DCUM-Land Doom and Gloom in 30s

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women need to wake up and realize through eggs are bad after 33, the fantasy of being pregnant at 40 is bs and should be communicated yo the single 30 year olds by the older women

Both my kids were born after DW was 40. Both are healthy, very intelligent, and good-looking.

I wonder if it's lifestyle that makes women infertile so early (drinking, smoking, drugs, etc.)?

Nope. Sorry. It's called "biology".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 31, almost 32, 2 kids, house and career and I look better than I did in my 20s. I just laugh at the people who post stuff like "can I ever find happiness at 32," "how to be hot past 30?" If you aren't finally settling into yourself and really hitting your stride in your 30s or somehow think you were a better version of yourself in your early 20s, you're doing something wrong. I am thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

Easy for you to say when you are married with kids and a career.

But even if you aren't, it's ludicrous to think you have passed the he of a)ever getting these things or b) finding happiness without them. This is what I have an issue with, the idea if everything you want isn't in place by 30 you're done. If you want kids and a career, keep working toward them and enjoy where you are in the meantime! It's still SO YOUNG in the grand scheme of things.

Yes but society and people in general don't think like that. When you hit 30, it is like you are expected to be married, have kids, a fantastic career and when you don't, you are made to feel like there is something wrong with you. Look at people's reactions on here at times when they hear of a single and childless 32 year old woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women need to wake up and realize through eggs are bad after 33, the fantasy of being pregnant at 40 is bs and should be communicated yo the single 30 year olds by the older women

Both my kids were born after DW was 40. Both are healthy, very intelligent, and good-looking.

I wonder if it's lifestyle that makes women infertile so early (drinking, smoking, drugs, etc.)?

I doubt it. I smoked (have quit) drank too much in my 20's and had an eating disorder from 16-21. Pregnant three times on the first go round, had babies at 31 32 and 34.

But I'm sure that you blaming mothers really hurts women struggling with infertility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31, almost 32, 2 kids, house and career and I look better than I did in my 20s. I just laugh at the people who post stuff like "can I ever find happiness at 32," "how to be hot past 30?" If you aren't finally settling into yourself and really hitting your stride in your 30s or somehow think you were a better version of yourself in your early 20s, you're doing something wrong. I am thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

Haha same here. I'm 37. My husband is 7 years younger. I love my job. I had a lot of fun in my 20s but wasn't comfortable in my own skin. I am also thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

Oh and FWIW - I'm 130 lbs with about 23% body fat. I work out a lot. It's actually VERY easy to stay toned if you eat properly and work out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31, almost 32, 2 kids, house and career and I look better than I did in my 20s. I just laugh at the people who post stuff like "can I ever find happiness at 32," "how to be hot past 30?" If you aren't finally settling into yourself and really hitting your stride in your 30s or somehow think you were a better version of yourself in your early 20s, you're doing something wrong. I am thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

Easy for you to say when you are married with kids and a career.

But even if you aren't, it's ludicrous to think you have passed the he of a)ever getting these things or b) finding happiness without them. This is what I have an issue with, the idea if everything you want isn't in place by 30 you're done. If you want kids and a career, keep working toward them and enjoy where you are in the meantime! It's still SO YOUNG in the grand scheme of things.

Yes but society and people in general don't think like that. When you hit 30, it is like you are expected to be married, have kids, a fantastic career and when you don't, you are made to feel like there is something wrong with you. Look at people's reactions on here at times when they hear of a single and childless 32 year old woman.

This goes both ways. I certainly got my fair share of judgment for having my kids at 24 and 28. At least as much if not more than a childless woman at 33-35 gets. I just did what was best for me, and it worked out fine. That's another great part of your 30s- you realize if your life is working for you, what everyone else thinks is just noise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 31, almost 32, 2 kids, house and career and I look better than I did in my 20s. I just laugh at the people who post stuff like "can I ever find happiness at 32," "how to be hot past 30?" If you aren't finally settling into yourself and really hitting your stride in your 30s or somehow think you were a better version of yourself in your early 20s, you're doing something wrong. I am thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

Haha same here. I'm 37. My husband is 7 years younger. I love my job. I had a lot of fun in my 20s but wasn't comfortable in my own skin. I am also thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

Oh and FWIW - I'm 130 lbs with about 23% body fat. I work out a lot. It's actually VERY easy to stay toned if you eat properly and work out.

