Is it bad to want a specific kind of engagement ring?

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And people say DCUM posters aren't kind. Here we are, providing OP with all these tips and ideas for better trolling. We're all such givers.

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You've been married a year and still talking him having to tell you what he can afford? Why don't you know more about your household's financial situation?

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Anonymous wrote:This is a bad sign. If you're in love and compatible you should be able to live happily
ever after even with a $50 ring. I've been married for 15 years and built a family and home and life together and amazingly only have a half carat ring.

If size is so important to you for some outward reason, though, then get a fake. They're very good now. Moissanite is nice.

+1
I don't have a diamond at all because I find the mining for diamonds to be repulsive. I still love my husband the same.

Get a fake ring if it's "just for your sisters"

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I smell a troll. Let's stop feeding it and let this thread die.

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Anonymous wrote:10k?? Maybe for a yellow tinged diamond with visible inclusions.

But if you want it, buy it yourself. There's nothing wrong with that. You're joining your money as you marry.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:If I were this troll, I think I'd claim to be Argentine. It has a certain mystique and folks don't know a lot about it.

Excellent suggestion!

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Of course it is OK to want something. Expecting or demanding is another matter.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you had no money a year ago yet you expect a $10K ring?

He's not your fiancé. He's your husband. You can't just be married for immigration and not married in the rest of your life--that's called fraud.

Your husband is a fool and would be better off putting any money into retirement savings or paying off the credit cards he's probably already run up trying to please you.

We ARE married. He can't give me a ring as [b]a gesture of his love? He felt really badly about not having cash on hand to do it before we married.

Sure, he can give you something as a gesture of his love, but it's YOU saying that it has to be $10,000.00 worth of love.
See the problem yet?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you had no money a year ago yet you expect a $10K ring?

He's not your fiancé. He's your husband. You can't just be married for immigration and not married in the rest of your life--that's called fraud.

Your husband is a fool and would be better off putting any money into retirement savings or paying off the credit cards he's probably already run up trying to please you.

We ARE married. He can't give me a ring as [b]a gesture of his love? He felt really badly about not having cash on hand to do it before we married.

Sure, he can give you something as a gesture of his love, but it's YOU saying that it has to be $10,000.00 worth of love.
See the problem yet?

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I wouldn't put any pressure on him to get you your dream ring.

He probably feels a tad guilty that he cannot afford the perfect ring for you at this time.

Accept what he can afford NOW & be grateful that you have a good man for life.

Things take time.
Be patient and he will get you the ring you so desire one day.

These things do take time however!

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I don't see a problem with you wanting an expensive engagement ring. As long you can work and buy it for yourself, I say go for it. The sky is the limit. You can even go for a $50k ring, it all depends on how many hours you are willing to work to earn the money needed to buy it. It's a simple math, your husband gives you the amount he can afford you subtract it from the actual cost of the desired ring and you do the remaining math on how many hours need to work to pay the rest. Problem solved.
You are welcome.

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Here's some perspective, OP. Plenty of people end up married to spouses which aren't the "perfect fit", or not even a good fit. Plenty also find out that their spouses are not good people. You said that he is both perfect for you, and wonderful in general. If that is true, that is worth more than any ring. I'll buy you the ring, if I get him. LOL.

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Wanting a specific size that you know your husband can't afford, when he has gone out of his way to please you so far, is unreasonable. He has said he will upgrade it, which is more than generous. Either accept that, or wait until he can afford it several years down the line.

Or, stop being a princess, and take into the account the thousands of dollars your immigration paperwork cost. Knock that off the "price" if you will.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't agree with your expectations in this scenario. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having a style preference and I think it's good for couples to talk about what kind of style ring the woman would want. I have discussed it with my BF! However if your BF has told you he can't afford what you want, I think you should give in. I know I would. I love my BF dearly and for me, the carat and specific cut isn't as important as the commitment it symbolizes. A smaller ring can be just as beautiful. It makes you sound very materialistic and selfish, to be honest.

OP here. I am not materialistic. I already eloped with him on short notice because he proposed and said he could not afford to get me a ring or have a nice wedding. He promised in a year or so, he'd give me a nice ring as a symbol of his love and we'd have a subsequent "wedding party" for our family and friends. I just thought that after waiting 2 years, he'd be able to get me the ring of my dreams.

He IS offering you a nice ring. Despite what DCUM would lead you to believe, not everyone has huge rings.

Do you not have any money? All your money is (or should be) joint now. Why don't you contribute? Or why didn't you wait? What was the rush for immigration, unless you were here illegally (or about to be?)

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you had no money a year ago yet you expect a $10K ring?

He's not your fiancé. He's your husband. You can't just be married for immigration and not married in the rest of your life--that's called fraud.

Your husband is a fool and would be better off putting any money into retirement savings or paying off the credit cards he's probably already run up trying to please you.

We ARE married. He can't give me a ring as a gesture of his love? He felt really badly about not having cash on hand to do it before we married.

OMG, is this tuna girl again?? Because Jeff said she also started troll threads about wanting expensive diamond rings from her fiancé, and we all know she isn't American ...