Little Mean Girl

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's incredibly disturbing that you're still fixating on this, what, 8 or 9 hours after it happened?

Wrong. This happened shortly after 7pm. Our local library closes at 8. Nice try, though.

You said "today." 7 p.m. is "earlier this evening."

You are too combative. Simmer the hell down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then she should not have joined the group with whom he was playing.

When my DD told me about this happening she and I decided she would stand up to the mean girl and tell her if Johnny couldn't play she would not play either.

She did it and it worked. Johnny could play with everyone. I was so proud of her.

You sock-puppeting now, OP? Bizarre.

Oh please. I posted above and I am not OP.

Its a true story. Kids are smarter than we think. Teach them to be kind and start young.

Also raised my daughter to understand that when friends are standing in a circle, it is nice to step back and let someone step in.

You know, basic kindness, inclusivity, and gracious manners.

[Anonymous]

OP, why would this girl tell your kid anything if he wasn't bothering her or trying to engage her, that makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Please. No means no to what exactly? He was there before this girl arrived. He didn't ask to play with her. All the kids were getting along fine until this child came along "asserting" herself for no reason other than to be a brat.

You set this up in your original post to sound like your son was pestering the girl, OP. You made it sound like she rejected an invitation. Now you're telling a different story. I think you're changing your story because you're not getting the sympathy you expected.

Go back and re-read my post. Where did I imply my son was pestering this child? You're changing my story to justify this child's bratty behavior. It's no wonder we have so many rude, entitled young adults these days.

Your description of her telling him to "leave her alone" directly implies some interaction that he initiated.

Reading is fundamental. I said in my OP that I was watching them all the entire time. If my son was being an irritant to another child, I would've corrected him. As I said, I saw nothing that could've led to her reaction. How about she was just being a brat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see anything wrong with what she said. I hate the idea that girls are pressured to be people pleasers at such an early age, OP teach your kid no means no.

I agree. Of course at their age, the delivery of the message is going to be rough around the edges. But if she doesn't want to be around him, that's not a crime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's incredibly disturbing that you're still fixating on this, what, 8 or 9 hours after it happened?

Wrong. This happened shortly after 7pm. Our local library closes at 8. Nice try, though.

You said "today." 7 p.m. is "earlier this evening."

You are too combative. Simmer the hell down.

You are contributing nothing to this thread. Go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Please. No means no to what exactly? He was there before this girl arrived. He didn't ask to play with her. All the kids were getting along fine until this child came along "asserting" herself for no reason other than to be a brat.

You set this up in your original post to sound like your son was pestering the girl, OP. You made it sound like she rejected an invitation. Now you're telling a different story. I think you're changing your story because you're not getting the sympathy you expected.

Go back and re-read my post. Where did I imply my son was pestering this child? You're changing my story to justify this child's bratty behavior. It's no wonder we have so many rude, entitled young adults these days.

Your description of her telling him to "leave her alone" directly implies some interaction that he initiated.

Reading is fundamental. I said in my OP that I was watching them all the entire time. If my son was being an irritant to another child, I would've corrected him. As I said, I saw nothing that could've led to her reaction. How about she was just being a brat?

You come across and thinking your precious little snowflake could never do anything wrong, so you'll excuse us for snorting at this. You've probably never corrected the child in your life. But it's cute how you judge another mother for not helicoptering.

I'm sure your son is precious. But you're over the top.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's incredibly disturbing that you're still fixating on this, what, 8 or 9 hours after it happened?

Wrong. This happened shortly after 7pm. Our local library closes at 8. Nice try, though.

You said "today." 7 p.m. is "earlier this evening."

You are too combative. Simmer the hell down.

You are contributing nothing to this thread. Go away.

Just calling out your bullshit at every turn. Stop posting. You clearly haven't gotten the reaction you were hoping for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, right with you. Little kids can be animals. My daughter in the same situation has been taught to reply as follows:
"Young sir - I really mean no offense, and while I appreciate your desire to engage me in social activity, I would really prefer to galavant on my own if you please. Thank you for your consideration in this matter."
Take note, PPs who are bashing the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Please. No means no to what exactly? He was there before this girl arrived. He didn't ask to play with her. All the kids were getting along fine until this child came along "asserting" herself for no reason other than to be a brat.

I'm a PP. Clearly she didn't want him near her, which is her right. She said so appropriately.

