decent women my own age to date don't exist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it creepy that when you talk about women in their 40's, you appropriate refer to them as "women" yet when you start talking about the 20-something, you refer to her as a "girl".

+1

[Anonymous]

I am a woman in my late 40ties and have the same complaints about dating men my age. Many have let themselves go, gained weight, have bellies. The guys have baggage and have a sour attitude toward life.

I mostly date men in their early to mid thirties and currently have a boyfriend who is 30. We probably won't last since he wants kids and I am done with my two but enjoy each other's company and the sex is amazing.

I say go for it with the 20-something!

[Anonymous]

Awesome and good looking woman in her 40s here. I love my dog and my wine and wouldn't be interested in someone so inflexible that he didn't approve of either!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know I'm going to get hateful comments about this but Just feel like expressing this out loud....

I'm a man in my mid-40s. I've been divorced for about 6 years now. The first year after the divorce I didn't date but when I did start to date I met a few nice women in their mid-to-late 30s but it didn't work out. Either one or both of us were busy with jobs or my job was relocating me and it was too early in the relationship for either of us to upend things. As I moved into my mid-40s I've noticed the women in their mid-late 30 are less interested but I've met a couple in their 20s. I've been worried about long-term relationships with someone that much younger but I simply don't see any viable women that are in their 40s. Part of the reason is the women in their 40s have less optimistic attitudes. They just act grumpy and complain about stuff all the time. A lot of them have let themselves go even beyond normal aging. I'm also noticing that a lot of women in their 40 who are divorced really like to drink as their pass time. The whole lifestyle doesn't fit for me. I'm still active and optimistic and they appear to have settled into a routine that involves a pet and their favorite wine (I don't drink).

It feels like there is a dearth of viable long term female 40 something-ish women who can potentially make good long-term partner/wife.

Has anyone else out there experienced the same issue?

There is one girl that is in her 20s and she has been hinting that she would like to be exclusive (hinting shes interested in marriage, etc.) and I'm thinking that maybe I should forget what other people would think and just go for it.

I have to admit, I agree with the OP. I am in my early 50's and have never been married and not kids so I may be in a different space. I went to a function for work the other day, for women in my age group. Signed up online so no one knew who I was. When I got to the meeting place and was sitting waiting for folks to arrive I was shocked at who showed up. Grumpy old bags who looked like they hadn't seen the inside of a gym or running shoes in a decade. They didn't know I was supposed to be with the group so I just sat and listened as they were talking among themselves. WOW...was that eye opening. Angry, grumpy and turns out most of them were in about mid 40's when one of them talked about their birthday coming up and the other chimed in. I let them all go into the place for dinner and I went home. What is up with my people;women? Is that what we turn into after a divorce or two and raising kids? What is the point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know I'm going to get hateful comments about this but Just feel like expressing this out loud....

I'm a man in my mid-40s. I've been divorced for about 6 years now. The first year after the divorce I didn't date but when I did start to date I met a few nice women in their mid-to-late 30s but it didn't work out. Either one or both of us were busy with jobs or my job was relocating me and it was too early in the relationship for either of us to upend things. As I moved into my mid-40s I've noticed the women in their mid-late 30 are less interested but I've met a couple in their 20s. I've been worried about long-term relationships with someone that much younger but I simply don't see any viable women that are in their 40s. Part of the reason is the women in their 40s have less optimistic attitudes. They just act grumpy and complain about stuff all the time. A lot of them have let themselves go even beyond normal aging. I'm also noticing that a lot of women in their 40 who are divorced really like to drink as their pass time. The whole lifestyle doesn't fit for me. I'm still active and optimistic and they appear to have settled into a routine that involves a pet and their favorite wine (I don't drink).

It feels like there is a dearth of viable long term female 40 something-ish women who can potentially make good long-term partner/wife.

Has anyone else out there experienced the same issue?

There is one girl that is in her 20s and she has been hinting that she would like to be exclusive (hinting shes interested in marriage, etc.) and I'm thinking that maybe I should forget what other people would think and just go for it.

I have to admit, I agree with the OP. I am in my early 50's and have never been married and not kids so I may be in a different space. I went to a function for work the other day, for women in my age group. Signed up online so no one knew who I was. When I got to the meeting place and was sitting waiting for folks to arrive I was shocked at who showed up. Grumpy old bags who looked like they hadn't seen the inside of a gym or running shoes in a decade. They didn't know I was supposed to be with the group so I just sat and listened as they were talking among themselves. WOW...was that eye opening. Angry, grumpy and turns out most of them were in about mid 40's when one of them talked about their birthday coming up and the other chimed in. I let them all go into the place for dinner and I went home. What is up with my people;women? Is that what we turn into after a divorce or two and raising kids? What is the point?

Perhaps it is what the handful of women who you observed turned into. A small sampling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know I'm going to get hateful comments about this but Just feel like expressing this out loud....

I'm a man in my mid-40s. I've been divorced for about 6 years now. The first year after the divorce I didn't date but when I did start to date I met a few nice women in their mid-to-late 30s but it didn't work out. Either one or both of us were busy with jobs or my job was relocating me and it was too early in the relationship for either of us to upend things. As I moved into my mid-40s I've noticed the women in their mid-late 30 are less interested but I've met a couple in their 20s. I've been worried about long-term relationships with someone that much younger but I simply don't see any viable women that are in their 40s. Part of the reason is the women in their 40s have less optimistic attitudes. They just act grumpy and complain about stuff all the time. A lot of them have let themselves go even beyond normal aging. I'm also noticing that a lot of women in their 40 who are divorced really like to drink as their pass time. The whole lifestyle doesn't fit for me. I'm still active and optimistic and they appear to have settled into a routine that involves a pet and their favorite wine (I don't drink).

