My sister let her son drop out of UVA to work a dead-end job

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure she's putting a positive spin on it on social media because what else could she say? Little Jaden is home because he had a mental health crisis/failed out/drank too much? Do you think she should go on social media and say she is disappointed with her son's failure?

OP clearly thinks she should be so embarrassed as to not mention anything on social media. You know what? Some people try to find positives in bad situations and need to find a way to appreciate that. I find that your generation, OP, fills this "way of appreciation" via explanatory FB posts (way, way more than mine at 36, never mind young people).

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I think you're wrong unless there's something you're not sharing that would explain how this affects you or why it would be your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you're wrong unless there's something you're not sharing that would explain how this affects you or why it would be your business.

+1 Judge as much as you want in your own head, OP. But it's not your life, your child, or your business, so keep your opinions to yourself.

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What do you mean "let him"? He's an adult. If he doesn't want to go to college, that's his decision

[Anonymous]

Well if he literally ditched 2 1/2 years of college in order to go home and deliver pizzas, I think he'll wind up regretting that. But he's an adult and he is the one who has to live his life.

If he's on academic suspension or if he's been kicked out or if he needs to be home right now for emotional reasons then sometimes there isn't much of a choice then to come on home.

If he's decided to focus on a trade instead, that isn't what I would call a dead end job

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Anonymous wrote:I do know the whole story -- she coddled him and made him a weak nancy and now she's happy he boomeranged. It's beyond selfish. And bragging about him being home on facebook shows how deluded she is. It should be embarrassing, not celebrated. Think about what she's signaling to her son and his younger siblings.

She sounds like a great mom to be supportive of her kid while he figures things out. Would it be better if she were ashamed of him and shunning him?

She probably truly loves to have him home. I know that I love to have my boys home.

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Anonymous wrote:Well if he literally ditched 2 1/2 years of college in order to go home and deliver pizzas, I think he'll wind up regretting that. But he's an adult and he is the one who has to live his life.

If he's on academic suspension or if he's been kicked out or if he needs to be home right now for emotional reasons then sometimes there isn't much of a choice then to come on home.

If he's decided to focus on a trade instead, that isn't what I would call a dead end job

You don't "ditch" 2.5 years of college. He'll always have that.

I went home after 2.5 years to deliver pizzas after escaping an abusive relationship. A year of delivering pizza, community college part-time, and living at home, and I was back at school. Finished, and went on to get a master's and doctorate as well.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well if he literally ditched 2 1/2 years of college in order to go home and deliver pizzas, I think he'll wind up regretting that. But he's an adult and he is the one who has to live his life.

If he's on academic suspension or if he's been kicked out or if he needs to be home right now for emotional reasons then sometimes there isn't much of a choice then to come on home.

If he's decided to focus on a trade instead, that isn't what I would call a dead end job

You don't "ditch" 2.5 years of college. He'll always have that.

I went home after 2.5 years to deliver pizzas after escaping an abusive relationship. A year of delivering pizza, community college part-time, and living at home, and I was back at school. Finished, and went on to get a master's and doctorate as well.

Yeah? And I hung in there for 4 years and partied my azz off. I padded my GPA with easy courses in order to stay as long as I could get away with....

I finally got myself on academic suspension and I left w/o a degree. Wound up back at home. Rolled up my sleeves, got a job, worked long hours and within a year I had my own car and was able to move out.

Never have gotten that degree which I do regret. Even now about 30 years later.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you are wrong to judge. A lot can be going on behind the scenes.

This.

+2 but surely you knew this already OP?

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You are choosing to see her posting as bragging OP, I'm sure it doesn't come off that way to everyone. And I also don't believe you know the whole story- someone with your dismissive and judgmental attitude wouldn't get to know my whole name let alone my whole story.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 1000% positive OP does not know the whole story. And she knows she doesn't know the whole story. Keep your eyes on your own paper missy!

And, since she is clearly judgmental, sis won't be telling.

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Anonymous wrote:Good luck explaining the gap when trying to get a job...

Nobody will care about the gap, lots of kids take time off from college and go back. Lots of kids take a gap year. Some colleges actually encourage a gap year.

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Op, you need to mind your own business

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Anonymous wrote:
I think you're wrong unless there's something you're not sharing that would explain how this affects you or why it would be your business.


+1 Judge as much as you want in your own head, OP. But it's not your life, your child, or your business, so keep your opinions to yourself.

This
Stop looking at what she says on Facebook
When people aggravate you - stop
You don't have to be the one to police-the-truth
YOU'LL be a much happier person if you learn to ignore

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Anonymous wrote:I do know the whole story -- she coddled him and made him a weak nancy and now she's happy he boomeranged. It's beyond selfish. And bragging about him being home on facebook shows how deluded she is. It should be embarrassing, not celebrated. Think about what she's signaling to her son and his younger siblings.

It sounds as if he needs help, and she is beyond help.

I can sympathize up to a point - my mother was weirdly protective and had a really hard time letting go of me.