How to not be jealous of my friends husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guarantee you their bedroom is dead. All that choreplay niceguy stuff makes her vajayjay as dry as the Sahara.

Bwahah! You beat me to it.

No doubt OP's husband takes her to the woodshed...rinse, repeat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a cook, or nanny, or housekeeper.
You picked a guy and married him, be happy with what you have or blame yourself.
I hate jealous women, they are so pathetic.

Women, especially western anglo ones, are the most selfish people on the planet.

[Anonymous]

he sounds like a f'n pu$$y.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guarantee you their bedroom is dead. All that choreplay niceguy stuff makes her vajayjay as dry as the Sahara.

I expect you're right. The qualities that make a nice, stable long term partner are the opposite of the qualities that create the tension and excitement necessary to spark sexual desire. I'll bet OP's husband turns her on more than her friend is turned on by her husband.

I disagree with you haters. My husband is an equal partner when it comes to kids, chores, activities...we still have a very healthy sex life. The two are not mutually exclusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if there's a guy somewhere that is complaining about his wife that's not doing a thing.

Guys don't care if the wife is lazy or the house is a mess if the sex life is good and flowing. How many posts on here are "my wife doesn't run a clean house" vs. "My wife won't sleep with me"

Nah, most guys will care if they're being told to do this, do that, etc. Even lots of sex won't cancel out the crazy, at least over the long term.

(I also think most guys will care if there's shit stains everywhere in the bathroom, or there's roaches in the kitchen, that level of disgusting.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So instead of being jealous, what conversation can you have with your husband to divide the child rearing tasks more? I'd start with asking him whether he thinks it's your job to do those things. Because if he honestly doesn't think he's supposed to be doing them, no begging or cajoling will help. You have to have that conversation first. It's a hard one to have because you might end up hearing something that will be vastly different from what you believe.

Yes, this was my experience, sadly. But it stopped the begging and nagging, and got us to talk openly. I told him that a lot of what I had been doing around the house was going to be either outsourced or not done, since he feels that I should do 90% of everything kid and house related, even though we both work full time and bring in about the same amount of money. Oh, and yeah, our sex life is pretty bad, but oh well, his choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a cook, or nanny, or housekeeper.
You picked a guy and married him, be happy with what you have or blame yourself.
I hate jealous women, they are so pathetic.

Women, especially western anglo ones, are the most selfish people on the planet.

Selfish? To have to work a full time job, and also run the household, and raise the kids? How is that selfish?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a cook, or nanny, or housekeeper.
You picked a guy and married him, be happy with what you have or blame yourself.
I hate jealous women, they are so pathetic.

Women, especially western anglo ones, are the most selfish people on the planet.

Selfish? To have to work a full time job, and also run the household, and raise the kids? How is that selfish?

Because they're the ones who primarily want the stuff and a lot of what they do in terms of raising the kids & running the household is done with an eye toward avoiding the disapproval of other women. The baby yoga classes and granite counter tops aren't strictly necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a cook, or nanny, or housekeeper.
You picked a guy and married him, be happy with what you have or blame yourself.
I hate jealous women, they are so pathetic.

Women, especially western anglo ones, are the most selfish people on the planet.

Selfish? To have to work a full time job, and also run the household, and raise the kids? How is that selfish?

Because they're the ones who primarily want the stuff and a lot of what they do in terms of raising the kids & running the household is done with an eye toward avoiding the disapproval of other women. The baby yoga classes and granite counter tops aren't strictly necessary.

If it were up to men they'd be living a trailer with obese wives? Alright. Whatever you say, bozo. Sorry you can't cut it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guarantee you their bedroom is dead. All that choreplay niceguy stuff makes her vajayjay as dry as the Sahara.

I expect you're right. The qualities that make a nice, stable long term partner are the opposite of the qualities that create the tension and excitement necessary to spark sexual desire. I'll bet OP's husband turns her on more than her friend is turned on by her husband.

I think there's some truth to this. Neil DeGrasse Tyson was on a podcast recently and talked about a poll where women were asked if they could have an extra husband, but for only one thing what would it be. 70% or more answered for sex.

So that shows that they would like a nice guy to settle down and have all the dad stuff, that's not who they want to sleep with.

This can also be seen in Connor Murphy's videos where he and another guy went and polled women about their favorite body type for a guy. The women overwhelmingly picked the "dad bod". When asked why they said he's cuddly, he looked like relationship material and he looked like a nice guy.

When asked who they would rather sleep with of have a one night stand every single one wanted the muscle fit guy...every one.

So it proves women are hypergamous by nature. They want a secure nest to raise kids and feel secure but when it comes to fun they don't want the same guy, they want the muscular fit asshole.

So does that mean don't help out with kids? Naw, that just makes you a douchebag. Be a father and do the right thing and help with the kids and the house as it's your job as a man to help captain the ship. What it does mean is as a guy you have to realize that your woman isn't yours, it's just your turn. Given a solid opportunity they'll trade up at a moments notice. So the only thing you can do is be the best man you can be, be in shape, be fit, be a good dad and remain as sexually marketable as possible. When she decides to branch swing don't be surprised, it's in her nature. But being a good catch takes maintenance and it's better to be left and be a desirable man than having to start from scratch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guarantee you their bedroom is dead. All that choreplay niceguy stuff makes her vajayjay as dry as the Sahara.

I expect you're right. The qualities that make a nice, stable long term partner are the opposite of the qualities that create the tension and excitement necessary to spark sexual desire. I'll bet OP's husband turns her on more than her friend is turned on by her husband.

I disagree with you haters. My husband is an equal partner when it comes to kids, chores, activities...we still have a very healthy sex life. The two are not mutually exclusive.

He probably still has manly qualities you like. The whole happy wife happy life mantra is shit. You shouldn't do everything in life to please your wife.

Belong around the house and with kids is what you're supposed to be doing as a man. But if you're doing that and you're a needy loser that won't get any sex.

[Anonymous]

So many bitter women on this board. He sounds like an involved father. Many women would be jealous! (And just because he has good qualities doesn't mean that he's a former cheater or bad in bed or has other motives. Goodness, some of you people are nuts).