Need Advice: Just found out DD (16 yo) is dating a 25 yo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many immigrants in FFX & PW co are waaay beyond the usual HS age.

This.

Exactly, Mexico isn't sending their best and brightest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many immigrants in FFX & PW co are waaay beyond the usual HS age.

This.

Exactly, Mexico isn't sending their best and brightest

Whatever. Even if they are the dullest and stupid, they are not allowed to be on a traditional campus at age 25. And, BTW Trumpkin, did OP say the her D.C. Was dating a Mexican immigrant. Because otherwise it seems like you are just looking for a chance to be hateful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there anyone at school you can call and quietly inquire, not in a crazy way?

Not that we can think of, without coming across as a little weird.

We plan to talk with DD tonight. Hopefully, that will shed some light on some things.

Trying to keep my cool and not overreact.

I meant an adult in charge.

[Anonymous]

Suggest she invite him over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure he goes to DD's high school, or does she just say he does?

I would find this far more likely than a 25 year old on campus.

I vote +1

[Anonymous]

I would do 2 things: call the school and report what you've found out (the school is mandated to act), and call the police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would do 2 things: call the school and report what you've found out (the school is mandated to act), and call the police.

OP: "I just looked around online, and I found out that my daughter's boyfriend, who is a student at your school, is really 25 years old!!!!!"
The person on the other end of the phone line: "..."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. We found the info online from what we've known to be a reliable source. While we are not freaking out yet, we often use the source professionally and it has always been accurate. Still, we are holding out the possibility that the info could be off this time.

What the hell do you used this information for? You go around stalking people or checking their ages at a random?

Good grief.

[Anonymous]

No traditional high school in the country takes both 16-year-olds and 25-year-olds. Anyone older than 21 must attend an adult learning program. They will never be mixed in with the rest of the teenagers.

Either your online source is wrong (likely), or your daughter is lying about him being a fellow student (possibly).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. We found the info online from what we've known to be a reliable source. While we are not freaking out yet, we often use the source professionally and it has always been accurate. Still, we are holding out the possibility that the info could be off this time.

There is no such thing as a reliable online source. Most listings online have my age completely wrong because I never give my correct birthdate or birthyear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would do 2 things: call the school and report what you've found out (the school is mandated to act), and call the police.

OP: "I just looked around online, and I found out that my daughter's boyfriend, who is a student at your school, is really 25 years old!!!!!"
The person on the other end of the phone line: "..."

Oh, dear. It isn't hard but I can see that you're confused. Let me help.

OP calls the school and says 'Our daughter Larla is dating a young man named Laslo Losla, whom we believe to be a registered freshman/sophomore/junior/senior at the school. We also have found out through <source> that Laslo Losla may be at the school under false pretenses and may have lied about his age. Through <source> we believe Laslo's age to be 25. We need you to verify that Laslo is a student at the school and also to verify his age.' That is all that needs to be said and the school registrar will take it from there. Then OP asks to speak with the School Resource Officer if OP hasn't already called the local precinct.

There is no doubt that both organizations will be interested in hearing from OP if only to verify that OP's information is correct or incorrect.

Hopefully OP is incorrect. But it is better to be safe than sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No traditional high school in the country takes both 16-year-olds and 25-year-olds. Anyone older than 21 must attend an adult learning program. They will never be mixed in with the rest of the teenagers.

Either your online source is wrong (likely), or your daughter is lying about him being a fellow student (possibly).

Agree that it's possible the "student" is not a student. Chat with your dd, and then contact police if you need to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would do 2 things: call the school and report what you've found out (the school is mandated to act), and call the police.

OP: "I just looked around online, and I found out that my daughter's boyfriend, who is a student at your school, is really 25 years old!!!!!"
The person on the other end of the phone line: "..."

Oh, dear. It isn't hard but I can see that you're confused. Let me help.

OP calls the school and says 'Our daughter Larla is dating a young man named Laslo Losla, whom we believe to be a registered freshman/sophomore/junior/senior at the school. We also have found out through <source> that Laslo Losla may be at the school under false pretenses and may have lied about his age. Through <source> we believe Laslo's age to be 25. We need you to verify that Laslo is a student at the school and also to verify his age.' That is all that needs to be said and the school registrar will take it from there. Then OP asks to speak with the School Resource Officer if OP hasn't already called the local precinct.

There is no doubt that both organizations will be interested in hearing from OP if only to verify that OP's information is correct or incorrect.

Hopefully OP is incorrect. But it is better to be safe than sorry.

"We also found out from the Internet that..."

I hope that both the school administrator and the local precinct have better things to do than follow up on somebody's Internet trawls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would do 2 things: call the school and report what you've found out (the school is mandated to act), and call the police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would do 2 things: call the school and report what you've found out (the school is mandated to act), and call the police.

OP: "I just looked around online, and I found out that my daughter's boyfriend, who is a student at your school, is really 25 years old!!!!!"
The person on the other end of the phone line: "..."

Oh, dear. It isn't hard but I can see that you're confused. Let me help.

OP calls the school and says 'Our daughter Larla is dating a young man named Laslo Losla, whom we believe to be a registered freshman/sophomore/junior/senior at the school. We also have found out through <source> that Laslo Losla may be at the school under false pretenses and may have lied about his age. Through <source> we believe Laslo's age to be 25. We need you to verify that Laslo is a student at the school and also to verify his age.' That is all that needs to be said and the school registrar will take it from there. Then OP asks to speak with the School Resource Officer if OP hasn't already called the local precinct.


Again no school is going to give out any information. How about the parents invite the young man over and have a discussion about his age.
There is no doubt that both organizations will be interested in hearing from OP if only to verify that OP's information is correct or incorrect.

Hopefully OP is incorrect. But it is better to be safe than sorry.