DCUM-Land Doom and Gloom in 30s

[Anonymous]

I am appalled by all the 30something threads bemoaning loss of looks and lack of dating options and preparing for the crypt when you turn 30!

I know SO MANY 30somethings in the DC area who are partying it up! Gorgeous barree toned bodies, prestigious DC type jobs, glamorous galas and parties. They get dates ALL THE TIME. They also marry similar over achiever glamorous DC types and have beautiful weddings at Meridian House that are showcased on Washingtonian.

What alternate reality are DCUM-ers living where you can't wear shorts after 30 and are a spinster?


What the bananas?

You guys cant truly be serious???

I also have a 36 year old non glamorous friend who is single after dating a 28 year old. She gets bombarded with messages from guys in her friends group and EXes wanting to take her out.

You guys must be delusional!!

[Anonymous]

I'm with ya, OP. My theory is that the naysayers who insist 30-something women are dried up spinsters are just people who settled in marriage, resent their mediocre lives, can't stand to see someone else happy or having fun, and just generally get their kicks trying to tear other people down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm with ya, OP. My theory is that the naysayers who insist 30-something women are dried up spinsters are just people who settled in marriage, resent their mediocre lives, can't stand to see someone else happy or having fun, and just generally get their kicks trying to tear other people down.

Also WHERE are all these women with husbands, 2 babies, mortgages and mom bods by 28?

I am 27 and ALL of the twentysomething girls I know are living in group houses, going to happy hour, tinder-ing casually and applying to grad schools etc. We know some girls who just got married but they still live like us.

I feel like DCUM is alternate land or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm with ya, OP. My theory is that the naysayers who insist 30-something women are dried up spinsters are just people who settled in marriage, resent their mediocre lives, can't stand to see someone else happy or having fun, and just generally get their kicks trying to tear other people down.

Also WHERE are all these women with husbands, 2 babies, mortgages and mom bods by 28?

I am 27 and ALL of the twentysomething girls I know are living in group houses, going to happy hour, tinder-ing casually and applying to grad schools etc. We know some girls who just got married but they still live like us.

I feel like DCUM is alternate land or something.

I turn 30 this year and have plenty of friends married with a mortgage, two kids. They met in college and married shortly after. But, they ALL live out in the burbs.

[Anonymous]

Most of my friends are married with kids (We are 32-33).
The problem is what we are conditioned to believe. Society tells us we are not complete without being married or a mother. We have films like 'Bridget Jones diary' and 'The 40 year old virgin', newspaper articles screaming out scaremongering messages about how we need to become moms right NOW if we want to have kids. Some of us also have family and friends pressuring us, glossy magazines tell us what we are 'lacking' anf then when we do become moms, we get pressure if we either stay st home or choose to work. As a woman in this age group, we have a lor of pressure on us. Twenties are seen as a fun, carefree age, thirties is where the pressure gets laid on to 'have it all' and when we don't, we feel we are falling short.
I feel like I can't handle it myself most days.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I think those posts are from single men who rarely date (hence being on DCUM) and a few unhappily married women. The guys just want women to settle.

[Anonymous]

This whole forum has become overrun with misogynists who post fake threads to make themselves feel better about living in their moms' basements. I agree with you OP. I think these women are living quite well!

[Anonymous]

Those last few answers are proof why us single women over 30 feel bad for not habing it all. The small minded, judgemental comments.

[Anonymous]

I agree PP. I would go as far as to say that it makes me want to end things because I can't stand knowing what people secretly think of me.

[Anonymous]

Women need to wake up and realize through eggs are bad after 33, the fantasy of being pregnant at 40 is bs and should be communicated yo the single 30 year olds by the older women

[Anonymous]

Good grief, PP. We aren't stupid, we all know that. But what are we meant to do if we want kids? Jump on the nearest guy just so we can procreate? Please stop being so patronising.
I know plenty of women who had kids between 40-43 as well so you are wrong there. It's not for me but it can happen.
Stop being all smug. You are married with kids, we get it. Doesn't give you the right to patronise the rest of us who don't have that yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women need to wake up and realize through eggs are bad after 33, the fantasy of being pregnant at 40 is bs and should be communicated yo the single 30 year olds by the older women

Except then women are criticized for taking advantage of some poor guy just to have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm with ya, OP. My theory is that the naysayers who insist 30-something women are dried up spinsters are just people who settled in marriage, resent their mediocre lives, can't stand to see someone else happy or having fun, and just generally get their kicks trying to tear other people down.

Umm, who,gets their kicks from tearimg others down? Pot meet kettle.

[Anonymous]

Yeah the spinster 30 threads (can I wear tight jeans???) are ridiculous. But as the 33 yr old mom to a toddler with another on the way, shit gets adult and old real fast, so it can feel boring and pathetic only a few years after partying til 3am on H street...