My son is delusional. Where does this arrogance come from?

[Anonymous]

You sound like the kind of POS parents that therapists make their livelihood off of.

[Anonymous]

Mom needs to butt out and leave him alone. Let him make his own mistakes. The WORST thing a mom can do is try to crush the "arrogance" of a teenage male. That will do much more lasting damage than just leaving him alone.

[Anonymous]

Wow, you seem to really dislike your son. My son is only six so I guess I am not really qualified to comment but I can't imagine writing about my child in such a disdainful way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom needs to butt out and leave him alone. Let him make his own mistakes. The WORST thing a mom can do is try to crush the "arrogance" of a teenage male. That will do much more lasting damage than just leaving him alone.

Stop. I don't want to crush him, I want him to wake up. I can assume he's getting teased and kids are behind his back. I just want him to calm down. Relax. Another example is he wouldn't stop bragging about the fall team he was on, yet he rode the bench most of the season. Stars of the team didn't brag as much as him. I tried to explain modest and humbleness (and didn't even touch the fact that he was being a cringe factory) and he laughed it off like he's hot shit and knows better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you really hate your son. "Average"? Who decided that- you? Good for your son for not buying it.

Love my son. Average grades, average involvement, average SAT, sits on his phone most of the day.

When discussing his SAT, for example, he didn't study for it, and I told him according to the school report his score was slightly below average for his class at school. He was in complete denial and said it must be wrong and cited examples of a couple smart kids he knows that he claims did worse. Confirmation bias. How am I supposed to correct a teen in such crazy denial? Up is down is his world.

[Anonymous]

Read "Yes your teen is crazy" to get some perspective and kindly teach him some social skills. It is never polite to brag. Don't start from your obvious cringe of his behavior, take an attitude of trying to get him to stop eating with his mouth full. Same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Read "Yes your teen is crazy" to get some perspective and kindly teach him some social skills. It is never polite to brag. Don't start from your obvious cringe of his behavior, take an attitude of trying to get him to stop eating with his mouth full. Same thing.

Stop talking. Obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you really hate your son. "Average"? Who decided that- you? Good for your son for not buying it.

Love my son. Average grades, average involvement, average SAT, sits on his phone most of the day.

When discussing his SAT, for example, he didn't study for it, and I told him according to the school report his score was slightly below average for his class at school. He was in complete denial and said it must be wrong and cited examples of a couple smart kids he knows that he claims did worse. Confirmation bias. How am I supposed to correct a teen in such crazy denial? Up is down is his world.

Honestly, the kids I know who are like this all lean toward the autism spectrum. I know adults like this, too. They definitely miss obvious social cues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know on one hand you want to monitor his social media accounts, but on the other hand you need to detach and log out. Most adolescent boys are arrogant and intolerable and their social media posts are going to be 100% cringeworthy. He will get past this and you need to remember that this behavior is normal.

Absolutely not. Please intervene and let him know that he is coming across jerky. He will be shunned in college by his peers otherwise.

[Anonymous]

You may be right and you may be a hip mom, but trust me, to him you're old and out of touch and he's never go to take cues from you. Get a cool peer to call him out. Sounds like nobody's taught him how to play it cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you really hate your son. "Average"? Who decided that- you? Good for your son for not buying it.

Love my son. Average grades, average involvement, average SAT, sits on his phone most of the day.

When discussing his SAT, for example, he didn't study for it, and I told him according to the school report his score was slightly below average for his class at school. He was in complete denial and said it must be wrong and cited examples of a couple smart kids he knows that he claims did worse. Confirmation bias. How am I supposed to correct a teen in such crazy denial? Up is down is his world.

He might be average, ok. But please show some love. The way you talk about him is very, very cringeworthy.

[Anonymous]

I have a weird question. Does he speak at an inappropriately loud volume in public? Does he tend to walk up to a group of peers and start talking loudly about a topic that was not something they were already talking about? I know 3 kids like this and they all have Asperger's/HFA. You might want to have him evaluated by a psychologist to see if there is a therapy that will help him exercise some correct social skills.

[Anonymous]

This behavior can be a sign of bipolar disorder, which often emerges in the teens. It is what you describe -- a delusional sense of being set apart and no ability to perceive how others see you. Have him see a psychologist.

[Anonymous]

Not autism, I'd say:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overconfidence_effect

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_intelligence

[Anonymous]

Wow, maybe from you since you don't seem to even like your child?