Where do you meet men @ 35?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The day room after jello, but before shuffleboard.

:wink

Want a gummer?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: If anything, its vaguely amazing to me that everyone managed to find someone before online dating..

Really? The people I know, myself included, who met in person met because they had mutual friends, which indicates mutual interests and values (ie, a groupg who does a lot of drugs or a bible study group), or met in college or grad school (common interest/major or activities), or while participating in hobbies, like running clubs or races. Even the guys I dated that I met at a bar had mutual interests, because they were there to hear a band or a certain type of music, etc.

For example. I met my husband via a mutual friend, and I met the mutual friend at a punk club.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
A friend always ends up doing something interesting with her dates - sailing, watching a play, pottery etc. She never just meets for dinner/bar etc on the first date. This allows her not to waste her time because she still gets to enjoy the activity/outing aspect of the date, even if the company is a bust.

Yeah, who doesn't love getting free shit out of dating?

I would never go on a boat with someone I don't know! You cant talk or get to know a person during a play, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where you work is the best place to meet people.

Don't shit where you eat! Also, every man in my office is gay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where you work is the best place to meet people.

Don't shit where you eat! Also, every man in my office is gay.

100% correct

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Yaaas! When I single, I saved so much on my grocery bill. Dinner was always taken care of at the latest hot restaurant. I'm writing this now as I'm eating my kids' lunch leftovers, waiting for pizza guy to come. Sigh. Have fun dating and being single!

I was being very sarcastic, but thanks for proving my point. Men should NEVER spend more than $40 on a date.

All first dates should be Dutch. Even if it is just a cup of coffee.

Sorry as a male I feel like a schmuck if I asked someone out and expected them to pay, first date or last date.

[LoveLiveMusicDad]

Okay, I'm going to piss some people off here, but this is a numbers game. You need to be competed for not compete for someone's attention. As such, do things that put the averages in your favor.

If you want a target rich environment, get to Friday night concerts at the Nats games, trivia nights at area bars. Play kickball in a co-ed league or learn to country line dance (at Nicks in Alexandria). Beer tastings and BBQ fests bring 2x your demo of men than will winery tours, a cooking class or pottery.

Try to focus on learning something new, seeing a new musical act or learning how to keep score at a baseball game. This takes all the pressure of meeting someone.

And when you do get talking to men, be interested, not interesting. Ask them about what their best moments of the year. They will totally brighten and you get to learn something new. Go get em!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Yaaas! When I single, I saved so much on my grocery bill. Dinner was always taken care of at the latest hot restaurant. I'm writing this now as I'm eating my kids' lunch leftovers, waiting for pizza guy to come. Sigh. Have fun dating and being single!

I was being very sarcastic, but thanks for proving my point. Men should NEVER spend more than $40 on a date.

All first dates should be Dutch. Even if it is just a cup of coffee.

Sorry as a male I feel like a schmuck if I asked someone out and expected them to pay, first date or last date.

This. Who ever asks (invites) the other should pay, male or female

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
A friend always ends up doing something interesting with her dates - sailing, watching a play, pottery etc. She never just meets for dinner/bar etc on the first date. This allows her not to waste her time because she still gets to enjoy the activity/outing aspect of the date, even if the company is a bust.

Yeah, who doesn't love getting free shit out of dating?

I would never go on a boat with someone I don't know! You cant talk or get to know a person during a play, either.

Woman here who actively online-dated for a year here. "Activity" dates with someone you don't have personal references for/met online/haven't already been on 3 dates with are a terrible idea. Get a drink, or a cup of coffee, but don't agree to go on a multi-hour hike or multi-course tasting menu until you're reasonably sure a) the person is sane and b) you will enjoy their company for that period of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about a neighbor?

+1

[Anonymous]

LoveLiveMusicDad wrote:Okay, I'm going to piss some people off here, but this is a numbers game. You need to be competed for not compete for someone's attention. As such, do things that put the averages in your favor.

If you want a target rich environment, get to Friday night concerts at the Nats games, trivia nights at area bars. Play kickball in a co-ed league or learn to country line dance (at Nicks in Alexandria). Beer tastings and BBQ fests bring 2x your demo of men than will winery tours, a cooking class or pottery.

Try to focus on learning something new, seeing a new musical act or learning how to keep score at a baseball game. This takes all the pressure of meeting someone.

And when you do get talking to men, be interested, not interesting. Ask them about what their best moments of the year. They will totally brighten and you get to learn something new. Go get em!

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
This. Who ever asks (invites) the other should pay, male or female

Complete bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
A friend always ends up doing something interesting with her dates - sailing, watching a play, pottery etc. She never just meets for dinner/bar etc on the first date. This allows her not to waste her time because she still gets to enjoy the activity/outing aspect of the date, even if the company is a bust.

Yeah, who doesn't love getting free shit out of dating?

I would never go on a boat with someone I don't know! You cant talk or get to know a person during a play, either.

Woman here who actively online-dated for a year here. "Activity" dates with someone you don't have personal references for/met online/haven't already been on 3 dates with are a terrible idea. Get a drink, or a cup of coffee, but don't agree to go on a multi-hour hike or multi-course tasting menu until you're reasonably sure a) the person is sane and b) you will enjoy their company for that period of time.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This. Who ever asks (invites) the other should pay, male or female

Complete bullshit.

+ 1. Share the risk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: If anything, its vaguely amazing to me that everyone managed to find someone before online dating..

Really? The people I know, myself included, who met in person met because they had mutual friends, which indicates mutual interests and values (ie, a groupg who does a lot of drugs or a bible study group), or met in college or grad school (common interest/major or activities), or while participating in hobbies, like running clubs or races. Even the guys I dated that I met at a bar had mutual interests, because they were there to hear a band or a certain type of music, etc.

For example. I met my husband via a mutual friend, and I met the mutual friend at a punk club.

Easier to do in your 20s.