23% is toned??

[Anonymous]

Judged at 28 for having kids? Most women I know are planning a kid at that age or already have one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31, almost 32, 2 kids, house and career and I look better than I did in my 20s. I just laugh at the people who post stuff like "can I ever find happiness at 32," "how to be hot past 30?" If you aren't finally settling into yourself and really hitting your stride in your 30s or somehow think you were a better version of yourself in your early 20s, you're doing something wrong. I am thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

Haha same here. I'm 37. My husband is 7 years younger. I love my job. I had a lot of fun in my 20s but wasn't comfortable in my own skin. I am also thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

Oh and FWIW - I'm 130 lbs with about 23% body fat. I work out a lot. It's actually VERY easy to stay toned if you eat properly and work out.

23% is toned??

Yes, loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women need to wake up and realize through eggs are bad after 33, the fantasy of being pregnant at 40 is bs and should be communicated yo the single 30 year olds by the older women

Both my kids were born after DW was 40. Both are healthy, very intelligent, and good-looking.

I wonder if it's lifestyle that makes women infertile so early (drinking, smoking, drugs, etc.)?

Um no. Your children may be intelligent but they didn't get it from you obviouly!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Judged at 28 for having kids? Most women I know are planning a kid at that age or already have one.

I had 2 by then- one at 24, one at 28. And yes I got judgment for being "too young" and "wasting my 20s."

[Anonymous]

Hmm, so for me if someone doesn't have kids between 28 at the earliest they get judged or lectured on eggs drying up. I guess we as women can't win

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am appalled by all the 30something threads bemoaning loss of looks and lack of dating options and preparing for the crypt when you turn 30!

I know SO MANY 30somethings in the DC area who are partying it up! Gorgeous barree toned bodies, prestigious DC type jobs, glamorous galas and parties. They get dates ALL THE TIME. They also marry similar over achiever glamorous DC types and have beautiful weddings at Meridian House that are showcased on Washingtonian.

What alternate reality are DCUM-ers living where you can't wear shorts after 30 and are a spinster?


What the bananas?

You guys cant truly be serious???

I also have a 36 year old non glamorous friend who is single after dating a 28 year old. She gets bombarded with messages from guys in her friends group and EXes wanting to take her out.

You guys must be delusional!!

Yeah, you just hit it on the head. Not everyone wants that party lifestyle. They want a real life with a real person....maybe in the suburbs (Gasp!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm, so for me if someone doesn't have kids between 28 at the earliest they get judged or lectured on eggs drying up. I guess we as women can't win

Yes exactly which is why I said in your 30s you learn to let go of the judgment and just do what works. Women get it from all sides. If we have kids younger or older we will get dinged either way. If we sah or work we will get judged. So just *tune it out * and be confident in YOUR choices for yourself!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am appalled by all the 30something threads bemoaning loss of looks and lack of dating options and preparing for the crypt when you turn 30!

I know SO MANY 30somethings in the DC area who are partying it up! Gorgeous barree toned bodies, prestigious DC type jobs, glamorous galas and parties. They get dates ALL THE TIME. They also marry similar over achiever glamorous DC types and have beautiful weddings at Meridian House that are showcased on Washingtonian.

What alternate reality are DCUM-ers living where you can't wear shorts after 30 and are a spinster?


What the bananas?

You guys cant truly be serious???

I also have a 36 year old non glamorous friend who is single after dating a 28 year old. She gets bombarded with messages from guys in her friends group and EXes wanting to take her out.

You guys must be delusional!!

You're talking about people who for various reasons landed in prime life spots. Of course they are still getting dates - they have probably always been very good looking and connected.

But if your career was been floundering and your social circle is small (and getting smaller since others are getting married and having kids), I think it's a different ball of wax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look at people's reactions on here at times when they hear of a single and childless 32 year old woman.

Is she hot?