what's the worst affair story you've heard of where the marriage recovered?

[Anonymous]

My sister had an affair with a person who was a Fed and reported to her husband, also a Fed. I guess it doesn't count because my sister divorced. But can you imagine having to go into work and see the guy who was screwing your wife? Affair Guy's office was magically moved into a corner of a drafty leaky basement sub room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW got stage 4 cervical cancer from an STD that DH passed along from his mistress. They worked it out and she beat the cancer, but I'm not sure the order of events.

Jesus. This wins the award.

[Anonymous]

Friend surprised her husband with a visit to his company apartment in city where he traveled weekly. The woman was there and had obviously been staying there regularly (clothes in drawers, closet, cosmetics in bathroom). Wife really had NO idea this was going on. The couple are now counselors for a Catholic marriage counseling program and have helped a lot of people get over affairs.

[Anonymous]

^This. I think recovery happens often in very religious communities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bill and Hillary

Yeah, that was bad all around and from every angle.

[Guerita32]

Anonymous wrote:x2. for context, I'm the DH who had an affair. It is something that I regret to this day, nearly 15 years later. My wife didn't deserve what I did and had every right to leave. I promised her I would never do it again and that I would make it up to her. I continue to try to do that. I am forever grateful that she didn't leave me.

Staying with me, giving me a chance to make up for what I did took far more strength than listening to the harpies who told her she should just leave.

How long was your affair?

[Anonymous]

Guerita32 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:x2. for context, I'm the DH who had an affair. It is something that I regret to this day, nearly 15 years later. My wife didn't deserve what I did and had every right to leave. I promised her I would never do it again and that I would make it up to her. I continue to try to do that. I am forever grateful that she didn't leave me.

Staying with me, giving me a chance to make up for what I did took far more strength than listening to the harpies who told her she should just leave.

How long was your affair?

And when did you start to regret it? 2 years out and I think my spouse still doesn't actually regret it.

[Anonymous]

I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

My business partner, married 4 kids, one special needs. Years long affair, he apparently promised to leave his wife if she left her husband. She did, he didn't. She went ballistic, told his wife everything.

He and wife are still together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

This is so tragic.

For the politician's wife who moved away and left the kids, even if the couple is back together, how could the kids forgive her desertion??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

Utterly tragic and horrifying. How did the truth come out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

Utterly tragic and horrifying. How did the truth come out?

The pregnant wife started to have "symptoms" and passed it off for a bit as pregnancy related. As time passed, she felt like something was terribly wrong. She went to the ob-gyn and they did tests, and the baby was not viable due to chlamydia that the baby and mom both got from dad. Baby was over 30 weeks and healthy up to that point. Dad said nothing. After testing confirmed Dad had it, he admitted it. I know the baby was stillborn and had catastrophic illness from the std.

She's a mess, as she should be. I don't think she will ever recover. He still is not remorseful. It's a case study in the hell humans foist upon their loved ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Guerita32 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:x2. for context, I'm the DH who had an affair. It is something that I regret to this day, nearly 15 years later. My wife didn't deserve what I did and had every right to leave. I promised her I would never do it again and that I would make it up to her. I continue to try to do that. I am forever grateful that she didn't leave me.

Staying with me, giving me a chance to make up for what I did took far more strength than listening to the harpies who told her she should just leave.

How long was your affair?

And when did you start to regret it? 2 years out and I think my spouse still doesn't actually regret it.

How long - about 6 weeks, give or take.

I don't want to give too many details but I didn't regret it right away. I believe I was harboring some resentment that I didn't even realize I had. Over time, I came to realize how much I would lose in my wife and children if it ever came out. Once I got to that place, guilt and shame began eating at me. Eventually, I did something that caused my wife to figure things out, years after the affair and after it had ended. Guilt and shame multiplied by a thousand as everyone knew our business and I wasn't sure if I would lose those things most important to me. I picked a tree just outside the wall of our backyard where I'd sit down and take care of things. I can still picture that tree in my mind very vividly today.

That's a place I don't ever want to go back to and don't recommend to anyone ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple that was pregnant. The husband cheated and gave his pregnant wife an STD.

The fetus died from the STD. She didn't know he was cheating and when she started show symptoms it was too late. His utterly scummy mouth stayed firmly shut when this was happening to his wife and unborn child. His fun time and penis outweighed the life of his unborn child and wife.

They are together in the loosest of terms. This happened recently and she's a broken shell of sadness and anger. He's in denial and a the most selfish human on the planet. It's a nightmare.

Utterly tragic and horrifying. How did the truth come out?

Why did the DH have sex with his wife? Most pregnant women won't make a big deal of the DH begs off.. and he was getting plenty elsewhere

[Anonymous]

My dear friend's husband had a child out of wedlock. He stayed with his wife, they continued to have kids of their own. He tried to be a father to the baby, but the other woman wanted all or none. She took the baby and moved across the country. Now he's a child support only father.