what's the worst affair story you've heard of where the marriage recovered?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dear friend's husband had a child out of wedlock. He stayed with his wife, they continued to have kids of their own. He tried to be a father to the baby, but the other woman wanted all or none. She took the baby and moved across the country. Now he's a child support only father.

Guess that should say outside of his marriage, with his AP.

[Anonymous]

Ex-boyfriend from college who I became good friends with. He met his wife in college and I'd never known 2 people more perfect for each other.

While they were dating, he told me stories about his cheating. (I'm sure I only got a portion of the stories). Mid-20's they get married. He's still cheating but madly in love with her. They have a great sex life, but he just has "you're not the boss of me" issues.

All the flings don't seem to affect the marriage until late 20's when he falls in love with one of the women. It becomes obvious that DW knows, but she is too scared to leave him. He is truly her entire life. (He was her first kiss). Finally his behavior gets so bad she has to leave him.

Soon after OW dumps him. He's living on his own, dating many women but going to therapy, both individual and couples. About 7-8 months later, he meets another really great girl and starts to get serious with her. But still going to couples counseling with DW.

At about 9-10 months he realize, life could be good with new woman but similar to life with DW. There was nothing really wrong with DW. Why should he up end his life only to end up in the same place? He realized this was about him. Not the women.

On her end, DW got a backbone and a life. She no longer was leaning on him for everything. So less than a year later they got back together. A few years later, after always saying they'd never have a kid, they decided to have a kid.

It's been 15 years since the affair and married over 20 years and very happy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ex-boyfriend from college who I became good friends with. He met his wife in college and I'd never known 2 people more perfect for each other.

While they were dating, he told me stories about his cheating. (I'm sure I only got a portion of the stories). Mid-20's they get married. He's still cheating but madly in love with her. They have a great sex life, but he just has "you're not the boss of me" issues.

All the flings don't seem to affect the marriage until late 20's when he falls in love with one of the women. It becomes obvious that DW knows, but she is too scared to leave him. He is truly her entire life. (He was her first kiss). Finally his behavior gets so bad she has to leave him.

Soon after OW dumps him. He's living on his own, dating many women but going to therapy, both individual and couples. About 7-8 months later, he meets another really great girl and starts to get serious with her. But still going to couples counseling with DW.

At about 9-10 months he realize, life could be good with new woman but similar to life with DW. There was nothing really wrong with DW. Why should he up end his life only to end up in the same place? He realized this was about him. Not the women.

On her end, DW got a backbone and a life. She no longer was leaning on him for everything. So less than a year later they got back together. A few years later, after always saying they'd never have a kid, they decided to have a kid.

It's been 15 years since the affair and married over 20 years and very happy

too much drama for my taste.

[Anonymous]

The std stories here are heartbreaking. Unforgivable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

What would he even say though? He probably didn't know he had the clap and it's not like he would have known the symptoms his wife was having were related to an STD.

Obviously he's wrong for cheating but I'm not sure how he could have mitigated the situation other than by confessing to cheating...which...wouldn't really make a lot of sense from his standpoint.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dear friend's husband had a child out of wedlock. He stayed with his wife, they continued to have kids of their own. He tried to be a father to the baby, but the other woman wanted all or none. She took the baby and moved across the country. Now he's a child support only father.

I had a similar situation that occurred during the time I was dating my now wife. I had some bad things going on in my life that were totally unrelated to DW and, among other terrible life decisions, had a ONS. Talk about the worst possible outcome that could happen...OW got pregnant. I found out about it when the child support people came knocking at my door some time afterwards.

I could have saved myself a world of grief if I'd just gone to a counselor to talk through my issues instead of letting my life implode.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

What would he even say though? He probably didn't know he had the clap and it's not like he would have known the symptoms his wife was having were related to an STD.

Obviously he's wrong for cheating but I'm not sure how he could have mitigated the situation other than by confessing to cheating...which...wouldn't really make a lot of sense from his standpoint.

The obgyn and doctors trying to figure out what was happening asked the both specifically if either of them could possibly have any STDs. He lied to the docs while his unborn child was dying from his sexual infidelity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

What would he even say though? He probably didn't know he had the clap and it's not like he would have known the symptoms his wife was having were related to an STD.

Obviously he's wrong for cheating but I'm not sure how he could have mitigated the situation other than by confessing to cheating...which...wouldn't really make a lot of sense from his standpoint.

Chalmydia isnt "the clap", gonorrhea is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

What would he even say though? He probably didn't know he had the clap and it's not like he would have known the symptoms his wife was having were related to an STD.

Obviously he's wrong for cheating but I'm not sure how he could have mitigated the situation other than by confessing to cheating...which...wouldn't really make a lot of sense from his standpoint.

Chalmydia isnt "the clap", gonorrhea is.

+1. I would think people who think lying to docs while their unborn child dies and not want to "out" themselves would have their STDs straight.

[Anonymous]

This happened to my Mom's friend. She wasn't too close to her but was good friends with her friends.

This woman, her husband and teenaged daughter moved somewhere in SE Asia, maybe Thailand. After a few years, they move back to DC and they've 'adopted' a baby. Everyone thought it was weird to suddenly adopt when you have a teenager. The rumor mill was it was the daughter's baby (she would have been 12-13 when the baby was born).

But as it turns out, it was the DH's with his Thai mistress. The DW adopted it and raised it as her own. Last I heard she and DH were still together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

What would he even say though? He probably didn't know he had the clap and it's not like he would have known the symptoms his wife was having were related to an STD.

Obviously he's wrong for cheating but I'm not sure how he could have mitigated the situation other than by confessing to cheating...which...wouldn't really make a lot of sense from his standpoint.

Chalmydia isnt "the clap", gonorrhea is.

+1. I would think people who think lying to docs while their unborn child dies and not want to "out" themselves would have their STDs straight.

Could the child have been saved if the husband came clean sooner, so they knew what type of situation they were dealing with?

[Anonymous]

She chested, drained the bank account, kidnapped the children and moved in with his best friend. He hanged himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She chested, drained the bank account, kidnapped the children and moved in with his best friend. He hanged himself.

OMG. when? did this make the news?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She chested, drained the bank account, kidnapped the children and moved in with his best friend. He hanged himself.

So it looks like that marriage didn't recover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

That is absolutely horrific of that man. What a tragedy for that woman and her unborn baby .