to yourself.

You sound like a loser.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I will talk to her. I know she is busy, and her ambition for her career and selfishness, is one of her many qualities I find attractive. She is definitely a keeper, and that's why I have been this patient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been seeing this woman that has been hard to figure out. We met at a mutual friends housewarming party 2 months ago. We have been on a a handful of dates, and slept together 3 times. The problem is she is rarely available to hang out. We talk and text a reasonable amount, and she seems to have fun when we do go out. She is a nurse and a student ( specializing in a nursing field), and I understand she is busy, but she has turned down more dates than accepted. I know she is busy, but so am I. I would normally move on but I really like her. I would also normally take her reluctance as disinterest, but she initiates many conversations, and initiated our last 2 dates, and being intimate 1 out of the 3 times. She has also spent the night twice. I make the effort because I like her, and feel she would so the same if she was equally interested. I am 33 and done with the mind games and casual dating. I am looking for a serious relationship that will hopefully prosper into a marriage. I will talk to her about it, but want to make sure I am not making something out of nothing, or misreading signals.

Having an adult conversation is the right move. Don't overstate your position. Have you talked about exclusivity yet? That would be the first step.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been seeing this woman that has been hard to figure out. We met at a mutual friends housewarming party 2 months ago. We have been on a a handful of dates, and slept together 3 times. The problem is she is rarely available to hang out. We talk and text a reasonable amount, and she seems to have fun when we do go out. She is a nurse and a student ( specializing in a nursing field), and I understand she is busy, but she has turned down more dates than accepted. I know she is busy, but so am I. I would normally move on but I really like her. I would also normally take her reluctance as disinterest, but she initiates many conversations, and initiated our last 2 dates, and being intimate 1 out of the 3 times. She has also spent the night twice. I make the effort because I like her, and feel she would so the same if she was equally interested. I am 33 and done with the mind games and casual dating. I am looking for a serious relationship that will hopefully prosper into a marriage. I will talk to her about it, but want to make sure I am not making something out of nothing, or misreading signals.

Having an adult conversation is the right move. Don't overstate your position. Have you talked about exclusivity yet? That would be the first step.

+1. Talk to her but do not scare her off. It's only been 2 months, no matter how much interaction you've had. Show her that you are busy too but want to make time for her. Good luck op!

[Anonymous]

How do you know she took down her online profile if you met at a party? Plus that doesn't mean she isn't seeing someone else that she might have met before you.

[Anonymous]

You already slept with her? That was your first mistake.