DCUM-Land Doom and Gloom in 30s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women need to wake up and realize through eggs are bad after 33, the fantasy of being pregnant at 40 is bs and should be communicated yo the single 30 year olds by the older women

Both my kids were born after DW was 40. Both are healthy, very intelligent, and good-looking.

I wonder if it's lifestyle that makes women infertile so early (drinking, smoking, drugs, etc.)?

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP of the "how can I be hot in my 30s" thread. To clarify, I wasn't saying people in their 30s can't be hot. But I do realize it is a lot more work, and it's a different kind of hotness. In my 20s I could eat whatever I wanted and dress however I wanted, and men were still interested all the time. I could walk into a coffee shop in sweatpants and get asked out. Now, if I do that, I just look frumpy and unattractive. The natural hotness of youth is gone. I cant roll out of bed an 8 anymore, it takes more effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of the "how can I be hot in my 30s" thread. To clarify, I wasn't saying people in their 30s can't be hot. But I do realize it is a lot more work, and it's a different kind of hotness. In my 20s I could eat whatever I wanted and dress however I wanted, and men were still interested all the time. I could walk into a coffee shop in sweatpants and get asked out. Now, if I do that, I just look frumpy and unattractive. The natural hotness of youth is gone. I cant roll out of bed an 8 anymore, it takes more effort.

Poor baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of the "how can I be hot in my 30s" thread. To clarify, I wasn't saying people in their 30s can't be hot. But I do realize it is a lot more work, and it's a different kind of hotness. In my 20s I could eat whatever I wanted and dress however I wanted, and men were still interested all the time. I could walk into a coffee shop in sweatpants and get asked out. Now, if I do that, I just look frumpy and unattractive. The natural hotness of youth is gone. I cant roll out of bed an 8 anymore, it takes more effort.

You do know there is more to life than being hot? You sound so boring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think those posts are from single men who rarely date (hence being on DCUM) and a few unhappily married women. The guys just want women to settle.

And settle they obviously do, based on the fugly guys the ultimately pair off with. And as the old saying goes, once a woman has kids...that's it.

[Anonymous]

Yeah sleeping around town in your 30s is "glamorous." LOLOLOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women need to wake up and realize through eggs are bad after 33, the fantasy of being pregnant at 40 is bs and should be communicated yo the single 30 year olds by the older women

Both my kids were born after DW was 40. Both are healthy, very intelligent, and good-looking.

I wonder if it's lifestyle that makes women infertile so early (drinking, smoking, drugs, etc.)?

It's biology. Of course a certain lifestyle can improve fertility, but it won't stop the biological clock from ticking. You and your wife were lucky. If having biological children is a priority, a woman should not wait until 40 if she wants the odds in her favor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of the "how can I be hot in my 30s" thread. To clarify, I wasn't saying people in their 30s can't be hot. But I do realize it is a lot more work, and it's a different kind of hotness. In my 20s I could eat whatever I wanted and dress however I wanted, and men were still interested all the time. I could walk into a coffee shop in sweatpants and get asked out. Now, if I do that, I just look frumpy and unattractive. The natural hotness of youth is gone. I cant roll out of bed an 8 anymore, it takes more effort.

You do know there is more to life than being hot? You sound so boring.

Yup! I have a pretty fantastic life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of the "how can I be hot in my 30s" thread. To clarify, I wasn't saying people in their 30s can't be hot. But I do realize it is a lot more work, and it's a different kind of hotness. In my 20s I could eat whatever I wanted and dress however I wanted, and men were still interested all the time. I could walk into a coffee shop in sweatpants and get asked out. Now, if I do that, I just look frumpy and unattractive. The natural hotness of youth is gone. I cant roll out of bed an 8 anymore, it takes more effort.

You do know there is more to life than being hot? You sound so boring.

Pretty sure PP cares about other things.

I have a PhD, a "fancy" job, a great house, sweet family, hobbies, interest, etc., but the above is also the truth for me.

Honestly, in my 20s, I could stay up 'til 4 a.m. every night, get 6 hours of sleep, wear no makeup, laugh at the idea of working out, and feel hot--get hit on just pumping gas or whatever.

In my 30s, I am usually in bed by 10, work out religiously, take care of my skin, etc., and I think I look good, but I just know I'm not as "hot," and I have to work harder to make it happen.



Knowing that

[Anonymous]

I don't know ... I felt like I was pretty damn hot until I started having kids at 37. Then I had 4 in 5 years, and now hot is the furthest thing from my mind (it's all about SLEEP).

What kind of "work" are you doing to get ready? If the bod looks good, what else is there?

[Anonymous]

I'm 31, almost 32, 2 kids, house and career and I look better than I did in my 20s. I just laugh at the people who post stuff like "can I ever find happiness at 32," "how to be hot past 30?" If you aren't finally settling into yourself and really hitting your stride in your 30s or somehow think you were a better version of yourself in your early 20s, you're doing something wrong. I am thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know ... I felt like I was pretty damn hot until I started having kids at 37. Then I had 4 in 5 years, and now hot is the furthest thing from my mind (it's all about SLEEP).

What kind of "work" are you doing to get ready? If the bod looks good, what else is there?

4 kids in 5 years would take it out of anybody at any age

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31, almost 32, 2 kids, house and career and I look better than I did in my 20s. I just laugh at the people who post stuff like "can I ever find happiness at 32," "how to be hot past 30?" If you aren't finally settling into yourself and really hitting your stride in your 30s or somehow think you were a better version of yourself in your early 20s, you're doing something wrong. I am thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

Easy for you to say when you are married with kids and a career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31, almost 32, 2 kids, house and career and I look better than I did in my 20s. I just laugh at the people who post stuff like "can I ever find happiness at 32," "how to be hot past 30?" If you aren't finally settling into yourself and really hitting your stride in your 30s or somehow think you were a better version of yourself in your early 20s, you're doing something wrong. I am thoroughly enjoying my 30s.

Easy for you to say when you are married with kids and a career.

But even if you aren't, it's ludicrous to think you have passed the he of a)ever getting these things or b) finding happiness without them. This is what I have an issue with, the idea if everything you want isn't in place by 30 you're done. If you want kids and a career, keep working toward them and enjoy where you are in the meantime! It's still SO YOUNG in the grand scheme of things.

[Anonymous]

Passed the age*