It feels like there is a dearth of viable long term female 40 something-ish women who can potentially make good long-term partner/wife.

Has anyone else out there experienced the same issue?

There is one girl that is in her 20s and she has been hinting that she would like to be exclusive (hinting shes interested in marriage, etc.) and I'm thinking that maybe I should forget what other people would think and just go for it.

I have to admit, I agree with the OP. I am in my early 50's and have never been married and not kids so I may be in a different space. I went to a function for work the other day, for women in my age group. Signed up online so no one knew who I was. When I got to the meeting place and was sitting waiting for folks to arrive I was shocked at who showed up. Grumpy old bags who looked like they hadn't seen the inside of a gym or running shoes in a decade. They didn't know I was supposed to be with the group so I just sat and listened as they were talking among themselves. WOW...was that eye opening. Angry, grumpy and turns out most of them were in about mid 40's when one of them talked about their birthday coming up and the other chimed in. I let them all go into the place for dinner and I went home. What is up with my people;women? Is that what we turn into after a divorce or two and raising kids? What is the point?

Perhaps it is what the handful of women who you observed turned into. A small sampling.

This isn't the first time. I have been invited to stuff in my neighborhood(book club) and same thing. Angry, bitter women complaining about how the choices they made didn't work out and want to blame the world. I didn't stay in the book club. I see it at the dog park too. Meet women who are divorced/divorcing who complain about the world and the dog cause it was the husbands idea. Don't want to walk the dog so just sit in the dog park with the dog and bitch.

[Anonymous]

Have sex with the women in their twenties and date the older women..problem solved

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Remember that your 20 something girlfriend who wants to get married, probably will want babies too. Do you?

This. Have a cousin over 50 years old with two toddlers and a child in college. Much younger wife is very family oriented and a good person. However, for her to raise two young children while he travels for work etc. and be available to be part of his interest she stays at home, they have someone clean the house and possibly a part-time sitter. I don't think it would have worked if he wasn't willing to have more kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know I'm going to get hateful comments about this but Just feel like expressing this out loud....

I'm a man in my mid-40s. I've been divorced for about 6 years now. The first year after the divorce I didn't date but when I did start to date I met a few nice women in their mid-to-late 30s but it didn't work out. Either one or both of us were busy with jobs or my job was relocating me and it was too early in the relationship for either of us to upend things. As I moved into my mid-40s I've noticed the women in their mid-late 30 are less interested but I've met a couple in their 20s. I've been worried about long-term relationships with someone that much younger but I simply don't see any viable women that are in their 40s. Part of the reason is the women in their 40s have less optimistic attitudes. They just act grumpy and complain about stuff all the time. A lot of them have let themselves go even beyond normal aging. I'm also noticing that a lot of women in their 40 who are divorced really like to drink as their pass time. The whole lifestyle doesn't fit for me. I'm still active and optimistic and they appear to have settled into a routine that involves a pet and their favorite wine (I don't drink).

It feels like there is a dearth of viable long term female 40 something-ish women who can potentially make good long-term partner/wife.

Has anyone else out there experienced the same issue?

There is one girl that is in her 20s and she has been hinting that she would like to be exclusive (hinting shes interested in marriage, etc.) and I'm thinking that maybe I should forget what other people would think and just go for it.

I have to admit, I agree with the OP. I am in my early 50's and have never been married and not kids so I may be in a different space. I went to a function for work the other day, for women in my age group. Signed up online so no one knew who I was. When I got to the meeting place and was sitting waiting for folks to arrive I was shocked at who showed up. Grumpy old bags who looked like they hadn't seen the inside of a gym or running shoes in a decade. They didn't know I was supposed to be with the group so I just sat and listened as they were talking among themselves. WOW...was that eye opening. Angry, grumpy and turns out most of them were in about mid 40's when one of them talked about their birthday coming up and the other chimed in. I let them all go into the place for dinner and I went home. What is up with my people;women? Is that what we turn into after a divorce or two and raising kids? What is the point?

Perhaps it is what the handful of women who you observed turned into. A small sampling.

This isn't the first time. I have been invited to stuff in my neighborhood(book club) and same thing. Angry, bitter women complaining about how the choices they made didn't work out and want to blame the world. I didn't stay in the book club. I see it at the dog park too. Meet women who are divorced/divorcing who complain about the world and the dog cause it was the husbands idea. Don't want to walk the dog so just sit in the dog park with the dog and bitch.

Ooh I okay. I guess you're right then, all women who are over 40 let themselves go and are miserable. Except for you of course.

[Anonymous]

Men are emotionally less mature than women their age, so they pick younger women.

[Anonymous]

Any 20-something you meet now will eventually be a 40-something. So if 40-somethings as a group tend to turn you off, I'd think twice about making a long-term commitment to anyone. Or make sure you have a strong pre-nip to cover your second divorce.

[Anonymous]

I'm 41 and have been considering a divorce but am afraid all the men my age will only want someone younger than me.

[Anonymous]

I concur!
Go for it OP, no need to explain yourself to us! But please don't knock us 40 something year old women down while you are at it!

[Anonymous]

Men in their 40s date and may women in their late 20s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 41 and have been considering a divorce but am afraid all the men my age will only want someone younger than me.

You go after the 70+ crowd