So what was he to do? Move because she said so? That wasn't going to happen. I would not allow it. If she didn't want to be near him, she should've moved. THAT is her right.

Maybe your son picked his nose, put his hand down his pants, poked her in the butt, whatever. Your unwillingness to see that your precious angel from heaven above could have possibly done something offensive is why everyone is taking the other person's side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Please. No means no to what exactly? He was there before this girl arrived. He didn't ask to play with her. All the kids were getting along fine until this child came along "asserting" herself for no reason other than to be a brat.

You set this up in your original post to sound like your son was pestering the girl, OP. You made it sound like she rejected an invitation. Now you're telling a different story. I think you're changing your story because you're not getting the sympathy you expected.

Go back and re-read my post. Where did I imply my son was pestering this child? You're changing my story to justify this child's bratty behavior. It's no wonder we have so many rude, entitled young adults these days.

Your description of her telling him to "leave her alone" directly implies some interaction that he initiated.

Reading is fundamental. I said in my OP that I was watching them all the entire time. If my son was being an irritant to another child, I would've corrected him. As I said, I saw nothing that could've led to her reaction. How about she was just being a brat?

You come across and thinking your precious little snowflake could never do anything wrong, so you'll excuse us for snorting at this. You've probably never corrected the child in your life. But it's cute how you judge another mother for not helicoptering.

I'm sure your son is precious. But you're over the top.

Yes, my son is precious, to me. And I'm teaching him to be assertive, and kind, and respectful. I'm teaching him all those things. That's my job. Maybe you should take a page out of my book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's incredibly disturbing that you're still fixating on this, what, 8 or 9 hours after it happened?

Wrong. This happened shortly after 7pm. Our local library closes at 8. Nice try, though.

You said "today." 7 p.m. is "earlier this evening."

You are too combative. Simmer the hell down.

You are contributing nothing to this thread. Go away.

Just calling out your bullshit at every turn. Stop posting. You clearly haven't gotten the reaction you were hoping for.

Look, I've seen enough on DCUM to know people like you and other PPs would be the more likely response. I felt the urge to post, and so I did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Please. No means no to what exactly? He was there before this girl arrived. He didn't ask to play with her. All the kids were getting along fine until this child came along "asserting" herself for no reason other than to be a brat.

You set this up in your original post to sound like your son was pestering the girl, OP. You made it sound like she rejected an invitation. Now you're telling a different story. I think you're changing your story because you're not getting the sympathy you expected.

Go back and re-read my post. Where did I imply my son was pestering this child? You're changing my story to justify this child's bratty behavior. It's no wonder we have so many rude, entitled young adults these days.

Your description of her telling him to "leave her alone" directly implies some interaction that he initiated.

Reading is fundamental. I said in my OP that I was watching them all the entire time. If my son was being an irritant to another child, I would've corrected him. As I said, I saw nothing that could've led to her reaction. How about she was just being a brat?

You come across and thinking your precious little snowflake could never do anything wrong, so you'll excuse us for snorting at this. You've probably never corrected the child in your life. But it's cute how you judge another mother for not helicoptering.

I'm sure your son is precious. But you're over the top.

Yes, my son is precious, to me. And I'm teaching him to be assertive, and kind, and respectful. I'm teaching him all those things. That's my job. Maybe you should take a page out of my book.

Now OP is the Queen of Parenting!

What a riot.

[Anonymous]

There's nothing wrong with her not wanting to play with your son. Maybe he was just a bit too loud or rough for her. And your son should respect that.

However, her parents should have taught her to say, "sorry, I just want to play by myself today". There's no excuse to say "go away" unless he was pestering her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Little kids can be shits too. That usually grow up to be adult assholes.

You must have a mean girl (or boy). I hate parents like you. The apple never falls too far from the tree.

totally agree.
we were on vacation at a very kid friendly place and it was sad how many talkative, playful kids would just start talking to the kid or group next to him/her and get told to "go away", "be quiet", "leave us alone," or do the eye rolling thing. even to my 4 yo, who for now is talkative and confident enough to just move on. but I assume she'll pick up on getting shamed by 4-7 yo's soon enough.
only thing I can do is try to push her towards solid friends based on good values, not gossip and bullying others. Most of life you can successfully avoid those types. Otherwise stick up for yourself or others or be a silent doormat.