S/o teenage daughter used N word

[Anonymous]

Show her this thread and remind tha t some words now can only be used in privacy of your own home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White

Oh, then she'd be in HUGE trouble if she were my daughter. She'd have to write a multi-page paper on why it's offensive AND inappropriate, what it tells people about her by using that language about herself, etc. We would have BIG TALKS about this. And obviously phone privileges would be gone for the summer. Sometimes you have to be gangsta from home, in your bedroom, without your social media.

How is this teaching her anything if you're OK with using the stereotypical meaning of "gangsta?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Show her this thread and remind tha t some words now can only be used in privacy of your own home.

Holy hell. THAT IS THE WRONG MESSAGE! She needs to understand why the n word isn't ok and to understand the implications of her behavior. Not to just hide it at home.

[Anonymous]

Take her to the third floor underneath the Museum of African American History and have her spend at least a hour there and work your way up the next two levels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Show her this thread and remind tha t some words now can only be used in privacy of your own home.

Holy hell. THAT IS THE WRONG MESSAGE! She needs to understand why the n word isn't ok and to understand the implications of her behavior. Not to just hide it at home.

That's the message we prefer. List of bad words keeps expanding. I prefer to behave in society as society expects but feel free and comfortable at home. Not that I remember the last time the word came up outside of rap songs.

[Anonymous]

It looks like a song lyric. (I googled it, it's not.) I wonder if it's something she read somewhere.

[Anonymous]

I think she needs to realize people get fired from their jobs for this sort of thing. Look I have worked college admissions. We Google. And we don't want students like her on our campuses. She is a liability and lawsuit risk not to mention extremely immature and inappropriate. We have enough to deal with as is. Does she even know what happened at Maryland this past May?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this public? How old is your daughter? Is her name attached to It? Basically if an college admission officer googled her and finds it, she is out. They won't even give her the time of day. In fact, you can let her know her social life/future work life is over if anyone sees it. I wouldn't hire her. And yes I Google to check people out. I am sorry your daughter is an awful person. I hope you get through to her about this

Omg she's not an awful person! She is a teen. They need to learn somehow.

Being a teen is breaking curfew because you didn't want to seem uncool and everyone was getting ice cream after the movie. A teen mistake is not racial slurs and black face. This girl is a terrible person. She has time to be a better person but most racist never change.

[Anonymous]

https://plus.google.com/+DreadInNY/posts/dm6T2xKf5Nc

This is a brief article about the teen in Howard County MD who did something similar. Read some of the comments on the article, very disturbing. I live in the area and on our neighborhood FB page there were calls to beat the girl, drag her, really hateful stuff. A true hornet's nest and your DD needs to know that the behavior which triggers these types of responses is forbidden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://plus.google.com/+DreadInNY/posts/dm6T2xKf5Nc

This is a brief article about the teen in Howard County MD who did something similar. Read some of the comments on the article, very disturbing. I live in the area and on our neighborhood FB page there were calls to beat the girl, drag her, really hateful stuff. A true hornet's nest and your DD needs to know that the behavior which triggers these types of responses is forbidden.

A black pastor in the area reached out to the girl to talk with her about forgiveness and moving forward. Here is the video:

https://player.vimeo.com/video/193278360

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the whole excusing it because she's a kid and didn't know better to be problematic. I mean, it's a reflection of your failure as a parent if your child does not understand why it's completely, utterly unacceptable to use to the N-word. Period end of story.

I can just see the "oh, no, she didn't mean...rap songs..." excuses. But no. If you haven't taught your children about the awful treatment of black people in this country for centuries -- as recently as grandma and grandpa were alive -- then you are willfully ignoring it because to admit it is to recognize it. It's easier to ignore it because you're not black or you don't have black family or children or what have you.

It must be nice to get to side step the whole race discussion white folks. I wish I didn't have to drill into my sons heads that their actions will be viewed as lethally dangerous so they can't cut up and act foolish or do dumb stuff like get drunk at someone's house party like their white friends. Because they'll be killed. And then blamed for their murder. Because hoodlum.

And yet she's allowed to buy music from rap artists who use the word with abandon, and sing and dance to their songs? Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There has to be just ONE troll who is trying to excuse this, right?? It is NEVER ok for a 16 year old white girl from UMC DC to use any variation of the word. This has been discussed ad nauseum in the media and popular culture for about a decade.
I would love to see the fallout of one of these brave "it's no big deal" posters walking into a room with any POC present and casually calling themselves the N word. I have a feeling the flippancy would disappear pretty quickly...

OHHH, so true. I can already see a five on one beatdown. Or maybe just a gat coming out.

Only ignorant black people use this term. If you want people to think less of you, keep using it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the whole excusing it because she's a kid and didn't know better to be problematic. I mean, it's a reflection of your failure as a parent if your child does not understand why it's completely, utterly unacceptable to use to the N-word. Period end of story.

I can just see the "oh, no, she didn't mean...rap songs..." excuses. But no. If you haven't taught your children about the awful treatment of black people in this country for centuries -- as recently as grandma and grandpa were alive -- then you are willfully ignoring it because to admit it is to recognize it. It's easier to ignore it because you're not black or you don't have black family or children or what have you.

It must be nice to get to side step the whole race discussion white folks. I wish I didn't have to drill into my sons heads that their actions will be viewed as lethally dangerous so they can't cut up and act foolish or do dumb stuff like get drunk at someone's house party like their white friends. Because they'll be killed. And then blamed for their murder. Because hoodlum.

I'm confused. Who is going to murder DS? UCR data says if DS is murdered, 94% chance the perp is another black male.

I know you feel that you have been wronged, but please don't turn your kids into racists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this public? How old is your daughter? Is her name attached to It? Basically if an college admission officer googled her and finds it, she is out. They won't even give her the time of day. In fact, you can let her know her social life/future work life is over if anyone sees it. I wouldn't hire her. And yes I Google to check people out. I am sorry your daughter is an awful person. I hope you get through to her about this

Omg she's not an awful person! She is a teen. They need to learn somehow.

Being a teen is breaking curfew because you didn't want to seem uncool and everyone was getting ice cream after the movie. A teen mistake is not racial slurs and black face. This girl is a terrible person. She has time to be a better person but most racist never change.

Where on earth did you read that she did black face?

I think some of you just like to yell RACIST!!!!!! to hear your own voices.

[Anonymous]

Agree, just a stupid teenage mistake which she should only be embarrassed by. Certainly doesn't make her a racist, just a dumb teenager. The only real problem is that photo getting out on the Internet.