My son is delusional. Where does this arrogance come from?

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like you really hate your son. "Average"? Who decided that- you? Good for your son for not buying it.

Love my son. Average grades, average involvement, average SAT, sits on his phone most of the day.

When discussing his SAT, for example, he didn't study for it, and I told him according to the school report his score was slightly below average for his class at school. He was in complete denial and said it must be wrong and cited examples of a couple smart kids he knows that he claims did worse. Confirmation bias. How am I supposed to correct a teen in such crazy denial? Up is down is his world.

He might be average, ok. But please show some love. The way you talk about him is very, very cringeworthy.

Crazy denial? Maybe he's tired of you being so bitchy.

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Why is it so important to you to pop his bubble? That is what is weird about this post, frankly. Kids his age rarely perceive the world in realistic terms. Why would they? They are CHILDREN.

You need to concentrate on why this aggravates YOU so much. Because is sounds like something that should make you love him more, not less.

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Cringe factory made me laugh. Sounds immature for his age. Probably an insecure teen and he's just trying to project what he thinks is confidence and macho. Poor delivery.

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Anonymous wrote: Why is it so important to you to pop his bubble? That is what is weird about this post, frankly. Kids his age rarely perceive the world in realistic terms. Why would they? They are CHILDREN.

You need to concentrate on why this aggravates YOU so much. Because is sounds like something that should make you love him more, not less.

If someone is delusional about their abilities and stature, how will they know to improve? Do you offer your friend with bad breath a piece of gum?

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Anonymous wrote: Why is it so important to you to pop his bubble? That is what is weird about this post, frankly. Kids his age rarely perceive the world in realistic terms. Why would they? They are CHILDREN.

You need to concentrate on why this aggravates YOU so much. Because is sounds like something that should make you love him more, not less.

If someone is delusional about their abilities and stature, how will they know to improve? Do you offer your friend with bad breath a piece of gum?

Because there is a difference between being delusional and being 13. I don't offer someone a piece of gum if they just woke up 2 seconds ago and have stale breath. I wait for them to get out of bed and brush their teeth. Just like you need to wait for your son to grow up 2, 3, or 5 years. See the analogy?

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Anonymous wrote: Why is it so important to you to pop his bubble? That is what is weird about this post, frankly. Kids his age rarely perceive the world in realistic terms. Why would they? They are CHILDREN.

You need to concentrate on why this aggravates YOU so much. Because is sounds like something that should make you love him more, not less.

If someone is delusional about their abilities and stature, how will they know to improve? Do you offer your friend with bad breath a piece of gum?

Because there is a difference between being delusional and being 13. I don't offer someone a piece of gum if they just woke up 2 seconds ago and have stale breath. I wait for them to get out of bed and brush their teeth. Just like you need to wait for your son to grow up 2, 3, or 5 years. See the analogy?

So damn true.

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Anonymous wrote: Why is it so important to you to pop his bubble? That is what is weird about this post, frankly. Kids his age rarely perceive the world in realistic terms. Why would they? They are CHILDREN.

You need to concentrate on why this aggravates YOU so much. Because is sounds like something that should make you love him more, not less.

If someone is delusional about their abilities and stature, how will they know to improve? Do you offer your friend with bad breath a piece of gum?

Because there is a difference between being delusional and being 13. I don't offer someone a piece of gum if they just woke up 2 seconds ago and have stale breath. I wait for them to get out of bed and brush their teeth. Just like you need to wait for your son to grow up 2, 3, or 5 years. See the analogy?

OP's kid is clearly a high schooler. Junior or senior.

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Anonymous wrote: Why is it so important to you to pop his bubble? That is what is weird about this post, frankly. Kids his age rarely perceive the world in realistic terms. Why would they? They are CHILDREN.

You need to concentrate on why this aggravates YOU so much. Because is sounds like something that should make you love him more, not less.

Because...

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, maybe from you since you don't seem to even like your child?

It's ok to recognize when your kid is behaving in a way that isn't likeable or socially acceptable. Who else will help them?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, maybe from you since you don't seem to even like your child?

Exactly.

Probably a defense mechanism against a mom who seems to have it out for him. Get therapy, OP

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Anonymous wrote:I know on one hand you want to monitor his social media accounts, but on the other hand you need to detach and log out. Most adolescent boys are arrogant and intolerable and their social media posts are going to be 100% cringeworthy. He will get past this and you need to remember that this behavior is normal.

It's not just social media. He's in his own world, suspended from reality. Even comparing his friends' social media to his they do not do this. He solely is this cringe-y and try-hard. There are a few others in his grade that actually are supremely accomplished athletes, scholars, musicians, volunteers and even they don't act this way. How does he think his "accomplishments" warrant this braggadocio but they don't? And how do I get him to see this. I feel bad for him because he's so clueless.

Troll or real asshole of a parent?

I'm guessing OP is a classmate of the kid. But if OP is real - i do think your child needs some outside help. From what you've said your child may have a narcissistic personality disorder. A psychologist or psychiatrist might be in order. This is not normal behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:I know on one hand you want to monitor his social media accounts, but on the other hand you need to detach and log out. Most adolescent boys are arrogant and intolerable and their social media posts are going to be 100% cringeworthy. He will get past this and you need to remember that this behavior is normal.

It's not just social media. He's in his own world, suspended from reality. Even comparing his friends' social media to his they do not do this. He solely is this cringe-y and try-hard. There are a few others in his grade that actually are supremely accomplished athletes, scholars, musicians, volunteers and even they don't act this way. How does he think his "accomplishments" warrant this braggadocio but they don't? And how do I get him to see this. I feel bad for him because he's so clueless.

Troll or real asshole of a parent?

I certainly hope it's a troll. If not, OP, you are a piece of shit.

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Your son doesn't have autism.
Your son isn't bipolar or any other disorder.
Your son is like the vast majority of 17/18 year old boys I have met, all of whom grew up into great men.

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Anonymous wrote: Why is it so important to you to pop his bubble? That is what is weird about this post, frankly. Kids his age rarely perceive the world in realistic terms. Why would they? They are CHILDREN.

You need to concentrate on why this aggravates YOU so much. Because is sounds like something that should make you love him more, not less.

OP is projecting hi/her own shortcomings. He/she wanted the "perfect" child her son is probably more loved than OP sees, because OP's lens is clouded.

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Anonymous wrote:Your son doesn't have autism.
Your son isn't bipolar or any other disorder.
Your son is like the vast majority of 17/18 year old boys I have met, all of whom grew up into great men.

OP's son sounds nothing like my 17 year old son, who has always been reasonably socially astute. His friends are not like this either. Done some boneheaded things along the way, sure, but they try hard not to do anything that could invite mockery. I'm not clear on why people are getting down on the OP. I think it's a great idea to work with him on these issues before he goes off to college. I'm guessing a lot of you don't have high schoolers?

I also think everyone talking about their clueless DHs would feel some gratitude to a parent who realized their child had a self awareness problem and tried to help him wok on it.