Would you send a letter to your Middle School bully?

[Anonymous]

Of course not. The best revenge is a life well lived.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story: my middle/high school bully's older brother wrote a book about bullying, and in interviews spoke about how much he hated bullying.

I don't see how he couldn't have known what a vicious, evil bully his little brother was.

Maybe he did know and that's why he wrote the book. Siblings don't always get along and maybe the younger one was bullying the older one.

I doubt it. They were four years apart, and the older one was well-liked and handsome, and very intelligent (not a surprise he became a writer). The younger one was a short, skinny rat-faced loser who wasn't very bright, and kind of floated on the periphery of his brother's friend group just because they were related. I don't think anybody in my high school knew I was in the throes of bulimia, but somehow the evil bully picked up on something, and used to make horrible taunts to me about my body (and I wasn't overweight at all). Actually, I blame him for CAUSING my bulimia. I will never, ever forget the things he said to me when we were at the same lab table freshman year, and I have no idea why he focused on me, but it was horribly embarrassing and painful to me. I wish him nothing but pain and misery in his life.

When I read the interviews his big brother gave about how his novel was inspired by bullying and hazing at our high school, I really struggled with myself to resist posting comments on his amazon reviews about how his own brother was the worst bully of all.

Oh, but forgot to mention that no, OP, I don't think you should write your bully a letter.

[Anonymous]

I had a middle school bully. We both went to the same high school where the bullying stopped. I retaliated at a high school reunion, observing to him that I was in DC doing well, and he was in Dumass, Illinois doing menial labor. I'm looking forward to the next reunion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd make them a hobby.

I'd F' with them in ways they'd never understand why it was happening. Maybe make a book out of it after a decade of it.

People like you get sued and lose their houses. But you probably don't even have one to lose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, one day I was out near my parents house and a guy came up to me. He bullied me from middle school all the way to high school. He apologized for being a jerk and I accepted his apology. It did feel good to know that what he did to me, still bothered him. So a letter might be good for both of you but only if it's a "you bullied me and I am ok and over it." If it's to rehash old wounds, I would get some counseling instead.

+1

OP, hurt people hurt people. You need to seek out someone that can help you in a productive way (hopefully I said this in a pleasant manner).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course not. The best revenge is a life well lived.

+1

[Anonymous]

Mine's dead. Murder-suicide.

[Anonymous]

I understand that lack of resolution that leaves one bitter for a lifetime. I still hate on people that bullied me in middle school years later. I always hoped they would have a kid like me who'd be bullied, so they would feel the pain and be remorseful.

Once in a while I google them hoping to find the obits. Do I sound bitter?

I wouldn't send a letter to your bully because they may not remember you, which would really hurt you.

[Anonymous]

I bullied an overweight girl in my 7th grade class. Turned everyone against her. Threw rocks at her, etc. I was horrible.

When I joined facebook 10 years ago she was the second person who requested me and said hi. I spent years feeling awful for everything I did to her and was really grateful for the chance to apologise. She accepted and now we are good friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bullied an overweight girl in my 7th grade class. Turned everyone against her. Threw rocks at her, etc. I was horrible.

When I joined facebook 10 years ago she was the second person who requested me and said hi. I spent years feeling awful for everything I did to her and was really grateful for the chance to apologise. She accepted and now we are good friends.

Why did you bully her? It would be helpful to hear a bully's side of things.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't. An adult who still has issues with a childhood bully should seek out counseling to get right with themselves.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you seriously feel the need to contact someone who was mean to you in middle school, you need to see a therapist. There is nothing healthy about that. I had a bully in middle schools. This thread reminded me of her. I have not throught about her in probably 30 years. It was a bit of a struggle to even remember her name. She was awful to me. In Middle School. Almost 40 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd make them a hobby.

I'd F' with them in ways they'd never understand why it was happening. Maybe make a book out of it after a decade of it.

People like you get sued and lose their houses. But you probably don't even have one to lose.

LOL! What?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bullied an overweight girl in my 7th grade class. Turned everyone against her. Threw rocks at her, etc. I was horrible.

When I joined facebook 10 years ago she was the second person who requested me and said hi. I spent years feeling awful for everything I did to her and was really grateful for the chance to apologise. She accepted and now we are good friends.

Why did you bully her? It would be helpful to hear a bully's side of things.

Yes, if you wouldn't mind, please explain. I was also on the receiving end of bullying and wondered why, since I had always been nice to everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a middle school bully. We both went to the same high school where the bullying stopped. I retaliated at a high school reunion, observing to him that I was in DC doing well, and he was in Dumass, Illinois doing menial labor. I'm looking forward to the next reunion.

There's honor in hard work, whether it is menial or professional. You got your revenge, now drop it and move on.